Emotional sensitivity and the Golden Light protection method

Being sensitive isn’t what it is cracked up to be, I can assure you.

In fact, most of the time, being sensitive is more of a curse than a blessing.

You see, I was always a sensitive person even from a young age. I expressed emotion a lot, whether it was tears of sadness, or joy.

Little did I know that I was also attracting other peoples energys towards me, calling it my own…. That will be a lesson that I would finally discover later in my life.

Then something happened.

I began to grow up

I revised for my exams, and my sensitivity began to turn against me!

It was probably due to the stress…

It first began with sleep. That began to suffer. I soon found myself having later and later nights.

Once upon a time, I would be in bed by 10’ish. Now, in college, I as going to bed as late as 12! (and when doing your A-levels, that is never a good idea).

On top of that, I would also wake up at around 7 in the morning, feeling groggy, and trudging down to the canteen to have my breakfast.

Boy, was I so wazzed out in the mornings.

This would begin my insomnia, which would take another decade and a half for me to have a remote grip on…

Talk about an uphill battle!

Then, I went to work for the first time in my life after I left college, and my sensitivity took a dark turn…

No longer was it about joy, but now discipline. I had to focus and be attentive. I had to be able to meet deadlines.

I was helping customer queries on the phone in a busy environment, which is hard even for a very logical person to deal with.

This would come with obvious mental consequences

The next would be concentration, and then memory. I soon found myself forgetting even the smallest things….this made my sleep even worse, and I began finding myself withdrawing more and more.

I became irrationally bitter and angry, for almost no reason. And of course, I was in an work environment, so I couldn’t lash out at anyone.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Fast forward 10 years, and I am well and truly involved in the spiritual journey.

I meditate on a regular basis, and I try to develop love wherever possible. I was learning about the merchanics of the soul, and I was having a few out-of-body experiences.

But I still felt peoples energy’s.

And that’s a problem!

What I hadn’t realised, was that due to my emotional sensitivity, I had very thin-walls

My subconscious was easily manipulatable

This meant that I would pick up on peoples energys more quickly than other people.

Like anything in life, having a thin-walled subconscious can be both a good and a bad thing…

On the plus side, it can be a great thing, because once you have leant to use your tool, life can become more simpler and  you are able to feel emotion more easily and effortlessly.

Plus you can manifest change that little bit quicker.

It could also be argued that you could remote view and remote influence more effectively as well. (but that topic will be for another day;-). Or to put it another way, you become more proficient with your psychic abilities.

The bad news is, that if you don’t understand the subconscious, you will be buffeted around by other peoples energetics.

And that’s not good if you don’t know yourself!

You will feel like you are in hell, so please pay attention to this article, as you could benefit tremendously from it.

Because until I discovered my subconscious, I was going through that hell.

I was constantly emotional, which meant that I couldn’t focus easily either at work or at home.

This led to developing addictions.

This was until I discovered the Golden Light Protection method.

And guess what?

This changed everything

Think of the golden shield as a steering wheel of a car…

You can have the best car in the world, but if you even attempt to steer the car using the original knob (what the wheel sits on top of), you will find it hard going turning that metal cylinder.

It will rub and hurt your hand. It may even cause bleeding, especially at top speed!

Add a nice leather steering wheel, and you’ve got options.

Not only are your hands protected, but you have a greater degree of accuracy wherever you wish to drive (and leather always feels nice to touch;-).

That is how good the Golden Light is.

It’s a simple exercise, and can work with anyone, but especially those who can feel emotions very easily.

The Golden Light protection is a method I got from Gerald O’Donnell, so all credit goes to him. And I now use it as frequently as I can to help stop the negative thoughts of others (and sometimes myself) influencing my inner love and peace.

Developing your Golden Light has the following benefits to you.

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-It allows you to keep your calm when there is a lot of negativity around.

-It keeps you slightly centred/grounded, so you can think more clearly.

-You will open up your Heart Chakra, which will release more Oxytocin into your blood, which has many health benefits (and is also great for sports performance)

-It stops you from being angry, allowing you to focus on your goals and becoming more productive.

-This in turn helps you with your job, your family and even your friends, which means that you can have more fun and happy times with them.

Creating and maintaining the Golden Light is is not as difficult as it sounds, and is pretty simple to maintain.

1. To start, just take a few moments to become mindful and attentive to this moment. Take a few deep breaths and feel yourself becoming mindful, the purpose being to clear your mind and be grounded.

2. Well you feel mentally clear and very relaxed, close your eyes and imagine golden light about the size of an egg that can cover your body swirling around you in a clockwise direction.

3. Imagine this turning into a shield covering you from head to toe, and being dazzled by it golden light, as it swirls around you quicker and faster than ever before. By now, you should be able to feel your Heart Chakra opening up and feel love encompass your body.

4. Try to keep this visualization up for a few minutes, until you feel very relaxed, peace and love, and then open your eyes.

You are essentially good to go!

Every-time you feel stiffled emotionally, or you can feel the negativity of others, just quickly visualize golden threads whizzing around your body at top speed, (You can do this with your eyes open if you want) filling you up with love and peace. (It goes without saying, but don’t try this in a moving vehicle, for obvious health and safety reasons)

Needless to say that when I did this, my emotions calmed down, and I began to feel almost empowered over my emotional state.

No longer was I going to be controlled by the emotions of other people, I was going to protect myself against that.

Combining this with mindfulness meditation, I found helped me also regulate my emotional control, which was benefited by the Golden Light. If you do find that you are using your shield a lot, then it may benefit you to practice meditating on a regular basis.

Meditation can be easy for some, not so easy for others. If you do find meditating difficult, I do recommend that you check out the ARVARI courses, which not only helps you meditate, but also helps you do other great stuff with your minds eye, such as increasing your intuition. To find out more details on the ARVARI course, please click here.

Practice the Golden Light protection method as many times as you like, and let me know how you get on with it.

Till next time,

Julian.

P.S. Using Golden Light to ward of negative energys to your aura is a great way to keeping yourself calm and re-focuses your energies without being too ungrounded and emotionally lost.

Creating a shield of Golden Light is not only easy to do, but has multiple health benefits, especially if you are emotionally sensitive.

Once you can get into a routine into maintaining this Golden Light when you feel emotionally exhausted not only wards of negative energy, but you will also feel peace and love and become more focused, which means you can lead a more abundant and happier lifestyle.

Combine this with meditation, and you have a great effective power-tool to use wherever you go.

To find out about other ways for meditation and to check out the ARVARI courses, please click here.

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Insomnia, Meditation, and an Intuition-booster!

Can I tell you what really pisses me off?

Being in bed, half asleep, on Monday morning, feeling crap, and barely having had 5 hours of sleep due to insomnia.

I hate insomnia.

It’s caused some of the worst problems of my life to happen. Almost too effortlessly.

Dragging your heavy-ass out of bed,  wacking on the cold shower just to wake up your dumbass brain is bad enough.

Then you have to quickly prepare yourself by putting on some clothes and then walking to your car while it is raining outside.

You’re essentially a zombie.

You get in the car, and do your usual gratitude affirmations, in a pathetic attempt at trying to force the world to be a more merciful place…

For a while, it almost works, but then you step into the office and all hell breaks loose….and all you wanted was an extra 2 hours in bed..

Thank god for mindfulness!

Thank god for the ability to walk to my car in my morning break, and actually zone out for a few minutes, so I can actually feel the skin on my body for the first time of the day.

At times, I don’t really care for the benefits of mindfulness. Whilst its good to know, I don’t give a crap. You wanna know why?

All I want is to feel alive!

I want a reason to live, and mindfulness does just that. I want to feel that little burst of energy in my head, that almost intuitively says that life is meant to be happy.

I want to feel great, albeit for a measly second, so that I don’t feel like running out of the office like a headless chicken at the first sign of trouble…

I want my life to mean something, and that is why I love mindfulness. I don’t want to walk around on autopilot, or even worse, like a zombie.

I want to feel like sunshine.

It’s like being given a key to a brand new sports-car.

All it takes is a bit of mental effort on your part, and boom, you are inside of a little piece of heaven.

It has gadgets and fantastic leather seats. It allows you to feel really safe, warm and comfortable. Heck, it has even got a nice little drinks cabinet, so you can enjoy some of that refreshing sports drink which makes you feel alive and shine.

The world is an awesome place again;-)

For what it is worth, mindfulness is a great way to bring some zest back into your life, get some mental energy back, all by taking up just a few short minutes. And I’m not talking about sitting down with your legs crossed (unless you’re a pro).

I’m talking about making a weird, but essential, daily commitment to actually putting your body to rest, and deliberately tuning out.

Doing this on a regular basis kicks some serious ass, and your brain will love you for it!

But do you want to know what’s even better? Combining it with a second exercise to super charge your intuition.

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This is the first time I’ve ever written this, so pay close attention:

Mindfulness on its own = great.

Mindfulness + Oneness = Seriously awesome intuition!

Wanna know why?

When you become mindful, your brainwaves begin to reduce the electrical activity, allowing you to be in the mid to deep alpha range (borderline theta). This is also the range for psychic ability.

All you do, therefore, is become mindful and then when the timing is right, become at, ‘one’ with everything.

It sounds weired (I know) but let me explain in more detail, so you get to learn this awesome variation.

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First, the mindfulness bit

1. Sit down or lie down and feel your heartbeat.

2. Learn to feel the beating of your heart, and when your imagination dies down, transfer your attention to your breathing, or the outside noise.

3. As you become more relaxed, just notice any images you have, and let them pass you by.

4. After a short while, you will feel very mindful, and will even feel energy flowing into your stomach area. You will have opened your Solar Plexus Chakra (non-physical vortex).

5. Keep this up, until you feel little energy bursts in your mind, which will be your cue for step 2

And now the oneness bit (step 2)

6. After being mindful for a while, and increasing mental energy, learn to shift your attention from the noise (breathing or outside) to the blackness of your closed eyelids.

7. This takes a bit of time to get used to, but imagine you are one with the blackness. See the blackness as a part of your EGO, as something that is with your body, just as your arms and legs are. Something that you could move.

And of course, we are not just talking about any part of the balckness, but the whole lot, so you may need to use your peripheral vision while doing this.

8. Done correctly and after a short while, you may feel a deep love emanate from your Heart. What is actually happening, is that you are opening up your Heart Chakra, and feeling that, ‘connectedness’ to the multiverse.

By doing this on a regular basis will ensure that you not only improve your mindfulness skills, but also increase your intuition as well.

And this intuition will go wherever you go. You can even begin to test it, to see how well something is before you have seen it.

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Lets say, for example, you are trying to find a missing dollar, and you have dropped it somewhere.

You could ask yourself if you will find it in the bedroom if you go searching for it. Notice the Heart area when you ask this question. If you feel little love, or no love at all, there is a high chance that the missing dollar is not in the bedroom.

On the other hand, if you feel a decent chunk of love pouring from your Heart, there is a good chance that you will find this missing dollar.

I recently had an experience of this.

I have recently developed a stupid habit of putting all of my loose change on one of my shelves. After each weekend, I would pour loads of small change, which included 10p’s and 20p’s onto my shelf. Needless to say, it looks like one of those coin games in a casino.

I needed to find a quick £1 coin, so I was moving the coins left and right.

Couldn’t find one.

I then began to use my intuition. I simply said to myself, that I will find a £1 coin. As soon as I did this, I could feel love emanating from my Heart Chakra, which was an indication to me that I was searching in the right place.

Lo and behold, I found one. Needless to say, I felt quite excited. And the other good news, my faith had increased;-)

By practising these two exercises side-by-side will not only allow you to become better at practising mindfulness and seeing the oneness with your eyes closed, but will also allow you to develop your intuition very quickly as well, which means that you can develop your 6th sense which will help you in your daily life.

Developing your intuition while practising mindfulness can be a great way of improving other aspects of your life. However, if you find that mindfulness in and of itself is something that you find difficult to achieve, there is another way you can increase your intuition.

Gerald O’Donnell has produced 2 courses which allows you to listen with your ears to guided instructions with relaxing music, which can also improve your intuition. For more details on the ARVARI courses including my review, please click here.

Till next time

Julian

P.S. Combining oneness and mindfulness is a great way of improving your intuitive ability. Not only will it allow you to become mindful relatively quickly, it will also allow you to develop your gut instinct as well.

However, mindfulness isn’t for everyone, and sometimes you will struggle to quieten your inner chatter. You may need to be helped to become relaxed. The ARVARI courses can be a great way in order for you to become relaxed quickly. To find out more details, please click here.

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Struggle with Mindfulness? Here’s 5 steps to get you started!

Imagine reading about the benefits of meditation, and wanting to give it a try.

You have heard that it can do wonders for your health, maybe even reduce the effects of ageing, and wanted to give it a shot.

Maybe you just wanted to have a way to reclaim your sanity after that dreadful day at work…

Who knows…

Now imagine trying to sit down, closing your eyes, and trying to find a way to be present without much luck!

You try to focus and calm you mind down. Your mind doesn’t listen…

Your mind wanders from left to right!

You start thinking about your kids, and whether you can afford that new extension to your house.

You worry about whether Christmas is going to be expensive this year, or whether your partner is going to be made redundant…

All of these worries start flashing into your mind.

You’re trying to focus, you really are, but its just not happening!

The whole thing is a complete farce!

You don’t want to quit this easily. You’re not a quitter!

And plus you’ve heard so many good things about mindfulness meditation, you don’t want to stop now.

So how do you begin?

Well, there is a simple solution

You can start with your heart…

No, I’m not talking about listening to your hearts desires, although that would be nice. I’m talking about listing to your actual heartbeat, as you can feel the blood going up and down your body…

Ok, you may not be that good, but the very act of just listening to your heartbeat is a great way to becoming, ‘present’.

You see, to become mindful, you need a starting block and this is where some people can come unstuck. It’s easy to be mindful once your there, but getting there can feel like a whole new ball game, especially when you have an overactive imagination, or you have too many things on your mind.

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That is why I recommend listening to your heart first if you have difficulty in calming yourself down, so you can calm you inner-chatter long enough to hear the ambient noise (what is actually a soft form of white-noise) which you can focus on to continue your mindfulness meditation practice.

Ok, this may sound complicated, so let me simplify it for you in the good ol’ fashioned form of step by step instructions.

Still with me?

Here goes:

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1. Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down. Sitting is preferred as it reduces the chance of falling to sleep.

2. Ignore any thoughts or images swirling in your mind. Just focus, to the best of your ability, on your heartbeat. After a few moments, you should be able to feel your heart pumping blood around your body.

3. As you begin to listen deeply to your heartbeat, you may even feel a few pulses after the beat, as the blood rushes to your head and then to your wrists and then legs. Try and focus on the sensation of that beat as it beating gets softer and softer.

You may find that the heartbeat is fast to begin with, but eventually slows down. That it good, as it shows you are relaxing and getting deeper in meditation. Just keep listening to your heartbeat, as it gets softer and slightly louder.

4. As the heartbeat feels louder, you may also hear the ambient noise of the outside world, what is actually natural white-noise (that rushing sound when the TV is snowing, although don’t be alarmed, the natural version is a lot quieter). When you hear this soft noise, switch you attention to the noise, so you can keep up with the mindfulness meditation.

5. Keep doing this until you are ready to stop. You may feel mentally energised, you may not, depending on the length of time you have done this exercise. But the most important thing is, you would’ve become, ‘present’.

By doing this on a daily basis this will allow you to get better at becoming more, ‘present’, easily and effortlessly, allowing you the ability to switch between mindfulness and thinking when you choose to.

And the good thing about listening to your heartbeat is that it allows you to realise if you are stressed or not, and make appropriate adjustments to your inner talk/state to help keep your self calm, especially under pressure.

Mindfulness is a great way to reducing stress and to help your brain out

By practising and honing your mindfulness meditation skills, you will be able to de-stress, but do it without needing other tools or equipment. And the good news is that it is totally free. You need nothing apart from your awareness and the ability to give it a try.

But there’s more.

If you do want to find an even easier way to meditate deeply than ever before, Gerald O’Donnell has put together two courses that allow you to listen to CD’s to help you meditate very deeply, as well as some other cool stuff. I’ve bought them myself and have reviewed the two courses, so if you wish to find out more information on how to achieve deeper states of meditation and to read my review, click here.

Till next time

Julian.

P.S. If you struggle with becoming present, listening to your heartbeat is a great way to becoming mindful. Just find a place to sit down, and focus on your heart beating.

Before you know it, you would have calmed down, and be able to become very present. Just be careful that you don’t fall asleep;-)

If you do want to find an easier way to meditating, I’ve reviewed two courses by Gerald O’Donnell, that allow you to meditate by listening to CD’s. To read my honest review, click here.

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Loving-Kindness Meditation: The Secret To Great Compassion?

Imagine opening your eyes, feeling at peace with the world, any form of anger almost evaporating from your soul…

Imagine opening your eyes feeling that little bit lighter, and for once, optimistic about your day.

Imagine feeling more relaxed with yourself, and feeling more focused so you can get out and do more of the things you love.

Wouldn’t it be nice to start you day feeling lighter, more calmer and feeling more love?

Wouldn’t it be nice to feel your Heart chakra open, so you can feel slightly energised and peaceful, any lingering anger almost gone?

Wouldn’t it be nice to have a simple way to improve your compassion and love skills, so you can feel more younger and become more of a healthier and happier person?

There is good news for you, because there is a simple exercise which does just that!

Enter in the arena a new weapon for your compassion skills.

This one exercise is arguably the best compassion exercise there is.

It not only allows you to feel love, but also Appreciative Joy, Friendliness, Equanimity and of course Compassion.

All rolled into one!

And not many exercises can do that.

And it gets better

By daily practising this technique, this will naturally make you more into a compassionate person, which has its own rewards.

And not only that, but you will reduce pity and increase genuine compassion aimed at another person (Pity merely copies the quality of concern, but doesn’t have the empathy that compassion has).

With increased practice, one develops a sense of Appreciative Joy; Joy, which any law of attraction student will tell you, can help the process of manifestation (but this will be for a later article;-)

Loving Kindness Meditation is a simple but powerful tool to help you go through your day, whilst increasing your compassion skills

You see, Loving kindness meditation has its origin in the early Sutras of Jainism, but may have been inspired by early Buddhist texts.

This simple exercise can not only help you not only feel compassion but also helps your forgiveness skills as well as open up your Heart chakra.

And don’t get me started on the health benefits this spiritual wonder has for you. Loving kindness can help:

* Increase emotional processing with the brain

* Reduce the sign of Ageing

* Increase the volume of grey matter

* Decrease PTSD

* Decrease Chronic Pain

Plus much more…(Thanks to Emma Seppala for this insight)

So, how do you activate this apparent health promoting, compassion inducer within yourself?

Are you ready?

Here goes

Loving kindness meditation essentially is about using feelings of kindness and goodwill towards someone.

You can do this by either;

* Reflecting on the good qualities of the other person

* By reciting a mantra out-loud (which is what I do) and visualizing a person.

* Or by visualizing directly, a Joyous version of that person, and wishing them good feelings.

The way I personally do it is to use 3 sentences as a form of a mantra to help promote success and emotional well-being.

While they can differ (this exercise is also flexible…of course;-) the below is an example of what you can say

“I wish myself success, I wish myself happiness, I wish myself good health”

That’s it.

(Alight, a bit more then)

So the exercise involves you saying this to not only yourself, but to 4 more people.

One person you love

One person you like

One person you are neutral about

(probably the hardest part of this whole process, because of our quick nature to judge. If it makes it any easier, think of a shop assistant).

And someone you dislike (again, can be tough for some of you)

If you wish to do my version, all you have to do is to think of someone and say these 3 statements to them.

This takes me about 5 minutes

It sounds mad, but the exercise above will do wonders to your emotional well-being.

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Not only that, but it can also help increase mental clarity, so this will also help you with your intuition, and should help motivate you to taking more intuitive action.

There is a part 2 to this

Once you have sufficient practice in the above exercise, try to then send the warm feelings towards the north of you, then the east, south and finally west.

I.e. Try to direct the feelings towards not only people that you speak to, but also your local area and ultimately other countries and the world.

This could take longer, but take comfort that you are helping the world at an energetic level.

Buts there’s more…

How would you like to use this exercise in conjunction with a way to deepen your meditation skills and meditate deeper than ever before (and when I say deep, I’m talking about deep Alpha, if not Theta brainwave state),so you can feel more at peace and more healthier, so you can have more fun in your life?

What would you say if I told you that you can do this with some good headphones and a a CD player?

Basically, there are 2 courses that will help you meditate deeper than every before.

This stuff is powerful

So powerful, that you can go into very deep states of meditation, so you can increase your intuition as well as some other cool stuff.

By increasing your intuition, you can get a better chance of noticing your gut feelings, as well as find better ways to get creative which should help with your life style.

I’ve even written a review for you, so you can get my honest opinion on the courses.

Simply click here to read the review.

Until next time

Julian

P.S. Loving Kindness meditation is a great simple exercise which helps you not only begin the forgiveness process of a person, but can also help you increase your compassion and loving abilities.

This in turn helps with your body, as well as help you with your emotional well-being.

This allows you to let go and can help you become a more calmer, happier and fun person, helping you release emotional baggage from the past, as well as helping you concentrate on more important things in life.

Mindfulness meditation is another great way to improve compassion. If you wish to learn to meditate very deeply, please read my review of the ARVARI course by clicking here.

Using compassion with Goal Setting, and 5 ways to achieve it!

I will never forget those moments during my weekends!

I would come home, annoyed and pissed off with yet another poor week at work.

I would make myself yet another promise that this time, things would be different.

I would grab a beer, have a pizza, and faithfully tell myself that my life would finally begin on Saturday.

Of course, I would have yet another late night, far more concerned about my fun and entertainment than getting my life back on track.

Far more concerned about the life of celebrity gossip, rather than trying to make the actual effort of finding what I wanted in life, and actually drawing up a plan to make it happen.

Fun is more exciting

Gossip cheered me up.

I could look down at some celebs, rather than actually owning defeat and saying that I needed help with my life.

The web was a convenient distraction, and I loved it.

So you can imagine my horror that, come Sunday, still no changes!

But that was about to change, I told myself.

I quickly wrote down my top 10 things that I had to do, tried to prioritise them, and then set myself to work.

This worked well to a point, until I begin to loose interest

I didn’t (at the time) find blogging fun. In fact, I didn’t find anything I did fun at all.

And when I did take a break, and finally succumbed to watching videos online, I quickly became too self-critical to myself, resigned myself to defeat and carried on, indulging in the chocolate of late night video catching up.

Till about Monday, when I was back in work.

And then the following weekend repeated it self. Again and again.

I would be really self-critical, unable to re-capture the initial excitement of changing my life for the better, building a brilliant business, and making a positive impact in the world.

No, the usual doubts of, ‘this will never work’ or, ‘I’m so useless at this’ got louder and louder and louder. I got into a defeatist attitude, then a victim attitude.

Then I got depressed

Does any of this sound familiar?

All too often, we build ourselves up to create goals to actually achieve, only to fail a few times and give up.

But why is that?

Startling as it may seem, but the answer may surprise you.

You are being too harsh on yourself

And believe it or not, self-compassion is fast becoming proven to show that you are far more likely to achieve in your life if you are kinder than yourself that if you are critical.

Now, don’t misunderstand what I am saying. I’m not on about being over indulgent, I’m talking about reducing and eliminating that critical self-talk that most of us have.

You see, we assume that if we are easy on ourselves, we won’t get things done.

But evidence is proving the opposite.

In 2010, a study in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that college students experienced less distress with their goals, than students who had goals that were based in self-image (I.e. egocentric goals…more on this later)

It all boils down to how to achieve a goal

The classic approach is this…

It involves a vision, and then a plan. It involves discipline and it involves motivation (to get you going initially, then discipline takes over when the going gets tough). It also involves grit determination, and also the ability to fail and learn from your mistakes.

And this is where most people screw up, and where your inner talk really counts to either your advantage or dis-advantage.

Lets take dis-advantage first, and one which most if us do.

We set a goal (or a few), we achieve most of them.

And then we fail

Thanks to life’s twist and turns, we get distracted, (or sidetracked), and then completely forget the original mission because, maybe, we are having too much fun online.

We then beat ourselves up over it (‘can’t I ever finish anything, what is the point, pull yourself together!!!’).

This looses the race, and we are back to square one.

Why?

Because we are not being fair to ourself

Would you speak to your friend like that?

Didn’t think so!

So why would you speak to yourself like that?

And when you do, you get stressed, releasing the good ol’ chemical cortisol into your blood, which prevents you from focusing properly.

This means that you find it difficult to complete your goal….

Need I say more.

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Now lets look at what you should be saying to yourself. (lets show the advantage of good inner talk;-)

So, same as before, you make a few goals, achieve only a few of them, but now the crossroads.

And this is where we are going to learn from our previous mistakes

Stop beating yourself up over it. Your only human, not a robot (contrary to what you may believe).

Take a few deep breaths, do something enjoyable for about 10 mins (no more!!!) and casually resume. If you have to, make a bargain with your own ego. (‘I’ll finish this, only if I watch that video online for just 10 mins’… you get the idea).

Change your inner dialogue, so instead of a harsh dictator whip-lashing into action, you have a more gentle voice, nudging you in the right direction.

Sounds crazy, but this stuff actually works.

And you feel better because of it!

Promoting self-compassion with your inner self-talk helps turn your goals from ego centric to eco-centric.

Sound very similar, but are vastly different. Egocentric goals are purely for your self-image, and as a result, only you loose. Not a big problem, in and of itself, but it is a loose-loose outcome.

Sure, your attempt to achieveing that goal was to help yourself, but people were not going to be helped. Now you have failed, nobody wins.

Not lets compare that to eco-centric goals.

You have a goal for your self image, but you are very aware of how self-compassion plays a part, so you set it so even if you do fail, people still benefit.

Sure, you may not succeed as much, but seeing somebody else benefiting from your journey is also rewarding, so you feel better, not worst.

See the difference

By setting our goals as eco-centric rather than ego-centric, we are still helping our community so that if we we don’t succeed (which, if done correctly, would be few and far between) other people are still helped.

So how do you improve your self-compassion, and get back on track when the going gets (inevitably) tough.

Here are a few suggestions to help you on your way.

* Realise you are not on your own

There is a good chance that that somebody has been here before and probably succeeded.

Don’t misunderstand what I am saying here, I’m not talking about trivialising your problem. Far from it, trivialising important issues always does more harm than good.

I’m referring to realising that somebody has probably been where you have been and succeeded, despite the initial setbacks.

This type of thought process should be empowering, not disempowering.

* Realise that you have an array of tools on your side

Bear in mind that there is a lot of good information out there on the web (true, there is also a lot of crap out there as well, but I’m assuming you can tell by now if something sounds true to you), and the chances are that you have already learnt a great deal on your journey on self-improvement.

The trick is to take comfort in the tools you have in your treasure chest (For me, this would be NLP, EFT, Mindfulness meditation etc…).

For example, if you have trouble getting motivated to start your goal, you can do a quick 5 minute NLP anchoring technique, so you can touch on a certain part of your body to elicit the emotional state of motivation.

Obviously, this may wear off after a while, so you have to carry on with discipline.

Which leads me to…

* Use the 5 minute rule

I love this rule, as it is something that I do every day.

I use the 5 minute rule to help start a goal, knowing that there is a psychological principle which states that you once you start something you are passionate about, you will try to finish the task once you start it (aka The Zeigarnik effect).

Try it and see for yourself (you can thank me later;-)

* Make a bargain with yourself

Another trick is to spend 10 minutes of fun before resuming a goal, or make goals that incorporate fun so you don’t loose out on enjoyment!

You can also try the trick in making a quick deal with yourself.

If you find that it is harder to get back on track, say that you are going to have fun for 10 minutes and no more.

Then, its back to work.

You will be surprised at how often you will finish a task by doing this.

* Be your own best friend

Making friends with your subconscious is a powerful thing to do!

Above all else, try to make friends with your subconscious. Realise that your subconscious responds well to positive encouraging imagery, tone of talk and emotion. So make peace with whatever distraction you have caught yourself being involved with.

By changing your inner talk to a more caring and kind nurtured spirit, you will find that most often than not you will go back to finishing your task and building a better ‘you’.

As you can see, using self-compassion is invaluable at setting goals and achieving them.

By changing how you talk to yourself, you can produce more effective goals, complete them more effectively and become more productive in your every day life.

By doing this, you will be more happier and stronger than ever before.

If you would like to find a way to communicate with your subconscious more effectively, I have reviewed an online course by NLP teacher Michael Stevenson, which is the NLP practitioners training video course (non-certification).

NLP is a great way to communicate with your subconscious, and this course offers great tips and techniques to get the most out of your day, including a way to produce very effective goals so you can get more stuff done. To read my review, please click here.

Till next time…

Julian.

P.S. Using self-compassion is often underrated, as we think that self-compassion is being over indulgent, but the research is promising.

By changing your inner talk and tonality to that of a kinder person, you will find that you will benefit in the long one. You will produce more goals, and actually begin to have fun achieving them.

A great way to do this is to have a better relationship with your inner self, or your subconscious. Your subconscious dictates 99.9% of your behaviour, and therefore making friends with your subconscious is an absolute must.

NLP is a great way to build a more friendly and effective relationship with your subconscious. To read my review on the NLP practitioners course, please click here.

My return, new directions of the blog, and your help with a survey

Wow, lots of things have happened in the last 12 months since I last posted on my blog…Christmas has been and gone (6 months left to the next one…just saying 😉 the bypass near my local town is starting to be built, and soon, the Rio Olympics will be here (including the current Euros bringing up a few surprises…well done to Wales and Iceland!)

This blog has also had a few changes as well!

I was writing initially about panic attacks and recovery form them (that was the initial first aim, back in 2011). The idea being that I could write about my experiences and ways to help reduce them.

That all changed in 2013, when I began to change direction towards more of stress management (stress can cause panic attacks), and how to help eliminate stress. Then it turned out, that stress wasn’t the bad monster we thought it was, and so began a slight tweak into how to manage your stress levels…

Well, I have to change my blog again, towards meditation and consciousness. I kinda figured that this was the direction it was going, and I can still talk about mental health issues as well (I do still wish to blog about panic and anxiety attacks, as I know I can help). But I will be focusing my blog on most things meditation and consciousness based.

This can include many subjects. I have had out-of-body experiences and lucid dreams (more the former than the latter), so I will be able to blog about those, and I do mindfully meditate on a regular basis, as well as do a, ‘Heart energy’ type of meditation (more of that in a later post). In fact, come to thing of it, I do have a certificate in meditation teaching, so I know I can use my knowledge to help others.

So, talking about The Chakras, mindfulness, mental health, obes and lucid dreams…well, there is a lot to get through, and I am kinda excited as to where this blog is going. Blogging has always been (in my opinion) a great source of information, help, and constructive opinions, if chosen wisely. Hopefully this blog will be no different.

And to finish things off, to really get a good idea of what you guys are talking about, I’ve designed a very short survey that hopefully will give me a better indication on where this blog is heading. Please feel free to check it out here. I would love to here your feedback, which could help other people (there is a short video explaining a few things, it’s only about 5 minutes).

Well, that’s it for now. Once I have completed my blog post diary, I’ll start posting again. As always, your good opinions are always welcome.

Namaste

These 8 foods Will Help You Learn How To Become Mindful With Ease!

Wouldn’t it be nice to make being mindful as easy as possible. After all, we all know the benefits of becoming mindful, from increased mental clarity to a reduction of phobias and stress. But by changing your diet to include the following foods, your mindfulness practice will be made a lot easier. You will gain clarity and presence sooner rather than later.

Here, we look at the top 8 foods that help you achieve mental clarity, concentration and your general emotional well-being. Adding some of the below to your diet will improve your mindfulness meditation sessions. See what you think;-)

Maca

Can help reduce stress and fatigue, and is also great in helping the blood flow to the brain, by providing amino acids, which also wards of low blood sugar.

Dark Chocolate

Eating a bit of Dark chocolate helps you to focus as it chocolate1contains Magnesium, and also helps release

Serotonin and endorphins, which helps improve your general well-being and mood. While it isn’t recommended that you eat huge bars and scoff your face all day long (tempting though it may be…) we do recommend that you have a tiny bit here and there for good measure, as well as improve your focus abilities.

Spirulina

One of the greatest super-foods out there for maintaining your focus, but that is not all! While it contains Protein, Vitamin B12 and has Iron content, it helps make your general mood better as well as aid your digestion system and helping you reduce stress.

Leafy Greens

Foods such as Collards, Swiss Chard, Kale and Romaine all contain Magnesium, B Vitamins, Chlorophyll, Folic acid, Fibre and Iron which helps with keeping your focus, as well as having loads of carotoids and antioxidants.

Their nutrition will help you keep being grounded as well as having a calm sense, instead of feeling on the edge. These types of leafy greens can help you fight stress, headaches and depression.

Fish

Helps improve your mood and concentration, as well as containing Omega 3 fatty acids which helps improve your mental performance, how your behaviour operates and also helps with your memory. The best sources of fish are Mackerel, Sardines, Kipper, Salmon and Trout. If you find that finding or eating fish is a struggle, I recommend that you take Omega 3 supplements.

Almonds

Rich in Magnesium which helps improve focus, reduces stress and also contains a high fibre content as well as the ability to help lower you blood sugar level as well as help make your nervous system operate more healthily.

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Despite their high sugar content, they are packed with some of the best nutrients to keep you being focused, including Magnesium, Vitamin B6, Vitamin C, Fibre and Potassium. This combination will help you feel energised throughout the day, while avoiding the, ‘crash’ that eating refined sugars can give you.

Blueberries

One of my personal favourites, Blueberries are a, ‘sort’ of super-food, as they contain antioxidants that help the blood flow to your brain, boosting your memory and concentration for up to over 4 hours from initial consumption.

Not only that, but the anti-oxidants that they contain, which include Tannins, Anthocyanins, Resverartol and Proanthocyanidins also help fight of Dimensia, Cancer and Heart Disease. And don’t forget, I said Resveratrol, which also means that they also help promote telemorase activity, keeping age on your side.

Having the above foods will help you ensure that you can focus more effectively, which will help you with your mindfulness meditation practice. Why not combine the above with a 15 minute special white-noise audio, which will help you become more mindful as well. Simple click here for more information.

Depression and 2 unusual ways to reduce it’s effects!

I consider myself to be very highly sensitive…

I’ve been sensitive growing up through high school and found myself getting hurt emotionally on a fairly regular basis. Then, going through college, It developed into OCD (when you repeat certain behaviours in an attempt to feel safe and secure). Being told I was autistic (although I would later challenge this believing it was ADD and mercury poisoning later on) didn’t help matters, especially when one is told that you had a problem that you had to deal with for all of your life, and often told in a very patronising way by people who you trusted the most (yeah, juck out self-healing why don’t you…).

Being made to feel ashamed, especially when you are a highly sensitive person, does no help for your self-esteem and self-confidence, and I soon began to loose control of my emotional state to the point that, when I began work in the early 2000’s, I got slowly depressed. I suffered from depression for a good 5-7 years.

Over 350 million people suffer from depression. So what can be done about it, as depression is not only hurting your body (please watch this video for more info), but also looses your focus so you are unable to be productive at work and at home?

I recently began getting depressed, and then had a very intuitive moment. Below are 2 exercises that I did, that not only help me identify the issue, but also stopped the depression dead in it’s tracks. I hope they do the same for you!

These exercises are best done quickly, (I found) as your subconscious likes speed. So please take no more than about a minute doing them.

Exercise 1

Find something in the past or the future imagined scenario that will cause you to become depressed, that is, something that you think will cause you to be depressed seemingly forever or for the moderate term. Something that you think that if you had it, there would be no way you can come to terms with it, and it will haunt you to the end of days. Try to really look at depression, to see it in the eye. Try to imagine holding it…what does it look like? Does it have a smell? What size is it, etc.

When you have done that quick exercise, try the next one.

Exercise 2

Try to become present, that is, nearly mindful. For the purpose of this exercise, you won’t be completely present due to the amount of thinking being used, but try to be nearly mindful. Try to get closed to being present as much of possible, whilst still remaining close to some form of logically thinking capability.

Now, look around and in yourself, and try to spot depression in yourself or outside of you. Again, whilst trying to be close to being present, try to spot and look depression in the eye, try to find it, try to really locate the source of the depression, that you think will be with you until the end of days.

What colour is it? What size? What shape? Does it even have a smell?

What you will notice in both cases (providing your condition isn’t too chronic) is that, while you may have noticed depressing moments in the first exercise, because you were using your conscious logical left-hemisphered part of your brain, any negative moments you did stumble upon quickly had solutions thrusted upon them, or you moved onto a new image or feeling. Whilst you may have had moments that you felt depression, it was very short term, and not as long-term as you thought it would be.

That is because you had your logical, ‘guard’ up. You have a logical conscious for a reason, and one of the main reasons is for calculation and for problem solving. Depression in some cases takes place when this guard is, ‘down’. That is, you are in the subconscious, ‘receiving’ state, getting all sorts of negative imagery lobbed into your direction without any obvious protection.

Sounds too deep? Let me give you an example.

I worked in a desk job, answering some emails for customers. The problem was, due to being highly sensitive as I am, when I was consciously at work (i.e. actually typing a response to a query) my ‘guard’ would be brought down, allowing my sensitive sub-conscious to pick up energies, which it then converted into images and emotions (depending on what type of person you are, you may hear audio or may have different feelings).

I was in the passive, ‘receiving’ state, meaning that, while as was using my conscious to do work, due to not being fully involved with the task at hand, I was getting lots of conversions of energy being translated into imagery being thrown into my conscious mind almost against my will. Or, to put it in simple street language, I would unwittingly fantasise and imagine all sorts of depressing and negative scenarios which would ultimately bring my mood down.

Depression in some cases can take place when the subconscious that picks up other negative sources of energy and converts it, isn’t being logically challenged. That is, the imagery (or audio, random bad emotion etc) isn’t being processed by the logical, critical left-hemisphere of your brain. Essentially, you have become, ‘ungrounded’.

One of the greatest ways to free yourself from the grip of depression, is to notice the specifics of it and name it out loud; that is, give it the verbal treatment. This allows the two hemispheres to become more balanced, allowing you to become more mindful. Or to put it another way, challenging the depressing imagery allows your critical, ‘guard’ to go back up.

Alternately, you can try to do what they describe in NLP as pattern interrupting. Quite simply, think of the depressing moment, and then, quite randomly and spontaneously, look at something behind you on the wall and really take it all in. Could be a photo you have, could be the TV etc… this, again, allows your critical conscious, ‘guard’ to go back up, and you will find it slightly more difficult in thinking of the depressed imagery and may even become slightly mindful in the process.

What ‘Oneness’ is and 3 steps to achieve it

We hear this term splashed everywhere especially in the new age community. It is said that, ‘oneness’ helps with the law of attraction, but what exactly is it?

I came across this term years ago. Having been bought up as a Roman Catholic, I viewed God as someone who demanded respect, and to be also slightly feared. I was also apparently to treat this guy like he was my friend. Needless to say, the concept of, ‘oneness’ was not only a completely new outlook on life, but was also complete blasphemy. I mean, to think yourself as, ‘one’ with the big guy was disillusionment of the highest order!

So I was stunned when I came across my first spiritual book, after having a low point in my life, and realised that God (or whatever name you would like to call it) wasn’t what people were saying he was.

All it took was one small meditation session, and I realised that I couldn’t go back to my old ways again. ‘Oneness’, it seemed, was the ability to feel complete; to feel, ‘whole’, to feel unconditional love…that is, to feel love with no strings attached. It was a pretty neat idea, considering that some peoples definitions of love was more of a, ‘give and take’ variety.

To feel, ‘oneness’ or being, ‘complete’, means ultimate to transcend your EGO, that is, the thoughts you are having. It means that you go from a thinking state to a more, ‘being’ state; that is, you turn yourself into a Human, ‘Being’. There a 3 steps to achieve this:

1 – To start with, imagine your ego extends to the screen that you are watching. This may sound strange, but try to pretend that the screen in front of you is also, ‘you’. If you need to close your eyes to try to imagine seeing from that view point, go ahead. Try to act like the screen that you are watching is also a part of your personality, or if that is difficult to imagine, try to think that you could, ‘float’ there, as it you were in a first person shooter game, and you could float out of your body.

When done correctly, you should feel a chunk of feeling starting to move in your Heart area. Depending on what feeling you have, some people would call this unconditional love, or compassion. It may be very subtle at first, so don’t be too put off if you are unable to feel it straight away.

2 – In my opinion, the first step is always the most difficulty, because you are having to extend your mind, which most people cannot do. You’ll be glad to know that from now on this will get easer.

So now you have got your perception to the screen in front of you (maybe the corner of the screen, but that’s fine), we are going to extend it even further! Try to imagine that, ‘you’ are now not only including your screen, but also the wall behind it.

Again, if you want to loosely visualise being able to, ‘see’ on a speck of the wall to the left or your right, with your eyes open or closed, that’s absolutely fine. And try not to include just the wall in front of you, but also the contents in front of the wall, like the stationary, any papers you have lying around, that cup of coffee, etc. Really try and get into seeing yourself as also part of the wall and the enclosed surrounding area.

You should now feel that lump of energy around your heart area increasing in intensity, and you should also be slightly, ‘present’ or mindful (this is a great way to becoming, ‘present’). If you can, try to let the feelings spread across your body, so it not only encompasses your heart, but also you lungs, back, legs and hands. Try to feel your body getting more energised by this feeling.

3 – Not we have expanded our ego to not only include the screen that we are using to read this, as well as the wall behind, we are now going to take the final step, and move our ego or perception beyond into the wild.

Again, like before, slowly move your perception to a nearby tree, or if that is too difficult for you to imagine, act as if that tree is also another arm that you possess, that you can move it with your heart, as if it was your real arm. This may sound really silly, but it is brilliantly effective and can help you really get in tune with your surroundings. Try to act like every object you see can be moved by the power of your heart, as if it is an extension to your heart.

You should now feel that energy in your heart getting stronger and more intense. You could also describe this feeling as very healing and very, ‘complete’…feels good, doesn’t it;-)

What you have experienced, is what I believe many people and masters over the millennia have described. You were, at, ‘one’ with your multi-verse, and in doing so, have transcended you ego in the process. You didn’t, ‘need’ anything, as you used the power of only your perception (and maybe a tiny bit of visualization;-).

Try to get into a small habit of doing this every day, even if it is only for about 60 seconds, and you’ll find that not only will it become easier for you, you’ll start to see life in a different and more accurate way.

Feeling Under The Weather? Think Again!

Credit: Youtube / Dr. Joe Marshalla

Coming across a video like this makes you realize how important your feelings, as well as how important monitoring your emotions are to your health.

I first came across this video a couple of years ago. I had just heard about Dr. Joe Marshalla, but didn’t know too much about him, or Repeatlessness. I had watched some of his Mind control videos, thinking (stupidly) that it may be on how people used mind control techniques on you (maybe I was going a bit into too much conspiracy theory mindset here, I wasn’t sure…).

This video is a clip from one of the mind control videos, and beautifully shows how the effects of emotions and feelings, specifically love and fear, has an effect on your overall physical strength.

What it simply shows, is how you emotions has a direct control over how strong, or how weak you will be. And of course, you emotions also help govern your immune system, so if you are going to be really negative, your immune system will suffer. If on the other hand you are going to feel and give as much love and compassion out, your immune system will be boosted (I once had the luxury of feeling compassion at work once, whilst sneezing and having a cold, and my cold symptoms temporarily alleviated).

It goes without saying that your emotions affect your behaviour, so by controlling or redirecting your emotional state, you behaviour will change in certain ways where you can become more productive at work, at home and start to make changes in your life.

These days, I try to exude as much love as I can. I’m not saying this is easy, as most of us have had stressful and hectic moments in our lives. Trying to exude love in the workplace can feel like trying to achieve the impossible to some of us, so we have to be careful not to be too emotional if we can help it.

But if we can, somehow, control our emotional state (which usually involves a change in perception), we can make small but significant changes in our lives. And as they always say, every little thing counts;-)

Watch the video and see for yourself. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

Having a Bad Day? Here Are 5 Unusual Reasons To Be Grateful!

As we go through more interesting times ahead, it is very easy to get pessimistic on what your life will bring. None of us wants to suffer, and we all want more love, life, energy and freedom, to enjoy the things that we treasure the most.

So, before you get cynical about life, and depressed on what has happened so far and what the future will bring, we look at the top 5 things to be grateful for. Please feel free to add to this list, your contribution is always welcome;-)

1 – You are alive, so that you can make changes and inspire

There is a reason you were born, so don’t forget it. You have a responsibility for making your life and others peoples life better, but here is the trick: make peoples lifes better first, and your life will become better naturally as a result of it.

For this reason, you have been blessed with a brilliant machine called a physical body, which can influence atomic matter. This is crucial, as by influencing this matter, you can make profound changes towards society and bring order to the chaos. Of course, there are machines everywhere, but you have an upper advantage with yours…your machine can heal, which leads us to…

2 – You have a great, self-healing body

There is a reason your body heals (for the most part), so you can keep in it for as long as possible, and make changes in your view of reality.

Of course, self-healing does depend on many things; your attitude and attention, your diet, how much sleep you have, as well as what tools you give your body to use to make healing possible (i.e. vitamins, nutrients, certain metals and minerals etc).

Even your emotional state has a big say in how your body is run, due to neuro-transmitters that are everywhere in your body, and essentially, ‘tune in’ to your immune system, as well as smart exercise, such as H.I.I.T.

Of course, that means that if you are a cynical, depressed, bitter, alcoholic individual, don’t expect to live in a healthy body for too long. On the other hand, a (fairly) happy, peaceful, excited human body can do great wanders.

It does go without saying, that this does also mean that you have to control your emotional state, not just your physical state, which means that you need to understand the power of your attention, which leads us to…

3 – Your attention is very powerful

You have been blessed with a great attention (you could argue that this is the interface of your soul), which allows you to do many great (and not so great) things.

You can use this attention to manipulate your internal imagery (some would call this NLP) so you can create long lasting changes and reduce phobias. You can use your attention to create healing in your body.

You attention is your connection to your subconscious, and if you have many out-of-body experiences, you will know that you have to hold and control your attention in order to move around other dimensions.

In fact, some non-physical experts say that holding an image using the power of your attention helps create a mold…a blue-print which helps the manifestation process into the physical.

Of course, the power of your attention span and your focus can only really be attributed to your higher conscious, which leads us to…

4 – You have a higher conscious/soul

Without your soul, you won’t have an attention span to begin with, and nothing has any meaning.

End of.

You can be cynical all you want, but the science does prove that there is a consciousness that connects everything and even goes beyond the normal space/time barrier that we hold as our reality.

So for us, that only really means one thing, and that is that you have a soul, which directs your life to bring you joy.

But there is only one condition: You must give it permission!

Seems kinda weird doesn’t it? I mean, who wouldn’t want to lead a lifetime full of joy, love and wander?

Well, your beliefs for one!

That is why changing your beliefs is so crucial, because by changing your beliefs, you change your perception, and ultimately your experience. Your beliefs act like a bridge to your experiences. So, change the design of the bridge, and you naturally change your experience.

And it gets even better, as due to your soul connecting everything in reality, once you can go beyond your EGO (some people would call this being mindful), you can increase your intuitive powers, increase your psychic ability, have obes, learn to remote view (sense distant events/places in advance) and even help influence people (for more information on remote viewing and remote influencing, click here).

Learning to listen, and then trust your soul is one of the required tasks in leading a better life. And you soul knows this, which is why it is itching to be re-discovered and is grateful for being in the physical realm to begin with, which leads us to…

5 – Be grateful for being grateful

Yes, not a typo, gratitude is that much of a powerful state of consciousness, that you should be grateful for having the ability for being grateful to begin with.

Being serious, if you truly understood the power of gratitude, you would try to be more grateful every day. It is a very powerful feeling, and can help significantly reduce past wounds and hurts, and even create new worlds and realities.

There is a reason why the feeling of gratitude is linked to the law of attraction, as it helps the manifestation process work more smoothly. Even if you don’t believe in such concepts, nobody can mistake the powerful feeling that gratitude has on the body. When done properly, gratitude can really help bring peace of mind and make it easier for you to feel more alive in the moment and help create a better day.

So next time you feel down in the dumps, and life looks bleak, try to remember that the very image of life looking bleak is used by the same tool that can make life look like heaven. You have a great tool and mentality to use, don’t waste it;-)

Heart Space and 4 Ways To Keep In It

Heart energy is not only a useful space to keep, but is crucial in helping you not only spiritually evolve but also keep your emotions in check. But what is heart space, and how do you stay in it?

Heart space is essentially keeping your heart chakra opened as much as possible, so you feel compassion and love for most of the day. This has numerous healing effects, as well as allowing you to focus and be more productive. It also helps things happen more in your favor, as you start to use consciousness more towards your benefit.

Keeping in your heart space also helps with reducing stress and helps with your intuitive abilities (which has it’s own rewards). Just imagine what it feels like to do everyday routine chores, but instead of being on autopilot, you simply ask yourself if you should be doing this chore, and you get a loving feeling instead.

Wouldn’t that be great, maximizing that loving feeling, so your day winds up being slightly different than you planned but you felt love and joy throughout?

That is what living in your heart space is all about.

It’s about healing and it’s about intuition. It’s about being guided by your higher consciousness and allowing your life to be easier as a result. Small things happen in your favor, and you simply begin to, ‘flow’ with your life.

Here, we talk about the 4 easiest ways of opening up your heart chakra, and keeping in your heart space. If you require more information about your chakras and their benefits, simply click here.

Mindfulness

To help stay with your heart energy, it is often best to be as mindful as much as possible. Being mindful is simply about paying attention to what is happening in this present moment, from the sounds you hear, to what you are seeing, to what is going on with your body.

Usually when you pay attention to the outside noise, or pay attention to your body, your mind-chatter will be reduced significantly, allowing you to feel more present.

When done repeatedly, this feeling can help open up your heart chakra, so you feel heart energy easily and effortlessly. Further repeated attempts can mean that when you become mindful, you also open up your heart chakra, due to increased life energy, or Qi in your non-physical body spreading (kinda like a 2nd reward for reducing your mind-chatter).

If you have issues with being mindful, and would like ways on which to achieve being present, click here for more info.

Listening to a compassionate song

This is a great one if you simply have to think, but are unable to focus that wandering mind.

All you have to do, is to think of a song that allows you to feel nice,warm and healed. A song which is very compassionate, and can even make you slightly tearful (but in a good way).

Next time you have to do a task, and you find your mind wandering from place-to-place (maybe due to the task not being mentally stimulating enough), you can, ‘select’ this song in your head, so you feel more heart energy around your heart chakra.

If you can, try and build up a, ‘song list’ of favorite compassionate tunes, so that if you struggle to remember the tune of one song, you can always fall back on another. This will also prevent another thing from taking place: Boredom of a tune.

Pretending to hug somebody

If you are struggling to feel love, one of the best ways of opening up your heart chakra is to quickly imaging someone that you are in love with, and pretend you are hugging that person from head to toe. This will allow the feelings of love to pass from your heart chakra, and will allow you to feel heart energy radiating out.

Once you get used to this energy, it will only be a matter of time before your heart chakra will open just by thinking of hugging somebody. And once you get good at it, you can simply open up your heart chakra, ‘on demand’ just by thinking of the feeling and letting the heart energy pour out.

Seeing yourself everywhere

This is one that isn’t always taught, but one of the best ways to feel connected to heart energy (and even help the law of attraction due to the reduction of your EGO) is to see yourself at, ‘one’ with everything.

Of course, one could argue (forgive the pun;-); how can you possibly feel what, ‘oneness’ is, if you don’t know what that looks like?

That’s a good question.

The easy answer is to pretend that everything around you, is a personal extension of your self.

So that Computer you can see, that’s you.

That wall behind you…yep, that’s you as well!

But don’t just look at it and half-heartily agree with the concept…actually imagine that you go well beyond your feet and hands, and actually imagine that your surroundings is you as well.

Of course, anyone who has had an out-of-body experience will testify to this,as when you float out of your body, you can literally float though walls, and even be part of the surroundings itself (although for most obe explorers, the excitement itself of leaving the body means that they would rather travel and fly away, such is the awesomeness of obes).

But the reality is, you are more than your mind and more than your body. In fact, your body isn’t just your own personal body, but everybody elses’s as well.

Initially, this may sound like a ridiculously stupid concept to get, and unless you are spiritually incline, will put this down to just plain stupidity.

And yet, when you think of oneness is, can you not think of a better way to describe your consciousness?

When you start seeing yourself everywhere, heart energy becomes a thing of the norm. You begin to question normal everyday dogma, and you start to feel healed. And because consciousness creates form, things will start to happen in your favor.

Keeping in your heart space is crucial to your psychological and emotional well-being. You become less stressed, and start to make life easier for yourself. Give it a go and let me know how you get on. I think you will like the journey.

Forgiveness and My 4-Step Process

Do you want to learn how to forgive? Are you stung by past hurt, or maybe you are stung due to your own actions (or lack there off)?

Forgiveness is a powerful tool and has many implications, but for some it remains that elusive concept that they could desperately get their hands on.

Why is that?

I strongly believe that forgiveness is not only a very personal thing (obviously) but is also unique to each and every individual. Or to put it another way, a method to forgive may work for me, but may not work for you.

I’ve been wanting to write an article on self-forgiveness for some time, yet lacked the tools or the mentality to do so.

The reason being was that I was slightly addicted to the dopamine levels that holding a grudge can release, and also for me to forgive, I would have to…you know…move on with my life. This my EGO couldn’t do very easily.

And yet, this was extremely stupid of me, because I was releasing bad chemicals into my body when I had moments of anger and rage. And they say that 4 minutes of rage can actually lower your immunity for around 5 hours.

So it begs the question, why would you want to become ill for?

With that in mind, I’m taking the plunge and writing my version on how to forgive yourself. Of course, this article mainly deals with self-forgiveness. I haven’t tried it on forgiving other people. I’m sure it would work just as ok, I’ve just yet (at this early stage in discovering this) used it to great length on other people, just on myself.

Of course, like any technique, it may work for you or it may not. What works for me, may not work for you. I’m not trying to slide in a crass disclaimer here, just simply stating that forgiveness is such a personal, unique issue, that no one technique is going to be perfect.

Having said that, I’ll give it may best shot here for you;-)

Of course, you could argue that you don’t need to forgive, that you are not ready to forgive.

If that is your case, good luck to you, because by holding onto your anger, you are releasing chemicals into your body which (by default) will dis-empower you (Click here for a video which demonstrates how emotions has an effect on your body). The trick, if you can, is to somehow let go.

And that is what ultimately forgiveness is; it’s the ability to let go. And letting go is vital for longevity and for a healthier body and mind.

But like I said, this method may not do anything, or may work wanders.

It’s as simple as that.

And I have to say this, but it does incorporate your soul as well, although by now I would like to think that if you are a regular reader to my blog, you should by now know that you do have a soul, and it is this soul that survives after what you call, ‘death’.

I hope you don’t make the amateur mistake in thinking that you are just body and EGO and that’s your lot. (if you want to, you can search online for either, ‘Remote Viewing’ or ‘Out-of body experiences’, then come back here to carry on reading this article;-)

I’ve got a pretty good idea that this will work for you, especially if there is some self-forgiveness that you need to do (I believe it should also work for forgiving somebody else as well, although I’ve only mainly used this technique for self-forgiveness, so you will need to try it against someone and let me know how it goes on).

But ultimately, self-forgiveness is a unique thing, and I’m under no illusion that the following technique might not be suited for everyone.

Still, give it a go and let me know how it goes on. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, a quick online search will highlight many other techniques online.

Try a technique and see if it works for you. Hopefully you’ll find one soon enough, and finally (with time) reduce and eliminate that anger that has been holding onto you.

1 – Learn from the mistake

To begin with, (especially for self-forgiveness) you need to learn from your mistake. No point in trying to forgive yourself if you are going to make the same mistake over and over again.

Ask yourself, ‘What has this mistake taught me?’. What variable needs to change, in order to grow from it. And if you genuinely cannot find a way to grow from it, you may need to experience it again and again until you do grow from it.

This is where a bigger perspective comes in, that you may need to take a really objective view on what’s happened (I say objective very loosely, as we are in a subjective multiverse, but that’s for another day). Try to get a grasp of the bigger picture, and this will make learning from your mistake a lot easier to grasp.

2 – Let go

Easier said than done right (don’t I know that one all too well!). Letting go doesn’t mean justifying what has happened, or agreeing with it from an EGO sense of self, but rather accepting what has happened.

Don’t forget, what you resist will ultimately keep persisting! Much rather let it go, and as a result, change the rule of your reality bubble.

Also, letting go has the added benefit in allowing you to move on and in some cases, even get an intuitive incline that what happened had to happen (i.e. it could be no other way). It does take a slight bit of psychic ability/ spiritualism to get to this mark, but with practice it’s very doable.

Of course, to really fully let go, you can go onto…

3 – See the spiritual perfection in the design

Tough one to grasp, especially when you deal with the crime biggies out there (but that’s for another day) but if you can somehow take a step back (be mindful if you have to) and look at the bigger picture, usually you’ll see that something good always comes out of it.

I know that when I have gone through some real shitty times, I look back and am glad it happened no other way. Mind you, this has not been easy, and even today I still feel a slight tinge of anger, still bubbling up. Of course, for you to make seeing the spiritual perfection easier to do, you require the forth and final piece of the steps…

4 – Find a thing in the experience to be genuinely grateful for

This calls for you to actually having to put the effort to go beyond EGO to reach this state of clarity.

For some of you, this will not be easy, and going beyond EGO may take a lifetime of work (I’ve heard of cases where people refuse to forgive what has happened, when they are quite old…talk about holding onto anger for decades after an event). The thing is, some people get a kick out of holding onto anger, due to the release of dopamine.

Sounds silly, but think of this. I had a belief about being loveless (I’ve since done some inner work to change this belief) and while going to bed I wouldn’t have an issue with love, but first thing in the morning I would fantasize about being old and being on my own.

One morning I decided to really analyze what was going on, why I felt compelled to have this fantasy. Lo and behold, I was addicted to it, because despite feeling crap, I actually felt sort of good and even righteous.

This righteousness kicks many people in the teeth, and nothing breaks down relationship and looses trust faster than being righteous (of course, if you have way too many close friends on your hands…;-)

I suspect that a few people who hold onto a grudge do so because they are addicted to that sensation.

While I can appreciate the argument behind this, you are poisoning your body due to the chemicals that are being released. Much better to be honest with yourself and start the healing process and move on with your life, than hold onto a grudge because at some deep level, it feels good.

Like I said in my opening remarks, forgiveness is a powerful tool to have, and while there is no one-size-fits-all approach to forgiving yourself (or somebody else), it has a great way of providing peace of mind and allows a new state of love to enter you about that situation.

This allows new chemicals to flood your body, and allows you to be in a more empowered sate of mind, so that achieving your dreams or goals becomes that little bit more easier.

Self-Esteem and Your Silent Killer

How do you raise self-esteem, so that you have a better image of yourself, and as a result, can lead a great life? After all, a poor self-esteem is probably one of the greatest killers out there.

It is the one thing that can cause so many problems, from entering and maintaining bad relationships, to even leading to drug abuse and addictions.

To date, around 85% of people suffer from self-esteem issues, which means that around 85% of people are not leading a great, healthy life.

It’s one of those things, that unless you know what it is, can even be affecting you and you wouldn’t even know it.

I know it took me over 10 years to realize that I had poor self-esteem, and yet, when I tried some of the techniques to raising it (which I’ll share later in this article;-), small and moderate things no longer bothered me.

That is, I no longer got offended or upset by things like insults or people giving me the cold shoulder (pretty good huh?).

This may not seem like a big deal, and on paper it doesn’t. Yet getting upset and offended can be responsible for drug addiction, porn addiction, relationship fights, breakdowns, and even violence (because criminals never hurt people when they get offended, do they…).

Of course, if you can avoid or trivialize that upset and offense by raising your self-esteem, you will go along way to help healing your ego, your self and ultimately help spread healing in the world.

But before we do anything (and in case you are wandering), lets do a quick recap of symptoms of low self-esteem:

  • Low opinion of yourself
  • Treating yourself badly
  • Unable to trust your own opinion
  • Over-the-top concern about what people think of you
  • Unable to accept compliments
  • Having an eating disorder
  • Poor social skills and poor communication
  • Having bouts of Anxiety, which can lead to sadness and depression
  • Unable to be assertive
  • Plus much more

The problem is, the solution for raising self-esteem isn’t an intellectual one. For example, it’s easy to say to someone that you suspect having poor self-esteem, that they look great and are doing a great job. Yet the truth is that their subconscious will automatically call out, ‘LIE!’, and you’re back to square one.

The authorities even tried this during the 1980’s, and found that it actually made the situation more worse.

The trick to raising self-esteem is two-fold (in my opinion). Firstly, we need to change the environment, and then your self talk. (if you are really bad that doing something like tidying up your room is a big, big chore, I would highly recommend mindfulness meditation first, just to calm yourself down, and then do a small 5 minute tidying task.).

Why are we affecting our environment first? Simply because for most of the time, we are the product of our environment.

So start off with doing something for 5-15 minutes, like cleaning the dishes or hoovering the house.

Something that won’t take too long and will make your place look more tidy. The beauty behind this is that your will also be priming yourself. That is, you will be subconsciously saying, ‘I am in a nicer, tidier house because I deserve the best’.

Priming is about giving a stimulus that influences your immediate and future thoughts and actions. Priming is very important when it comes to raising self-esteem and having a good life.

You can even try doing something that you love and are good at, like getting involved in a hobby that you love taking part in. I personally love sprinting (and have gotten good over the last 9 months;-), plus its also very healthy for you and gives you a pretty good body afterwards (not trying to show off, just saying;-). It also has the benefit of increasing your Endorphins levels as well, so you actually feel great. Two for the price of one!

When you have done some exercise so you can feel good about yourself, or if you are not the exercise type, done an activity which primes your brain into thinking that you deserve the best, you can move onto other stuff.

Becoming more organized and managing your time is another great way of raising self-esteem and also primes your subconscious as well. And I don’t just mean at home, but at work as well.

Having a clean desk tells your subconscious that you are very serious about your job, and that you deserve respect. Managing your time at work also says that you deserve to be labeled as a good employee (after all, tell me someone who is going to complain if you consistently hand in your tasks on time). Time management is priceless commodity, and goes a good healthy way in increasing your self-esteem.

Next, we come to our social circle and friends.

This is where the going can get a bit tough, because people with low self-esteem can attract similar people of low self-esteem (Of course, hopefully by the time you have tidied your place, got a slightly better body after a few months of exercise, and are becoming more of an efficient and professional employee, you should be attracting different type of people into your life;-)

Your friends can have a huge impact on your subconscious (especially if you are highly sensitive) so be very careful who you spend your time with!

Try to keep wingers and complainers at arms distance, and try to mix with people who support your goals, or who are generally positive in your favor. This will help you keep your energy from being drained away, allowing you more energy to complete tasks that can help you with your goals.

So now we have the environment re-defined, its time to get to the next level. I will do more articles on the following subjects (so please be patient) but if you have your environment slowly changing for the better, try the following for an extra does of healthy self-esteem;-)

Learn to say, ‘No’ to unreasonable demands, may it come from your boss (if you can) friends or your family

Learn to be more assertive. Not rude, but fair and polite. This will show people that you deserve to be listened to and to show respect.

Learn to change your self-talk. Of course, by this stage, this shouldn’t be a biggie by now, and learning to stop constantly criticizing yourself and seeking approval from other people will be soon a thing of the past.

Instead of, ‘I always get this wrong!’ You’ll be saying things like, ‘You’re good, I’m doing great at this…keep going’.

You get the idea.

This may sound weird at first, but after a while, it is surprisingly refreshing.

I remember when I had very low self-esteem, I was very passive and this caused me all sorts of psychological problems. I got hurt very easily, and was always to get people to like me and seek approval from them.

Nowadays, although I’m not perfect, I’m a little more assertive, I stand up for myself, and I am leading a (slightly) more tidier house.

Self-esteem can be a silent killer if you are not careful. Doing the above, while improving your diet and becoming more focused on your long-term goals, will not only help you become more successful, but you will feel better as well.

Intuition and My New Beginning

A few days ago, I begun to start using my intuition on a more deliberate basis. I’ve had feelings of love before (for many years) but after a recent insomniac episode, decided to make a conscious attempt at trying to use it.

The results have been quite surprising.

You see, we all know that Intuition has many benefits, and yet it is an art to try to master. I say this with a sigh as intuition has sadly been knocked out of many adults. And yet, we have all had a gut feeling of something, or have witnessed Déjà vu, so to say that there is no sixth sense, or that psychic ability is a load of New-Age BS, is quite simply inaccurate.

Applied intuition is using this feeling on a more deliberate basis, so you can have a more better life, make better decisions and ultimately, make life work for you rather than against you.

You essentially learn to not only embrace your super-conscious (or your soul) but also learn to not only live with it, but also use it.

And that’s fine, there is nothing wrong in using your soul (in fact, you soul would have it no other way, due to the, ‘oneness principal’). So how do you become intuitive deliberately, so that you can use it to make life better?

I can only describe what has worked for me. As I’m just consciously starting out, I’m still relatively new, but am convinced that I’m on the right track. If you wish to join me, that’s great. If you wish to just keep track, I’ll try to keep updating these posts so that you know of my progress.

Now, I’m going to be honest up here, and say straight away that I’m a highly sensitive person, who meditates frequently.

This means that feelings by default are always multiplied, so having a feeling isn’t something I’m going to miss that easily. Secondly, I have bought and meditated using The ARVARI CD’s, as well as the power-nap MP3 of Unexplainablestore.com.

I want to be honest with you, in the sense that I have achieved essentially the Theta brainwave state while feeling love (If you wish to find a way to open up your Heart chakra so you know how to feel unconditional love, click here).

This has allowed me to receive intuition more easily, all by simply asking myself a question (when my mind chatter is pretty much reduced, this post on mindfulness will help you do that) and waiting for a loving feeling to come to my heart.

If it is a dull loving feeling, I should probably not take the action that I asked myself. If it is a very strong loving feeling, I should really take the action I asked myself as soon as possible.

I say this, because I believe that for you to be intuitive, and then to use your intuition on a deliberate basis, you have to meditate to a degree when your brain is at the Theta brainwave state, and that you are used to feeling love at these deep moments of your meditation practice, and then learn to trust that feeling.

I know some of you who can easily say that you get intuitive insights in the Alpha range, and that deep meditation is simply not required. If that works for you, then fair enough. But for me, I believe Theta meditation with love works best (maybe it’s due to an over-active EGO, I’m not sure).

I’ve began to use deliberate intuition in the last few days, in different situations and have noticed the following outcomes:

Intuition in the workplace

I’m beginning to use intuition in the workplace (taken me a long time to reach this point). Its funny, but when I use my hidden feelings to sort out work and tasks to do, I find that the tasks that I feel good about are pretty simple to accomplish. It’s almost like my soul is trying deliberately to make life easy for me.

Not only that, but I can also sense when the task could be a tough task, taking over 10 minutes to complete, or when it may be a short simple task, taking just a few minutes. Tapping into my intuition has opened up a whole new world of possibilities, making life, even in the dull workplace, slightly more fun.

On top of that, it also helps keep the stress and the nerves at bay, and helps me re-connect (at times) to the present moment. This of course helps me focus and concentrate better. And all of the while, I feel at peace within myself, so when a inevitable stressful situation arises, it doesn’t take me out so much.

The only thing I would say, is that I still fantasize when something that bores me comes up, so of course the stress (if it does kick in) can be slightly overwhelming.

Intuition outside

I regularly go outside and do sprints up a hill.

It’s not only great fun, but extremely healthy as well. Sprinting is a form of H.I.I.T (High-Intensity Interval Training). HIIT is great for stress reduction, and as a result, can be a good tool to help reduce panic attacks and anxiety.

Not only that, but sprinting helps release Testosterone and Human Growth Hormone when you sleep. These are valuable hormones which help promote muscle and repair body cells and helps you feeling refreshed.

The thing with my sprinting, is that I have to use the road. It’s not a major one, but I can still get some traffic on it. I use my intuition to help warn me if there are any cars or vehicles come (especially when I do the initial training drills, which is a must for any sprinter). By relying on my intuition, I am able to do my drills, pretty safe in the knowledge that a car isn’t going to suddenly run me over.

Intuition in the home

I recently tried to apply my deliberate intuition while I was at home. It wasn’t much, but by asking a simple question and waiting for a strong feeling, I ended up doing a little bit of housework (and I’m not even housework fan).

The thing was, even though it took about 30 minutes, my house looked a little bit tidier, and when I rewarded myself by playing a game (I try to live by the motto, ‘work hard, play hard’ routine 😉 I found that I was winning more simply, and it was more fun. Again, it could be an indication of my soul in rewarding me in using my intuition on a more deliberate basis.

Since using my intuition, my EGO fear, which can sometimes make my OCD go into hyper-drive, has significantly been reduced, and I feel more love and peace on a daily basis. Not only that, but small events are working towards my favor, than against me.

And it must be said, using deliberate intuition can be very spontaneous, which allows life to be lived in the present moment and can be more fun. Try using intuition yourself, and learn to trust the feelings of love when they come to you. You should find that being present becomes more fun, as you seek to listen to the soul within, and life will begin to work in your favor.

The Top 7 Mistakes People Make About Meditation

Meditation is fast becoming popular, and more and more people are seeing the benefits of meditating. It is certainly a great tool to not only reduce an onset of a panic attack and long term anxiety, but also help you reconnect to your soul.

Here, we look at the top 7 mistakes people make when it comes to meditation. Be sure that you don’t fall for these;-)

Thinking it is boring

The idea that we have to sit or lay still to quieten the mind, for the most parts, may seem like a boring thing to do. And that’s the issue right there. You are not doing anything at all, but being. Meditation is about stilling the mind (as much as possible) and to achieve a being’ness state of pure awareness.

And the reason is not only due to the numerous health benefits to the mind (and as a result, your body due to the mind-body connection) but also due to the lovely rush of relaxing, energizing feeling you get when you do meditate.

Have to be in the lotus position

This is a classic fear. I sometimes come across people who will not meditate, because they don’t want to put their legs in that crossed position.

I don’t blame them as it’s not the easiest posture to maintain if you are not used to it. (I mean, great if you are into Yoga, but not so great if you are just starting out).

But here’s the thing…meditation can be done anywhere, in any (reasonable) position.

I frequently meditate laying in my bed, first thing in the morning, and even sitting in a cramped car. You don’t need to sit up straight, if that is too uncomfortable for you.Whatever position works best for you, that is the position that you need to be in.

Not aloud to think

Another classic error in thinking about meditation, is the ability not to think. I hate to break this too you, but forcing yourself not too think is not only stress inducing, but that is also not how our mind works. Whatever you focus on expands, so by trying hard not too think, you are essentially fueling your mind to do just that…think.

Or to put it another way; if I said to you to never, ever, ever think of an apple, the chances are you are going to think of an apple. And that’s fine by the way, this is how our mind works, good or bad.

The thing is to not care about it, which is why one of the best meditations out there is open ended meditation, which is the ability to simply observe your thoughts without judgment. This is a great way to becoming present.

Sounds too complicated

Another thing can be off putting is the idea of not knowing where to start. There are some many different types of meditations out there, and of course, people have an image of a certain Yoga position. All of this can seem very overwhelming and complicated.

The truth is anything but. Meditation can be as simple as just observing your breath while you are walking.

How easy is that?

Just this alone is a great way to becoming mindful, connect you to nature, and maintain peace. If you would prefer, you can lie down and watch your thoughts instead, like watching a TV program. Both would work great.

Have no interest in it

I was once speaking to my sister when she was driving me somewhere, and I was trying to explain the benefits of grounding yourself when you are around negative people. The subject of meditation, naturally, came up. To which she responded, ‘Why should I care?’.

It’s a good question.

Why should we care about meditation…I mean, why actually bother at all?

Well, let’s put it this way, there is a whole body of reasons that promotes meditation to be good for your mind and body, from increased cognitive function and improved memory, to improved cardiovascular health and a slowing down of aging.

Quite simply, we bother because meditation is not only good for you, but once you get good at it, it’s free. You can use paid guided meditations, but ultimately, just walking somewhere is a great opportunity to meditate. That is why you should care;-)

Relying on guided meditation

Guided meditations can be great, don’t get me wrong, and especially useful for someone who cannot control their imagination and their mind. But don’t rely exclusively for it, just like you can’t rely exclusively on your driving instructor after you passed the test of driving a car. You will need to experience meditating on your own, with no help what-soever.

And that is fine, by the way, as the one biggest drawback of guided meditation is that you are limited to the length of the practice.

When you do it solo, you can decide to stop when you want, and how you want. You have flexibility on your side.

On top of that, if you are not careful you may turn guided meditation into a sort of crutch which will obviously backfire, so it is useful to alternate being guided and solo meditation. Food for thought.

Don’t have time

Some people lead the most busiest of lifes, because we are trained to be like that, yet all you need is a minimum of 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes at night. Doing this on a regular basis will allow you to feel the effect of meditation, enough (hopefully) to lengthen the practice.

Of course, if you don’t even have 5 minutes to spare, one needs to really have a look at their life, and to re-prioritize their daily tasks. Your mind and body depends on this (and you won’t complain if you look younger;-)

Anxiety, Mindfulness And 4 Ways To Achieve It

Mindfulness meditation is fast becoming a great way to not only reduce anxiety and panic disorders, but also a great way to have a more peaceful way of life. Not only does it give you the benefit of multiple body and brain rewards, it also allows you, from a spiritual standpoint, to connect to your soul.

I remember when I first learn’t about mindfulness…It was a few years ago, when I first bought, ‘Be Here Now’ by Ram Dass, and I first go into the idea that all there is the, ‘now’.

Then, ‘The Power Of Now’ By Eckhart Tolle became extremely famous, and being, ‘present’ suddenly became mainstream.

Being mindful isn’t difficult, and here, we talk about the top 4 ways in being mindful and how to achieve them. I will warn you though, they may look simple, but don’t be so easily fooled…the beauty of mindfulness is in it’s simplicity;-)

1- Feeling Your Energy Body

This is a great way of not only being in the, ‘now’, but also reducing the onset of colds and bugs, as well as allowing you to feel happier.

Feeling your energy body is also a great way to feel slightly, ‘alive’ and feel your Qi flowing throughout your body.

True story: I was at work once, having a cold. I was sneezing and coughing (doing all sorts). I wasn’t having a great time…

I began to feel my Qi and try to be, ‘present’. Pretty soon, my body was in mild ecstasy and my sneezing had been significantly reduced. I was almost on the path to self-healing.

This is how powerful this technique is. The trick is to try to feel the Qi in your blood and your body, but therein lies a problem..most people don’t know what Qi is, not alone what it feels like.

The easiest way of finding this one out, is to rub your hands quickly to make them warm; after around 15-30 seconds, if you keep you hands apart from each other by around a few inches, you should feel a subtle energy vibrating that you can, ‘feel’.

This is your Qi. Imagine this flowing through your inner being, and you should be able to feel your body, ‘come alive’.

2- Peripheral Vision

This has numerous benefits, from reducing internal mind-chatter, to allowing your to make quick decisions, to even accessing your sub-conscious mind (I’m still testing this one out with psychic ability, like remote viewing).

When done right, not only will you be activating the parasympathetic nervous system, which will automatically allow you to become more calmer, you will also be slightly more focused and you will find that you will be activating your third eye (used for intuition).

It is no accident, that people use their soft gaze for peripheral vision to see non-physical things, like auras around people.

The only thing about peripheral vision, it has to be said, is that it could be tricky in and of itself to get into that awareness. So you have to start small…look at an object, and slowly expand your awareness, so you can see both the left and then to the right of it. Keep this up until you can see the above and below of this object. Then all you have to do is to increase this vision, until it completely accompanies your field of view.

3- Watching Your Breath

This is an old tried-and-tested method in increasing your presence. Simply by observing your body, you can achieve mindfulness…but this time, instead of focusing on your internal Qi, we are going to focus on your breath.

Just watch your breath coming in and out, and feel it enter your lungs (you should be doing deep, diaphragmatic breathing, or, ‘belly breathing‘ for this to work properly). After a few short moments, you will feel more peace and become more present with everyday life, giving you a clarity of thought.

4- Opening You Eyes

This is one that I discovered several years ago, and only recently remembered that it works to produce a great sense of presence.

The technique is simple: open your eyes as fully as possible, while still comfortable.

That’s pretty much it, yet as simple as this technique sounds, it is brilliantly effective. You should feel more present, more alive, and your thoughts should die down. Not only that, but as it is incredibly easy to do, you can even use the little thoughts you have left for other things.

Of course, no technique is perfect, and with this, there is an issue with complacency. For example, I was walking near the canal the other day, and opened up my eyes a bit wider to really take in the scenery. Great so far, feel pretty much at peace, and feel like I’m present.

Did it stop all of my thoughts though?

No!

Within a few short moments, I found myself fantasizing about something else…

Of course, when this happens, my eyes automatically returned to their normal size, so with repetition this should work very well.

Not only that, but this technique won’t work if you have an eye injury. Widening your eyes it going to prolong any injury you have, so it is best to try other techniques before using this one.

Try the above out, and let me know which mindfulness trick works best for you. I would love to hear your experiences.

Fighting for your life: My turn!

I was going to write an article about why bad things happen, from a spiritual perspective to someone.

I was going to write why it is important not to develop too much of a thick shield, where you start to avoid things at all cost to keep your self from getting hurt, and to instead learn the process of de-attachment.

I was going to write about what happens if you don’t have the correct perspective on a negative event, how it can conditionalize you further and how it can make you loose your friends and cause fear of abandonment issues.

I tried to research heavily into this.

I was reading articles from de-personalisation, to how to help yourself if you were a highly sensitive person (which I am).

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind reading articles. In fact, I rather enjoy them (in most cases) purely because I get some much great content.

I love reading on how to understand myself more, and therefore how to improve my life for the better.

And yet, I’ve been reading about improving myself for almost 10 years, yet nothing much has changed.

I still live in pretty much the same place as before, with still the same neighbors, and still the same fears. Yes, my panic attacks and high anxiety have gone (hence this blog) but apart from that, everything is pretty much the same…

Which frustrates the hell out of me…where am I going wrong?

I know the answer…it’s dead obvious!

Action!

So, if I know the answer, why am I still feeling, ‘stuck’ in my life?

I know the answer to that one as well…

Motivation!

I recently tried to study a motivational NLP course (NLP is about understanding the language of your mind).

It had a lot of great info, and some cool NLP tricks which I tried somewhat successfully.

Has it completely worked?

Well, sort of

I can get some of the annoying small things done, but nothing major…I’m still in a rut there.

Then what is it then?

As I was reading some great articles yesterday, I came across a fantastic article on the power of being underestimated

It talked about some of the troubles Steve Jobs went through, from being sacked from his own company, to having cancer.

Yet he never gave up!

On top of that, I watched the 2011 film, ‘Bridesmaids’. It turned out to be a film that completely changed my perception on life.

It featured one of the main characters, Annie, going through a lot of hell with friendships and her job, before hitting rock bottom.

With the help of her spunky friend, Megan, she gets herself out of it.

But the scene that made all of the difference, was when Megan had a playful fight with Annie, who was wallowing in self-pity.

Megan was clearly annoyed that Annie was feeling sorry for herself, and wanted to snap her out of it.

Don’t get me wrong, I sympathized with Annie. Life can be tough, and feeling sorry for yourself is understandable. But there comes a time, when action needs to be taken.

Megan, on the other hand, was not about feeling sorry for herself…

She had been bullied when she was in high school, so understood how fighting for your life was valuable.

This scene hit me hard, and I knew where I had been going wrong with my life…

I hadn’t been fighting for it!

This is one of the few problems with spirituality. We teach you to keep your emotions in check, to be at peace with any piece of shit that comes in your direction.

We teach you to meditate, and we teach you not to judge on appearance. We also teach you how to be , ‘at one’ with the world…

Which is all very well and good (don’t get me wrong), but if you’re not careful, you end up being too passive for any action.

Sometimes, the very emotion that you can suffer a lot from can be very similar to the emotion of getting you out of a rut.

And that’s the problem there!

We teach you (accidentally, in most cases) to essentially numb your emotions.

You emotions is a powerful tool. I should know this all too well.

I used to suffer from rage (getting better now, as I know what’s going on). Yet, the dumbed down version of that is anger.

Anger, lashed out at someone (we all know), is a bad thing.

Fair enough!

But you can use that anger for great effect. You can use it to, ‘fuel your way to the top’.

Essentially, if you can control it, it is a great source of creative energy.

When you finally start fighting for every moment of your life, and you take control, obstacles will come and go.

Yes, keep finding peace in between the madness and don’t loose yourself completely. But if you can control your inner anger, not only will you tap into a source of great creative energy, you will also make changes with your life very quickly.

I’m supposed to write an article about mothers on mothering Sunday, but I thought as a tribute, I’ll write this:

If you can finally direct your life in the way you want it, and make your mum proud, wouldn’t that be the ultimate mothers day present?

I’ll leave you to answer that one;-)

Mindfulness While Doing Your Job: My Experiment-Part 2

Last week, I decided to do an experiment.

I wanted to find out if by practicing focusing on my breath, could I still maintain a mindfulness, ‘presence’ while doing my job. I figured that, out of all the techniques out there, half-focusing on my breath and half-thinking about the task at hand would be the best balance at being mindful while being at the workplace.

I wanted to give it just 7 days to see how it planned out.

Well, needless to say, I’ve learned a lot in those 7 days…I’ve learned more about how my mind worked, and I’ve also learned a lot about breathing while trying to focus on doing the task at hand.

I was able to stay somewhat present, although in the end I had to use a different technique altogether to achieve this.

The first thing I noticed was that I had to actually remember to be present to begin with. While this may not sound much, our EGO-based culture has ensured that mindfulness is more of a novelty than a minimum required way of living.

As such, I had to constantly remind my-self that I had to be, ‘present’ for this week due to this experiment.

This wasn’t easy.

As noted in my first article, I do tend to fantasize a lot, so actually remembering to be, ‘present’, when my imagination had far more fun and important things to think about was initially very difficult.

However, with reminders, I found myself actually enjoying the moment of remembering and being, ‘present’. Of course, that meant that I had to spend less time in my fantasy world, and more time here in physicality…which meant that I had to actually solve current problems that I was facing.

The weird thing was, while I was fantasying, my problems were automatically amplified. When I was, ‘present’, most of them seemed to just work themselves out. Food for thought;-)

Secondly, I had to actually implement a new technique to being mindful while doing tasks.

I couldn’t keep focusing on my breath and concentrating at the task at hand. I had to use more mental processing power than I originally thought.

True, focusing on your breath while thinking is doable, but the mental power is actually very small. Or to put it another way, if it is a very mundane task, like cleaning your house, focusing on your breath would probably keep you relatively, ‘present’.

However, for more complicated tasks, where more mental thought was needed for more complex problem solving, focusing on your breath just wasn’t going to work.

I needed a new technique to help me in being, ‘present’, yet being able to focus using more thoughts.

I came across a great blog, by Morty Lefkoe. He talks about how events do not have any  ingrained meaning, but only the meaning that you give it. Basically, everything you see in life, including your own life experiences, are just outcomes. If you want to attach meaning to them, that’s up to you.

When I began seeing everything in my life as just outcomes, my EGO seemed to just stop.

I was also able to properly focus at the task at hand, and as I was nearly, ‘present’ (in some cases, quite, ‘present’) I felt more inner peace.

In the end, I began seeing life as nothing more than outcomes to natural consciousness manifestations.

That is, whatever my consciousness, either conscious, sub-conscious, or super-conscious manifested, that would be the outcome I would experience.

If I wanted to label it, I could do. But that was my choice…it was ultimately nothing more but an outcome (similar to a mathematical equation, just giving out an answer…it’s up to you to give the answer a meaning).

I’m not trying to de-value life, merely trying to keep the EGO in it’s place.

As this is a blog about anxiety, you could say that the real question could be this: from a fear point of view, could this actually help you overcome any anxiety disorder?

I would answer that if remembered and practiced daily, I can’t see how this couldn’t dramatically help you reduce the effects, but I cannot say for sure.

Quite simply, there were some parts of my anxiety disorder still remaining (I do suffer from OCD, especially at night).

I found that your Amygdala is still very strong, going to bed. But I cannot see, providing you go to bed on time, why not?

Overall, I learn’t that I fantasized more than I realized, and that I have probably created neurons in my mind to make fantasying very easy. However, any scientist could tell you that with practice, new habits can be formed, which means new neurons would be wired in your brain.

With more practice, comes new behavior.

And with new behaviors comes a new way of life.

I will certainly see more of life as outcomes based, which should help dramatically reduce the fear that I sometimes experience at night, and therefore create new beliefs. I invite you to do the same;-)

The 4 biggest mistakes that panic attack sufferers face, and how you can avoid them

Thousands of people suffer from panic attacks, due to pressures from family and work-life every month. The problem with this, is that only some sufferers seek the treatment that they need to recover from a potentially life-changing experience. As a result, many carry on through life, never really fulfilling living their lifes purpose and leading a miserable life.

Having suffered from panic attacks myself, I understand the true gravity of the situation. They are not easy to live with, and can be very detrimental to the living of your life. Below, I have listed 4 main reasons which I believe are the cause as to why some people never fully recover.

1. They don’t know what a panic attack is

To recover from a panic attack, you need to fully recognize the symptoms. They include Dizziness, a feeling of terror, light-headiness, a racing heart, and de-personalisation (a feeling of being detached from your body) amongst others. Once you recognize these symptoms, you are better prepared to recognize the panic attack and learning to cope with it.

Think of it like driving a car. For you to drive successfully, you need to understand all of the tools in front of you (like the steering wheel, gears, brake pedal, etc.). Only then can you learn how to use them to your advantage.

2. They don’t take it seriously enough

It does sound harsh, but some people actually don’t take panic attacks seriously enough. To some, feeling dizzy, having a racing heart, and thinking you’re going to pass out is just one experience that they think will never happen again. They don’t realize that if untreated, panic attacks can flair up anywhere, at anytime.

Going back to the driving analogy, you wouldn’t put a half-assed attempt into learning to drive a car (you’ll be wasting both your money and your time!). You would make sure that you learn everything you need to learn, so that when you are on the road, you are not only comfortable, but also a safe driver.

That is why you need to take it seriously enough to get help immediately! If you don’t fully diagnose the problem, you could end up creating coping strategies to avoid certain things in your life, like traveling down a particular route to get to work, or avoiding supermarkets in general. All because you’re scared of having a panic attack.

3. They don’t have a, ‘system’ to follow

In order for you to recover from panic attacks, you need to have a proper system to follow. The problem with panic attacks, is that while the symptoms will never change, everybody is different and one treatment for one sufferer may not have the same effect on another sufferer.

For example, being mindful (the ability to be, ‘present’) is actually a very good way to coping and reducing a panic attack. However, some people find that being mindful is a mind-fall job (forgive the bad pun;-). To some, learning to be, ‘present’ is tough enough to begin with, not alone learning to do it when your mind is racing with terrifying thoughts.

Going back to driving the car, you wouldn’t just turn the key and expect to drive away, would you? You would need to check your mirrors, make sure you are in the correct gear, before driving off.

That is where learning different strategies comes into play. In the above case, using a distraction method would be best suited to the sufferer concerned, as they would have a hard time in being, ‘present’.

4. They don’t set a realistic time for recovery

Look, I know we are in a society that expects everything now, and while recovering from a panic attack is a simple process, it does take time.

You wouldn’t hop into a car just after the first few lessons, and expect to pass your test and be road worthy, would you? Same with recovering from a panic attack. It takes time to actually master the simple techniques, so that when the going does get tough you can quickly employ them and recover in as shortish time as possible.

That is why I like Wale Oladipo’s eBook, ‘The Essential Guide To Anxiety Panic Recovery‘. He doesn’t pull any punches when it comes to describing what anxiety is, and how it can increase over time. Not only that, but he comes out with a pretty good analogy himself, describing your subconscious as a reservoir, which overflows (anxiety condition) when it gets full (negative emotion).

I really liked his analogy, because in my opinion it describes anxiety at it best. You have to be really wary of any negative thoughts and feelings that you entertain and the more techniques you learn to cope with panic attacks, the easier it is to recover from them.

If you do want to follow a good system, I do personally recommend Wale Oladipo’s, ‘The Essential Guide To Anxiety Panic Recovery‘. It’s a short eBook (under 60 pages) which gives you good practical tips on recovering from not only panic attacks, but also loneliness and defeating negative thinking (which are crucial in recovering from long-term panic.).

When I read his eBook, I began to understand how important mindfulness really was, and now I implement it as much as possible. By doing this, I am also re-wiring my subconscious, so I can think slight differently in situations that can cause me stress, which could ultimately lead onto a panic attack.

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Mindfulness While Doing Your Job: My Experiment

Everybody knows the benefits of mindfulness meditation.

From improved concentration, to even the ability to age slowly to restoration of peace of mind. And we can take this into the workplace, so we can be more productive with our tasks and be more happier in what we are doing.

What I’m saying is that being mindful has numerous benefits and if you can take this into the workplace, a place when you can get stressed very easily, your chances of panic attack recovery increases dramatically.

Even in a workplace where you find the workload dull and boring, mindfulness can be a great way in keeping yourself from being distracted, and therefore stopping mistakes by distraction from creeping in.

By stopping yourself from being distracted, you are consistently producing a higher quality of work, which should keep you in favor of your job and should, thanks to the decreased effects of the Amygdala, keep you as stress free as possible.

You see, I was going to write an article about mindfulness while actually doing your job. But then I decided against it for numerous reasons.

The Dilemma

When you are mindful, you are essentially in the, ‘hear and now’.

That’s fine, and we all need it to keep our stress levels at bay, stop panic attacks from flaring up, and ultimately have good peace of mind. The problem is in trying to be mindful enough to being present, yet still, ‘think’ as part of our job.

This was the dilemma I faced fairly recently. Being mindful while being at the work place… how can you be mindful, yet think in order to do your job?

Do you try to be present in between the small jobs you are doing, i.e. every small minute you have of free time?

This could seem slightly arduous, that only a very strong disciplined mind can achieve. We need to find something a bit more practical and more realistic to obtain; something that you can get into a habit of…that is to say, practicing it until you can do it without giving it a thought.

So instead of writing about mindfulness in the workplace, I’m going to do a 7 day experiment.

Starting from today, I’m going to incorporate a certain technique into my day-to-day running of things, and see how it will affect my way of thinking, my general focus, and ultimately my beliefs (I’m thinking that if I’m, ‘present’ as much as possible, surely this may indirectly affect what I believe in).

The Technique

In order for me to pull this off, I’m going to have to employ a famous mindfulness technique which is one that can be done using the tiniest of thinking power: Breathing.

I’m going to focus on my breathing, while trying to think about the task I am trying to achieve.

I have already done an earlier test on this, and found the results quite surprising; I found that although I could still think, I couldn’t daydream as easily as I could (I used to be a heavy fantasizer in days gone by).

And while my thoughts were quite clear, I found that I felt more at peace than when I was thinking fully.

The Drawback

Of course with any experiment, there will be some problems.

The first one I anticipate is the fantasying. I am big into day dreaming. I know it isn’t productive (i.e. it doesn’t help with achieving your goals, unless you focus that daydreaming into visualization) but I do fantasize quite a bit while doing my chores. So I don’t expect myself to be focused on my breath as much as I would like to.

Also, this is also sleep dependent. Having insomnia means that unless you have a great nights sleep, experiments like these are usually meaningless.

That is, unless you feel generally refreshed to begin with, people with attentional problems (like myself) find it hard to concentrate alone, not alone be mindful.

I’m hoping that if I can keep being focused on my breath slightly, my thoughts (although slow) will be more focused so I can still achieve my goals in the quickest time possible, while retaining the internal willpower and inner peace of mind that we expect mindfulness to achieve.

Keep in tune for the results next week;-)