The Top 7 Mistakes People Make About Meditation

Meditation is fast becoming popular, and more and more people are seeing the benefits of meditating. It is certainly a great tool to not only reduce an onset of a panic attack and long term anxiety, but also help you reconnect to your soul.

Here, we look at the top 7 mistakes people make when it comes to meditation. Be sure that you don’t fall for these;-)

Thinking it is boring

The idea that we have to sit or lay still to quieten the mind, for the most parts, may seem like a boring thing to do. And that’s the issue right there. You are not doing anything at all, but being. Meditation is about stilling the mind (as much as possible) and to achieve a being’ness state of pure awareness.

And the reason is not only due to the numerous health benefits to the mind (and as a result, your body due to the mind-body connection) but also due to the lovely rush of relaxing, energizing feeling you get when you do meditate.

Have to be in the lotus position

This is a classic fear. I sometimes come across people who will not meditate, because they don’t want to put their legs in that crossed position.

I don’t blame them as it’s not the easiest posture to maintain if you are not used to it. (I mean, great if you are into Yoga, but not so great if you are just starting out).

But here’s the thing…meditation can be done anywhere, in any (reasonable) position.

I frequently meditate laying in my bed, first thing in the morning, and even sitting in a cramped car. You don’t need to sit up straight, if that is too uncomfortable for you.Whatever position works best for you, that is the position that you need to be in.

Not aloud to think

Another classic error in thinking about meditation, is the ability not to think. I hate to break this too you, but forcing yourself not too think is not only stress inducing, but that is also not how our mind works. Whatever you focus on expands, so by trying hard not too think, you are essentially fueling your mind to do just that…think.

Or to put it another way; if I said to you to never, ever, ever think of an apple, the chances are you are going to think of an apple. And that’s fine by the way, this is how our mind works, good or bad.

The thing is to not care about it, which is why one of the best meditations out there is open ended meditation, which is the ability to simply observe your thoughts without judgment. This is a great way to becoming present.

Sounds too complicated

Another thing can be off putting is the idea of not knowing where to start. There are some many different types of meditations out there, and of course, people have an image of a certain Yoga position. All of this can seem very overwhelming and complicated.

The truth is anything but. Meditation can be as simple as just observing your breath while you are walking.

How easy is that?

Just this alone is a great way to becoming mindful, connect you to nature, and maintain peace. If you would prefer, you can lie down and watch your thoughts instead, like watching a TV program. Both would work great.

Have no interest in it

I was once speaking to my sister when she was driving me somewhere, and I was trying to explain the benefits of grounding yourself when you are around negative people. The subject of meditation, naturally, came up. To which she responded, ‘Why should I care?’.

It’s a good question.

Why should we care about meditation…I mean, why actually bother at all?

Well, let’s put it this way, there is a whole body of reasons that promotes meditation to be good for your mind and body, from increased cognitive function and improved memory, to improved cardiovascular health and a slowing down of aging.

Quite simply, we bother because meditation is not only good for you, but once you get good at it, it’s free. You can use paid guided meditations, but ultimately, just walking somewhere is a great opportunity to meditate. That is why you should care;-)

Relying on guided meditation

Guided meditations can be great, don’t get me wrong, and especially useful for someone who cannot control their imagination and their mind. But don’t rely exclusively for it, just like you can’t rely exclusively on your driving instructor after you passed the test of driving a car. You will need to experience meditating on your own, with no help what-soever.

And that is fine, by the way, as the one biggest drawback of guided meditation is that you are limited to the length of the practice.

When you do it solo, you can decide to stop when you want, and how you want. You have flexibility on your side.

On top of that, if you are not careful you may turn guided meditation into a sort of crutch which will obviously backfire, so it is useful to alternate being guided and solo meditation. Food for thought.

Don’t have time

Some people lead the most busiest of lifes, because we are trained to be like that, yet all you need is a minimum of 5 minutes in the morning and 5 minutes at night. Doing this on a regular basis will allow you to feel the effect of meditation, enough (hopefully) to lengthen the practice.

Of course, if you don’t even have 5 minutes to spare, one needs to really have a look at their life, and to re-prioritize their daily tasks. Your mind and body depends on this (and you won’t complain if you look younger;-)

 

The 4 biggest mistakes that panic attack sufferers face, and how you can avoid them

Thousands of people suffer from panic attacks, due to pressures from family and work-life every month. The problem with this, is that only some sufferers seek the treatment that they need to recover from a potentially life-changing experience. As a result, many carry on through life, never really fulfilling living their lifes purpose and leading a miserable life.

Having suffered from panic attacks myself, I understand the true gravity of the situation. They are not easy to live with, and can be very detrimental to the living of your life. Below, I have listed 4 main reasons which I believe are the cause as to why some people never fully recover.

1. They don’t know what a panic attack is

To recover from a panic attack, you need to fully recognize the symptoms. They include Dizziness, a feeling of terror, light-headiness, a racing heart, and de-personalisation (a feeling of being detached from your body) amongst others. Once you recognize these symptoms, you are better prepared to recognize the panic attack and learning to cope with it.

Think of it like driving a car. For you to drive successfully, you need to understand all of the tools in front of you (like the steering wheel, gears, brake pedal, etc.). Only then can you learn how to use them to your advantage.

2. They don’t take it seriously enough

It does sound harsh, but some people actually don’t take panic attacks seriously enough. To some, feeling dizzy, having a racing heart, and thinking you’re going to pass out is just one experience that they think will never happen again. They don’t realize that if untreated, panic attacks can flair up anywhere, at anytime.

Going back to the driving analogy, you wouldn’t put a half-assed attempt into learning to drive a car (you’ll be wasting both your money and your time!). You would make sure that you learn everything you need to learn, so that when you are on the road, you are not only comfortable, but also a safe driver.

That is why you need to take it seriously enough to get help immediately! If you don’t fully diagnose the problem, you could end up creating coping strategies to avoid certain things in your life, like traveling down a particular route to get to work, or avoiding supermarkets in general. All because you’re scared of having a panic attack.

3. They don’t have a, ‘system’ to follow

In order for you to recover from panic attacks, you need to have a proper system to follow. The problem with panic attacks, is that while the symptoms will never change, everybody is different and one treatment for one sufferer may not have the same effect on another sufferer.

For example, being mindful (the ability to be, ‘present’) is actually a very good way to coping and reducing a panic attack. However, some people find that being mindful is a mind-fall job (forgive the bad pun;-). To some, learning to be, ‘present’ is tough enough to begin with, not alone learning to do it when your mind is racing with terrifying thoughts.

Going back to driving the car, you wouldn’t just turn the key and expect to drive away, would you? You would need to check your mirrors, make sure you are in the correct gear, before driving off.

That is where learning different strategies comes into play. In the above case, using a distraction method would be best suited to the sufferer concerned, as they would have a hard time in being, ‘present’.

4. They don’t set a realistic time for recovery

Look, I know we are in a society that expects everything now, and while recovering from a panic attack is a simple process, it does take time.

You wouldn’t hop into a car just after the first few lessons, and expect to pass your test and be road worthy, would you? Same with recovering from a panic attack. It takes time to actually master the simple techniques, so that when the going does get tough you can quickly employ them and recover in as shortish time as possible.

That is why I like Wale Oladipo’s eBook, ‘The Essential Guide To Anxiety Panic Recovery‘. He doesn’t pull any punches when it comes to describing what anxiety is, and how it can increase over time. Not only that, but he comes out with a pretty good analogy himself, describing your subconscious as a reservoir, which overflows (anxiety condition) when it gets full (negative emotion).

I really liked his analogy, because in my opinion it describes anxiety at it best. You have to be really wary of any negative thoughts and feelings that you entertain and the more techniques you learn to cope with panic attacks, the easier it is to recover from them.

If you do want to follow a good system, I do personally recommend Wale Oladipo’s, ‘The Essential Guide To Anxiety Panic Recovery‘. It’s a short eBook (under 60 pages) which gives you good practical tips on recovering from not only panic attacks, but also loneliness and defeating negative thinking (which are crucial in recovering from long-term panic.).

When I read his eBook, I began to understand how important mindfulness really was, and now I implement it as much as possible. By doing this, I am also re-wiring my subconscious, so I can think slight differently in situations that can cause me stress, which could ultimately lead onto a panic attack.

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Mindfulness While Doing Your Job: My Experiment

Everybody knows the benefits of mindfulness meditation.

From improved concentration, to even the ability to age slowly to restoration of peace of mind. And we can take this into the workplace, so we can be more productive with our tasks and be more happier in what we are doing.

What I’m saying is that being mindful has numerous benefits and if you can take this into the workplace, a place when you can get stressed very easily, your chances of panic attack recovery increases dramatically.

Even in a workplace where you find the workload dull and boring, mindfulness can be a great way in keeping yourself from being distracted, and therefore stopping mistakes by distraction from creeping in.

By stopping yourself from being distracted, you are consistently producing a higher quality of work, which should keep you in favor of your job and should, thanks to the decreased effects of the Amygdala, keep you as stress free as possible.

You see, I was going to write an article about mindfulness while actually doing your job. But then I decided against it for numerous reasons.

The Dilemma

When you are mindful, you are essentially in the, ‘hear and now’.

That’s fine, and we all need it to keep our stress levels at bay, stop panic attacks from flaring up, and ultimately have good peace of mind. The problem is in trying to be mindful enough to being present, yet still, ‘think’ as part of our job.

This was the dilemma I faced fairly recently. Being mindful while being at the work place… how can you be mindful, yet think in order to do your job?

Do you try to be present in between the small jobs you are doing, i.e. every small minute you have of free time?

This could seem slightly arduous, that only a very strong disciplined mind can achieve. We need to find something a bit more practical and more realistic to obtain; something that you can get into a habit of…that is to say, practicing it until you can do it without giving it a thought.

So instead of writing about mindfulness in the workplace, I’m going to do a 7 day experiment.

Starting from today, I’m going to incorporate a certain technique into my day-to-day running of things, and see how it will affect my way of thinking, my general focus, and ultimately my beliefs (I’m thinking that if I’m, ‘present’ as much as possible, surely this may indirectly affect what I believe in).

The Technique

In order for me to pull this off, I’m going to have to employ a famous mindfulness technique which is one that can be done using the tiniest of thinking power: Breathing.

I’m going to focus on my breathing, while trying to think about the task I am trying to achieve.

I have already done an earlier test on this, and found the results quite surprising; I found that although I could still think, I couldn’t daydream as easily as I could (I used to be a heavy fantasizer in days gone by).

And while my thoughts were quite clear, I found that I felt more at peace than when I was thinking fully.

The Drawback

Of course with any experiment, there will be some problems.

The first one I anticipate is the fantasying. I am big into day dreaming. I know it isn’t productive (i.e. it doesn’t help with achieving your goals, unless you focus that daydreaming into visualization) but I do fantasize quite a bit while doing my chores. So I don’t expect myself to be focused on my breath as much as I would like to.

Also, this is also sleep dependent. Having insomnia means that unless you have a great nights sleep, experiments like these are usually meaningless.

That is, unless you feel generally refreshed to begin with, people with attentional problems (like myself) find it hard to concentrate alone, not alone be mindful.

I’m hoping that if I can keep being focused on my breath slightly, my thoughts (although slow) will be more focused so I can still achieve my goals in the quickest time possible, while retaining the internal willpower and inner peace of mind that we expect mindfulness to achieve.

Keep in tune for the results next week;-)

 

How To Use Heart Energy To Reduce A Panic Attack

Using Heart energy is a great way to reduce anxiety and panic attacks, and can slowly be used to self-heal and help your desires come true.

It is something which is rarely discussed in helping you overcome anxiety, which is a big shame because it is a very powerful tactic.

But what exactly is Heart energy and how does it help you overcome anxiety to begin with?

Heart energy is essentially unconditional love, and emanates from the Heart Chakra.

You body is connected to the non-physical, and has 7 Chakras which transports the life energy or Qi to the main vital organs for nourishment.

Your chakras are responsible for many things, including your psychology as well as self-healing. Your Heart Chakra is located outside of your heart, and is the gateway to the spiritual world.

Quite simply, as unconditional love is the, ‘oil’ of the multi-verse, your Heart Chakra pretty much helps with the formation of your desires.

It is also used to help reduce anxiety, and can be a great tool in help you feel more relaxed and calm, thereby reducing the onset of a panic attack and helping you keep a relaxed, focused frame of mind.

By using Heart energy, you are essentially reducing the effects of an overstimulated Amygdala (the part which causes you to feel anxious to begin with) and helping bring about a more desired reality…two for the price of one!

When you start using Heart energy to help anxiety, situations which normally causes you to stress out and panic are usually resolved more calmly, and you also help re-programme your subconscious, so that you to get stressed to the same level again.

All this helps promote self-healing.

So how do we get into the habit of using heart energy to dissolve fear-based situations, and then how do we learn to live with heart energy on a regular basis?

The trick is to recognize unconditional love, and then try to get into a habit in living in your, ‘Heart space’.

There is a wonderful way we do this…

To start off, we need to feel unconditional love to begin with. Start by first closing your eyes, and imagine hugging somebody you greatly love and adore.

It doesn’t have to be a vivid visualization, but vivid enough so that you can, ‘feel’ the person hugging you fairly tightly. This works best if it is someone that you love deeply or fancy.

As you hug someone, notice any feelings of love coming from your Heart area, and let the feelings slowly engulf your whole being.

You may feel slightly light and even energized. That’s fine, don’t give up, and accept the feelings as they are.

As you can now recognize unconditional love, you can now use this to help recover from an impending panic attack, or an episode of social anxiety.

Next time you are in a situation that can cause you to panic, use these feelings to help reduce any anxiety that is starting to crop up. You should feel more relaxed and focused in doing this.

So now we can reduce a panic attack with love, we need to learn how to live with love as part of our day-to-day lives, so that we can re-wire our mind to reduce panic in the future.

What we need, is an easy technique which we can, ‘switch’ on, so that the love starts to flow easily and effortlessly from our Heart area, so we feel more confident and even energized in the process.

The simple way of doing this is to see other people and objects as extensions of your self.

This means people, rocks, roads, cars, trees…everything!

You may have to pretend first, but try to see that desk, or that cup of coffee as an extension to your EGO.

By doing this, love will flow from your being, and you will come to experience and realize the ultimate truth; that you are one with the multi-verse.

Doing this on a regular basis has it’s own rewards. Not only will you re-wire your subconscious so you stop feeling anxiety in certain situations, you will also draw experiences that you prefer closer to you as well.

And the best part is…it feels great;-)

 

How To Reduce The Effect Of A Negative Person In 3 Simple Ways!

Watch out for people who suck out your energy!

They may come in various disguises and in various forms. You may find them in high authoritative positions, or it could be even as close as members of your own family or friends.

Watch out for these people, because when it comes to recovering from a panic disorder, and ultimately going on to the spiritual path, these people will block you from success.

They may not even be consciously aware that they are doing it!

So engrossed in their own behaviors and programmes, that they will justify their actions saying that they are only, ‘looking out for you’, or that you may be, ‘weird’.

But if you really want to keep your stress levels low, and as a result, recover from your panic condition, these people need to be recognized and weeded out of you life.

Why?

Quite simply, they will stall your recovery!

So you suffer from panic attacks, or you have anxiety related depression, and you want to recover and lead a happier lifestyle…

Do you seriously think this is going to happen if you are under the roof of somebody who continuously drains you of negative energy, by listening to their negative thinking?

Of course not!

In some circles, these people would be called energy vampires. I don’t necessarily call them that, but I mention that term here for your reference.

So, how do you stop them?

You firstly need to recognize their main characteristics. They often display the following:

-Slightly-to-severe narcissism

-Cynical

-Aggressive

-Slightly-to-severe in-approachability

-No consideration for your feelings (obviously)

-You feel their negative energy, even if they are not outwardly aggressive

-Slightly-to-severe form of righteous

-A form of arrogance

The trick, ultimately, is to feel sorry for them.

Feeling sorry for them stops any anger buried deep inside of you from springing up and stopping you from being, ‘present’ and allows compassion to flow from your being.

They act like this due to social conditioning. Their life has been far from perfect, but instead of admitting that they have made a few mistakes (like we all do), they develop an arrogance and try to consciously (or subconsciously) bring you down.

Don’t forget, their life wasn’t great, so yours shouldn’t be either!

So how do you overcome these people?

I have personally found 3 main ways which work:

1 – Mindfulness in the moment

This is one of my favorite ones, as it really helps, ‘ground’ yourself and allows you to keep your inner peace.

Sometimes you feel that much negative energy, that the only way you can stop your personal energy being, ‘sucked out’ is to keep yourself being, ‘present’ which helps your subconscious thoughts not get too influenced by their thinking.

The easiest technique I have found for being mindful with these people around is to simply keep my attention on my breath. This alone, whilst it may sound simple, is a great way to keep yourself being focused in the present moment which will naturally help increase your inner personal power and will also keep your inner peace so you don’t feel drained.

2 – The Ball of love.

Sometimes you have no choice but to engage in a conversational activity with these people.

You have to actually think, which of course will loose your presence and could open yourself to be subconsciously influenced (actually think and say thoughts which are not necessarily your own).

The easiest way to deal with this situation is to imagine a big ball of love envelop and, ‘cocooning’ your body, so that any negative consciousness heading in your direction is, ‘repelled’. Again, sounds simple and works an absolute treat.

3 – Sending compassion their way

If you can, (and you are psychologically strong enough) open up your Heart Chakra and mentally, ‘throw’ love in their way. This alone will help diffuse any negative energy and will also help reduce your current stress levels, leaving your chances of recovering from a panic disorder a lot easier.

Sending love or compassion is always a great way of distant healing anyway, so you will (at a deep subconscious level) be helping them overcome their own negative imagery that they will be having.

By loving them as best you can, not only will you be stopping yourself at getting angry and stressed, but you will also be helping them get to their inner peace as well.

Recovering from a panic disorder is a tough nut to crack, but being with people who suck your positive energy out of you isn’t any better either, and you’ll have a hard time trying to recover.

Don’t be one of those people wanting to recover, but who surround themselves with negativity.

Be positive, be spiritually smart and be spiritually strong. You’ll be glad you did.

 

3 Ways To Reduce Panic Using Heart Energy

Heart energy is vastly underrated!

Did you know, that you can use heart energy to not only reduce anxiety but also influence the super-consious to bring about your desired outcome?

Did you also know, that repetitive use of heart energy can also allow you to slowly help heal yourself and even overcome some psychological issues as well?

I’m not just talking about being negative, but using heart energy to overcome depression, general anxiety, social anxiety, panic attacks and much more.

It’s all very well using EFT, PS-TEC, mindfulness meditation, and even NLP, but if you don’t add heart energy into the mix, you are essentially driving a Ferrari in 3rd gear with flat (ish) tires…

Yes, that is how good heart energy is! It it essentially the added lubricant which will not only help the rest of your other tactics to work, but work extremely well.

“But what is heart energy?”

It is essentially opening up your Heart Chakra (or balancing it out if you prefer), so that you feel a deep love and compassion flow from it.

This may not sound much, but considering that love always trumps over fear, you will be essentially calming yourself and your Amygdala down (the very thing that is causing the issue to begin with).

Using heart energy, you are able to be more relaxed (reducing stress and even OCD) which in turn will help you be more focused, so that you can think more clearly and have a more healthier and happier lifestyle.

So what has all this got to do with panic attacks, then?

Well, put it like this…

Heart energy will make recovery from panic attacks that little bit more quicker.

When you consciously start using heart energy on the deliberate basis, more love comes into your life (due to the fact that consciousness creates form, law of attraction, etc…).

This also means that you become more calmer and reduce your panic, which ultimately mean that you start to re-program your mind to think differently in stress-inducing situations.

So, what are the best ways of doing this then?

Well, there are 3 main ways which I use, which should yield the best result for you.

1 – ‘Touching your lover’ technique.

Ok, the first one we will look at is the one which I first started with.

The technique is actually pretty simple.

All you do is to close your eyes, take a few deep breaths so you go within, and then to visualize hugging somebody that you absolutely adore. Somebody who will really love and admire.

When you do this, notice the feelings of warmth and compassion feel your heart area and how it slow floods your very being.

This is your heart energy!

Feels good, doesn’t it;-)

Try to be in this loving state for about 5-10 mins, so you get used to the feeling of unconditional love. If you want to be really clever, try to tap with a finger of your choice (such as your wedding finger) a few times to create an association.

When you open your eyes to come out of this altered state, tapping with the finger before should be able to, ‘activate’ the feeling of love.

But if you want to, just simply pretend and fantasize you are hugging that same person as you go about your day.

2 – ‘The Naughty One’ technique

I’ve called it the, ‘naughty one’ for a reason, as it involved self pleasure and sexual imagery.

But it’s not to be dismissed either, as when you get into a habit of it (especially you people with a high sex drive), it can be a great way of activating your Heart Chakra and can even help you prolong an orgasm.

Again, pretty simple: Begin to massage your pleasure area, and as you become increasingly aroused, using just the power of your mind, let the sexual imagery rise up your spine.

As you keep doing this, two things will happen: you’ll prolong the sexual feelings without ejaculation (semen control for guys is an absolute must!) and you’ll also open up your Heart Chakra.

Two for the price of one!

If you can get really good at it (and if you’ve got a really good imagination), next time you see a pretty picture (over 18 years old, of course!), try to move the lustful feelings without even touching your-self, into your Heart area.

After a while, you should feel more calmer and more relaxed.

3 – ‘The people’ technique.

I’ve saved the best one ’till last, as not only does it help reduce a panic attack (especially if you suffer from a form of social anxiety), but it also helps promote the oneness with the multi-verse as well. Bear with me as I try to explain…

Basically, what you are going to do is to use other people and objects to open your Heart Chakra without actually fantasying.

Sounds mad, but stay with me here…

Next time you are in a social situation or standing in a queue, try to see the people as extensions of your EGO.

You might need to pretend first (that’s fine), but try to see your EGO extending beyond your body, and involving other people as well.

Try to include other objects for better results, and you’ll find that love will start to poor from your heart.

These three techniques I personally use, and have yielded great results.

Adding heart energy to your array of weaponry against ongoing panic is a surefire way to success in recovering from a panic disorder.

And you may never know, you may even have a great life as well;-)