Emotional sensitivity and the Golden Light protection method

Being sensitive isn’t what it is cracked up to be, I can assure you.

In fact, most of the time, being sensitive is more of a curse than a blessing.

You see, I was always a sensitive person even from a young age. I expressed emotion a lot, whether it was tears of sadness, or joy.

Little did I know that I was also attracting other peoples energys towards me, calling it my own…. That will be a lesson that I would finally discover later in my life.

Then something happened.

I began to grow up

I revised for my exams, and my sensitivity began to turn against me!

It was probably due to the stress…

It first began with sleep. That began to suffer. I soon found myself having later and later nights.

Once upon a time, I would be in bed by 10’ish. Now, in college, I as going to bed as late as 12! (and when doing your A-levels, that is never a good idea).

On top of that, I would also wake up at around 7 in the morning, feeling groggy, and trudging down to the canteen to have my breakfast.

Boy, was I so wazzed out in the mornings.

This would begin my insomnia, which would take another decade and a half for me to have a remote grip on…

Talk about an uphill battle!

Then, I went to work for the first time in my life after I left college, and my sensitivity took a dark turn…

No longer was it about joy, but now discipline. I had to focus and be attentive. I had to be able to meet deadlines.

I was helping customer queries on the phone in a busy environment, which is hard even for a very logical person to deal with.

This would come with obvious mental consequences

The next would be concentration, and then memory. I soon found myself forgetting even the smallest things….this made my sleep even worse, and I began finding myself withdrawing more and more.

I became irrationally bitter and angry, for almost no reason. And of course, I was in an work environment, so I couldn’t lash out at anyone.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Fast forward 10 years, and I am well and truly involved in the spiritual journey.

I meditate on a regular basis, and I try to develop love wherever possible. I was learning about the merchanics of the soul, and I was having a few out-of-body experiences.

But I still felt peoples energy’s.

And that’s a problem!

What I hadn’t realised, was that due to my emotional sensitivity, I had very thin-walls

My subconscious was easily manipulatable

This meant that I would pick up on peoples energys more quickly than other people.

Like anything in life, having a thin-walled subconscious can be both a good and a bad thing…

On the plus side, it can be a great thing, because once you have leant to use your tool, life can become more simpler and  you are able to feel emotion more easily and effortlessly.

Plus you can manifest change that little bit quicker.

It could also be argued that you could remote view and remote influence more effectively as well. (but that topic will be for another day;-). Or to put it another way, you become more proficient with your psychic abilities.

The bad news is, that if you don’t understand the subconscious, you will be buffeted around by other peoples energetics.

And that’s not good if you don’t know yourself!

You will feel like you are in hell, so please pay attention to this article, as you could benefit tremendously from it.

Because until I discovered my subconscious, I was going through that hell.

I was constantly emotional, which meant that I couldn’t focus easily either at work or at home.

This led to developing addictions.

This was until I discovered the Golden Light Protection method.

And guess what?

This changed everything

Think of the golden shield as a steering wheel of a car…

You can have the best car in the world, but if you even attempt to steer the car using the original knob (what the wheel sits on top of), you will find it hard going turning that metal cylinder.

It will rub and hurt your hand. It may even cause bleeding, especially at top speed!

Add a nice leather steering wheel, and you’ve got options.

Not only are your hands protected, but you have a greater degree of accuracy wherever you wish to drive (and leather always feels nice to touch;-).

That is how good the Golden Light is.

It’s a simple exercise, and can work with anyone, but especially those who can feel emotions very easily.

The Golden Light protection is a method I got from Gerald O’Donnell, so all credit goes to him. And I now use it as frequently as I can to help stop the negative thoughts of others (and sometimes myself) influencing my inner love and peace.

Developing your Golden Light has the following benefits to you.

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-It allows you to keep your calm when there is a lot of negativity around.

-It keeps you slightly centred/grounded, so you can think more clearly.

-You will open up your Heart Chakra, which will release more Oxytocin into your blood, which has many health benefits (and is also great for sports performance)

-It stops you from being angry, allowing you to focus on your goals and becoming more productive.

-This in turn helps you with your job, your family and even your friends, which means that you can have more fun and happy times with them.

Creating and maintaining the Golden Light is is not as difficult as it sounds, and is pretty simple to maintain.

1. To start, just take a few moments to become mindful and attentive to this moment. Take a few deep breaths and feel yourself becoming mindful, the purpose being to clear your mind and be grounded.

2. Well you feel mentally clear and very relaxed, close your eyes and imagine golden light about the size of an egg that can cover your body swirling around you in a clockwise direction.

3. Imagine this turning into a shield covering you from head to toe, and being dazzled by it golden light, as it swirls around you quicker and faster than ever before. By now, you should be able to feel your Heart Chakra opening up and feel love encompass your body.

4. Try to keep this visualization up for a few minutes, until you feel very relaxed, peace and love, and then open your eyes.

You are essentially good to go!

Every-time you feel stiffled emotionally, or you can feel the negativity of others, just quickly visualize golden threads whizzing around your body at top speed, (You can do this with your eyes open if you want) filling you up with love and peace. (It goes without saying, but don’t try this in a moving vehicle, for obvious health and safety reasons)

Needless to say that when I did this, my emotions calmed down, and I began to feel almost empowered over my emotional state.

No longer was I going to be controlled by the emotions of other people, I was going to protect myself against that.

Combining this with mindfulness meditation, I found helped me also regulate my emotional control, which was benefited by the Golden Light. If you do find that you are using your shield a lot, then it may benefit you to practice meditating on a regular basis.

Meditation can be easy for some, not so easy for others. If you do find meditating difficult, I do recommend that you check out the ARVARI courses, which not only helps you meditate, but also helps you do other great stuff with your minds eye, such as increasing your intuition. To find out more details on the ARVARI course, please click here.

Practice the Golden Light protection method as many times as you like, and let me know how you get on with it.

Till next time,

Julian.

P.S. Using Golden Light to ward of negative energys to your aura is a great way to keeping yourself calm and re-focuses your energies without being too ungrounded and emotionally lost.

Creating a shield of Golden Light is not only easy to do, but has multiple health benefits, especially if you are emotionally sensitive.

Once you can get into a routine into maintaining this Golden Light when you feel emotionally exhausted not only wards of negative energy, but you will also feel peace and love and become more focused, which means you can lead a more abundant and happier lifestyle.

Combine this with meditation, and you have a great effective power-tool to use wherever you go.

To find out about other ways for meditation and to check out the ARVARI courses, please click here.

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The one exercise that could change your life, and 5 steps to achieve it.

I’m going to show you something that few people know…

This one exercise helped me start my spiritual journey.

The problem is, when we talk about, ‘life changing’ stuff, people automatically shut down.

It’s not our fault. We’re trained to do it.

However, I’m going to ask you to suspend your disbelief for just a few moments, and read this article in its entirety.

Because you never know, this article could be that, ‘gem in the rough’.

This could actually be life-changing!

You see, just like you, I was very sceptical.

No… actually I was a lot worse…

I was very cynical.

Being bought up in a cynical household, I had every reason to be.

That, and the very fact that I was also brought up as Roman Catholic.

So a church-goer, who is cynical, who had almost zilch passion for life.

Great combination

On top of that, I even thought that life was a waste of time.

After all, if we are all just skin and bones, being born just to pay tax and die into nothingness, then what was the point of it all? (as you can tell, I had a lot of friends;-).

Surely there is more to life that this?

And yet, as I went to church, there was a nagging feeling that there was something I was missing, the knowing of it would change everything.

Don’t you just love statements like that as well…

I will never forget the old story of the teenagers that are driving an old banger.

As they turn down a particularly nice, tidy street, they look around.

They see all of these nice clean posh houses, with lovely sports cars in their garages…

One guy looks at the other guy and says (the now infamous line), ‘There is something that we don’t know, the knowing of which will change everything‘.

I was like that 10 years ago.

Since then, I have asked a lot of deep questions, received very surprising answers and now meditate on a regular basis due to mental clarity as well as understanding some of the health benefits.

And it all began with a simple exercise,

that took less than 5 minutes

Actually, that’s a lie…

It all, truth be told, began with listening to a voice that told me to buy a certain book (which is still available online), which THEN led me to another book which talked about this exercise.

Before I forget, let me quickly tell you a few things…

This isn’t like any other exercises that you know (only a few of you will know this one).

This isn’t about opening your chakras, you even meditating deeply (that may come later…)

Or about EFT… although that’s very useful.

And it certainly isn’t about mindfulness either (although that could be a by-product of this).

Or about a visualization type of meditation exercise…not that there is anything wrong with those (of course;-).

This is something that for a few of you, will radically change how you perceive the world!

It did for me…

…and this is coming from a former cynic!

This is how good it can be

But before I carry on, just a few words of caution…

This exercise requires just two things: open mindedness and a mirror.

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Here’s why…

Opened mindedness is always crucial when trying a new exercise.

We’re so bombarded with crap info left, right and centre when it comes to online stuff, we have no idea who or what to trust.

That’s understandable and fair…

After all, whose fault is it that we are so sceptical? (and trust me, the answer isn’t yours;-)

So we are taught early on to not only develop our inner BS indicator, but also to fine tune it and listen to it as often as we can.

If we don’t we get burned.

Simple.

Yet, every now and again, a little bit of open mindedness can go along way. This is one of those times (again, don’t believe me, but try it and see for yourself;-)

and number 2, the mirror…

Well, lets just say that you’ll find out in a few moments;-)

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Enough waffling, here’s the exercise:

1 – Find a mirror that its around head height, or one which you can hold up to your face.

We are aiming to gaze into our own eyes, as the eyes are the windows to your soul. Of course, you have probably heard that loads of times, so this time, we are going to actually experience it, for experience creates wisdom (as you are about to discover, hopefully).

2 – Look at your eyes, and gaze at the black bits in the centre, that is called the pupil.

3 – Don’t strain hard, but gaze gently for a few minutes.

4 – What you should find is a deep peace which doesn’t emanate from your Heart area (this isn’t the Heart Chakra opening up, for once) but even more deeply from your centre of being.

5 – Keep gazing softly at your pupils until you have enough peace for the day;-)

That’s it.

Easy, wasn’t it

You may find that by doing this exercise, you might feel slightly light headed and feel you are going to faint and pass out.

Don’t worry abut this, as you’ll find that you should be able to stand up to the light headedness, enough to grow strong enough to handle the peace.

I remember when I first did this.

I was sceptical that it wasn’t going to work, and was so close to not even attempt this exercise (I still remember that moment to this very day.

Thank god I didn’t talk myself out of it! I remember walking to my bathroom, and looking into my eyes and felt like I was going to pass out.

But I didn’t, and survived long enough to tell the tale;-)

The whole experience lasted just a few minutes.

That was all I needed, and I began realising that I have been told a bunch of lies.

From that moment on, my BS indicator began getting better, as I could tell what information resonated with my being, and which stuff was just manipulation.

I also invite you to do the same, and begin seeing this as another simple meditation exercise (which it is!).

Of course, if you can combine this with meditating deeply, then that is even better.

Whilst I haven’t got the expertise to teach you, I know of someone who can.

His name is Gerald O’Donnell, and he has produced 2 courses which allow you to meditate deeply than ever before.

And when I mean deep, we’re talking about brainwaves that are into the Theta and even Delta range.

Now that’s deep!

Not only that, but these ARVARI courses can also help you increase you intuition, which can help you not only in your personal life but also reduce (and in some cases, avoid) dangerous situations before you find yourself involved in them.

To find out more about the ARVARI courses and to read my review, please click here.

Till next time

Julian

P.S. Looking into your eyes is a great way to connecting to your higher consciousness, or soul.

To do this requires that you use a mirror, and gaze gently at your pupils. By doing this, you will find a deep peace emanating deep within your centre of being.

Combining this with meditating deeply can bring some profound results. To find out more information about meditating deeply, please click here.

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Have a lot of nervous energy? Here’s 6 steps to get your peace back!

I’ll never forget the time I had read about ADD…

This is going back several years, and I already began the process of deconstructing the original stories that I was told when I was a kid.

Put simply, I was told a few things when I was very young, only half were remotely true.

So you can imagine my surprise that, when I began delving deeper into my mental issues, I came across ADD and began recognising a lot of the symptoms.

Just over 9 yeas ago, I moved out and into a whole new world of living on my own and the internet. Interestingly, my journey of self-discovery also began there.

The Journey had begun!

When I wasn’t gaming or watching porn (I am a former porn addict…I know, but I’m being honest here), I would read countless articles online.

I would also read many stories on people similar to myself, who had been almost duped by some of their peers.

Put it this way, I as told when I was younger that I had Aspergers syndrome, a particular type of autism. It turned out after studying my condition, that it was more similar to the symptoms of ADD (albeit a mild form) with symptom of mercury poisoning splashed in for good measure (thanks, Thimerosal!).

This is where it gets interesting…

All of this meant that my head was always in the clouds and that I couldn’t concentrate very easily.

Not necessarily a big deal in college (although you won’t be passing that many exams), but when you go to work and you get stressed, its a whole different ball game.

You see, when you are day-dreaming, you are essentially in the alpha state, which is the state to be in for hypnosis.

To sum this up, you essentially hypnotise yourself during stressful conditions, meaning that you take on a lot of bad beliefs without even realising it.

And don’t forget, your beliefs dictate you behaviours, so you are essentially in a funny, sick system, where you can buy all the self-improvement stuff that you want, (and even understand it all) but unable to implement barely 10% of it!

And that’s not fair

To my cost, I only truly realised this nearly 10 years later, and can now recognise the point when my mind feels slushy, and I know I’m heading for a hypnotic state.

I can pretty much snap out of this alpha state, although it sometimes takes a bit of effort.

And it isn’t always when I am sitting at a desk that I can slip into the alpha state, but can be when I am sometimes out and about, talking to people (this seems to happen quite a lot when I am talking to psychologically strong minded people…it’s as if their strong minds somehow renders my weak one useless…).

The thing is, ADD affects around 4% off the population for the US alone, and looks set to increase.

It can be really difficult to do tasks, especially if you are very sensitive as there is a lot of mental chaos in you brain. Even doing something that you partially enjoy can seem like a chore.

Boredom isn’t too far away!

And I can vouch for this.

For years, I have been in an office, where intense boredom mixed with intense stress taunted my mind for over 10 years.

When I finally moved department, it was like a big thick fog had lifted. I still had some thick mist mind you (thanks to insomnia) but it wasn’t nearly so bad.

So, what was the hack that I discovered, that not only helps you emotionally calm down and re-focus but is also a great way of calming the inner chatter in your mind, so that you can mindfully meditate a lot more easily.

Quite simply, all I do is tap.

That’s it.

This isn’t EFT in case you are wondering (well the last part is, but not the main steps).

I suspected that all of my fantasying came from one thing… an over-stimulated right-hemisphered brain.

I kinda realised that if I was getting a lot of nervous energy (I have always figited, and couldn’t sit still), I realised that I had a lot of energy inside me that I couldn’t use.

I also understood that I had to simply, ‘logicalise’ this energy, to calm my inner mind down and bring the balance of energy in my brain back.

This helped me get back my mind back to focus and peace.

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Or to put it another way, I was able to reduce the amount of imagery in my mind, by consciously moving my body, instead of subconsciously moving my body (and don’t forget, nervous energy is also an indication of an over-stimulated sympathetic nervous system).

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So what you do is this:

1– Notice the next time you are fantasying or are using a lot of nervous energy.

2– You may also notice the hidden anxiety (there will be some) and realise that your breathing is probably shallow.

3– When you notice that you are using nervous energy, you are unable to sit still, figiting around, daydreaming etc, start consciously tapping.

4– This can be done anywhere, on your body, at your desk…anywhere where you can tap without making a loud noise (best not to disturb people;-).

5– You will find that within 2 minutes, you will become more calm, more mindful, your breathing will be coming from you belly (not always, but sometimes) and you may even find that some Oxytocin will be released (feeling warm around your heart).

6– As a bonus second tip, you can use the EFT quick version, which is to try tapping your wrist with 2 fingers, as this can help the meridians disperse the nervous energy.

Tapping when you get nervous is an excellent simple and free way to reduce the brain chaos and to help steer the ship around, so to speak.

By doing this when you get nervous, you will reduce your anxiety so you can feel more at peace and be more productive with your goals, so you can lead a more happier and abundant lifestyle.

You can also combine this with your meditation practice.

Find a place to sit or lie down, and tap your fingers consciously to help reduce your inner mind imagery if you have difficulty in calming your mind down.

You will find that by doing this for a short while will allow you to achieve mindfulness that little bit more quicker, and you will be able to achieve peace more easier and effortlessly than ever before.

If you do want to find an equally easier way to meditate deeper, you can try the ARVARI courses by Gerald O’Donnell. They are a CD course which, when listened to, allow you to enter very deep states of meditation from Alpha to Delta.

If you wish to find out more details and to read my review, click here.

Till next time

Julian.

P.S. Day-dreaming most of the time can mean that you may have a symptom of ADD, especially if you have a lot of nervous energy, or that you cannot sit still. This can be disruptive in school or work, and can cause issues with your mental health and your family.

Tapping consciously can be a great way to bring mental clarity back and can help you remain calm in nervous situations. By tapping your fingers, you can help calm yourself down emotionally, bringing peace, being able to re-focus as well as making mindfulness more easier for you.

Practising meditation is another great way to help keep you focused. If you want to find out how to achieve very deep states of meditation and to find out more details on the ARVARI course, please click here.

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The Vagus Nerve as your secret weapon, and 6 steps to activate it!

I love your Vagus nerve.

It is one of the most powerful nerves in your body, yet least talked about.

And I’m not quite sure why…

Here’s the thing.

There is a good chance that you have never heard of your vagus nerve, or that you have heard of it, but have little or no knowledge about it.

There is another good chance that if you are visiting my blog, you probably have some anxiety issue of some description, and you are looking for a decent relief from it.

What if I were to tell you that your vagus nerve is the epicentre of all of your healing stories?

Or to put it another way; if you wish to begin your self-healing (and note the word begin) it all starts with your vagus nerve!

Have I lost you yet?

Good.

So, let me quickly explain what the heck the vagus nerve is all about and how, by using a simple 6 part process, can bring about quick mental peace.

Because this crap is about to get real, real quick!

What exactly is it?

As the name suggests, your vagus nerve is the only nerve to stem from your brain and touch every main organ in your body, and is your interface between your parasympathetic nervous system (feelings of calm) and sympathetic nervous system (flight-or-fight mode).

The general idea (but just to warn you, this idea is still being investigated scientifically) is that most mental illness, including some autism, is due to an over-stimulated sympathetic system (but that article is for another day).

To counter the effect of an over-stimulated sympathetic nervous system and to bring peace to the mental chaos in the human mind, one needs to find a way to activate the parasympathetic nervous system.

This counters the fight-and-flight response, which helps ageing!

Whilst you can’t do this directly (sorry to burst any bubbles…) you can do it directly by activating your vagus nerve…

I say directly, because in truth you will be also be activating your vagus nerve indirectly by using your breathing in a certain special way.

Stay with me here, because I’m about to show you a technique which I use personally to help activate your vagus nerve.

This also stimulates more growth hormone!

Human growth hormone does the following:

– It helps regulate muscle and bone growth, including healing fractures

– Helps increase your sex drive

– Helps with weight loss

– Helps slow the progression of illnesses that are age related

– Reduces the risk of cardio vascular disease

– Can even reduce hair loss

– And don’t forget better sleep!

Has that wet your appetite.

Thought so!

Here goes…

Now the trick to activating your vagus nerve is to breath in a certain way.

Don’t forget, your parasympathetic nervous system kicks in normally while your sleep anyway, while the sympathetic nervous system remains stable during the REM part of sleep (the REM bit, where your brainwaves are in Theta/alpha and you dream, but your body is paralysed so you don’t act out your deams).

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The type of breathing is usually variable during REM sleep, but is usually stable during deep NREM sleep.

You have to essentially pretend that you are on the verge of snoring when you are breathing, to help activate the vagus nerve.

It is no coincidence that when the tongue is flat on the floor of your mouth, this is the ideal tongue posture for singing. Singing, incidently, is another good way of activating it.

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Here goes:

1. Let your tongue rest on the bottom of your mouth. If done correctly, you should feel the back of your tongue touching the back of your teeth.

2. Using belly breathing, breath through your nose and pretend your on the verge of snoring. If you do find that you are snoring, you’re slightly over doing it.

3. You may find a slight contraction of the windpipe (i.e. it will feel like your tongue is partially in the way) so make sure you can still breath normally and that you are not stopping yourself breathing.

4. This does take a bit of practice to find this balance. You are looking for that middle ground of the back of your tongue resting on the floor of your mouth, but not too much that you are obstructing your own breathing channels.

5. Keep practising and you will find that, when done properly, a warm feeling will begin to flood your heart area (your heart chakra will be opening) and you may find that your 3rd eye may be activated.

Or to put simply, if you feel a loving, warm feeling encompass your heart, that is oxytocin being released, meaning that you are activating your vagus nerve.

6. Keep practising this until you can do this without much effort, and you will find that you will have trained yourself to use a tool that can counter some of the damaging health effects of stress from someone who is in fight-or-flight mode, but who isn’t consciously aware of this.

The beauty of using this technique, is that once you feel stress coming on you can quickly help activate your vagus nerve which will calm you down and help ward of the damaging effects of an overstimulated sympathetic nervous system response.

This can also include accelerated ageing due to the effect oxidative stress has on your Telomeres (part of your DNA…again, this will be explained in a later article;-).

When you practise this form of deep belly breathing, you will help almost manually begin the healing process, as the stimulation of the vagus nerve helps with improving memory, as well as increasing your immunity.

Stimulating your vagus nerve for stress relief is a great way of reducing stress/anxiety and depression

However, there is also an equally easier way of reducing stress and help you focus on your goals, so you can lead a more healthier, happier and productive lifestyle.

You can do this with learning and applying NLP, which also allows you to help keep your body from being overstimulated and can also help you with your goals and aspirations.

If you wish to learn more about NLP, and to learn great techniques that also involve understanding your very owns body subconscious (which is responsible for 99.9% of your behaviour), please click here to read my review on the NLP practitioners training course, by NLP trainer Michael Stevenson.

By using NLP with your vagus nerve will not only help you reduce stress and help be mentally focused, you will also be motivated so you can really go for your goals, and begin creating the life that you really want.

To find out more about the NLP practitioners Training course, please click here.

Till next time.

Julian.

P.S. Using your vagus nerve with deep breathing is a great way to reduce stress and even activate the parasympathetic nervous system, which is is the same system that stimulates growth hormone that helps with growth and healing in many parts of your body.

Whilst you cannot stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system directly, you can do it indirectly, by pretending to almost snore while belly breathing.

Due to the tongue being flat against your mouth, this will cause the vagus nerve to be stimulated, bringing the required emotional change.

Using anchoring with the activation of your vagus nerve is another great way of not only reducing stress, but also to focus on your goals. Anchoring can be achieved using NLP.

If you would like to find out more information on NLP, please look into the NLP practitioners course, by clicking here.

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Ho’oponopono, What it is and why you should use it!

Just imagine going to work and being angry about someone that you care for.

Imagine how you try to be nice to this person, yet you get it thrown into your face almost all the time.

You try to connect to this person, even emotionally, but you get little or almost no result.

When the person is happy, you want to share in their happiness. When the person is sad, you want to help them, give them a hug…do something, but feel you are repelled from doing so.

This would drive anyone crazy

Now imagine that you stumble upon a simple yet powerful technique that could help you not only help the other persons personal demons, but also help you connect with them at a deeper level.

Just imagine how relaxed you would be to see someone piss around, yet instead of being distraught with their behaviour, you were more in content, comforted in the knowledge that you could help them without even saying a word to their mouth.

In fact, you wouldn’t need to say anything at all.

You would need to use a tool that is so simple to implement, yet very powerful.

A tool that has helped people brake from bad habits at a deep subconscious level.

A tool so powerful, in fact, that it has helped a certain ward at the Hawaii State Hospital for the criminals who were mentally ill to almost heal itself within 4 years.

You cannot ignore this

Welcome to the Ho’oponopono technique, that consists in just a sentence that could, potentially, change your life.

And not only can it change your life, but it can also change the lives of other people.

And not only that, but all of this could take about 5-10 minutes, per person (approx.)

I know what you are thinking…pretty big claim!

Are you ready?

The words are as follows:

I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you.

This is Ho’oponopono in a nutshell, and even though it is simple in its design, it is powerful in its execution.

I first came across the Ho’oponopono technique a few years back via a guy called Dr. Joe Vitale.

I was watching some of his stuff and heard him mention a guy called Dr. Hew Len, who had helped heal a Hospital ward.

He’s secret: Using the Ho’oponopono technique.

But what exactly is Ho’oponopono?

Ho’oponopono came from Hawaii and is a prayer to help clean yourself up mentally.

I think about it as a way about helping the hologram subconsciously to help a person or a group of people.

While it may seem strange that the specific words may actually be of help, there is a logic to this.

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The key, is to essentially ponder on the problem, and notice any initial feelings that come up inside (shouldn’t be hard to do, if you care passionately about the issue at hand). This is critical, because we want to work with the feeling, or aspect of consciousness for this to work.

Once you have been given a feeling, you can get to work.

I’m sorry

Just for clarity, you are not saying sorry to the multiverse. The multiverse is unconditional love, there is nothing to be sorry about (in most cases).

You’re saying sorry to yourself, because though your own ignorance, lack of awareness, or something or other, this person has been brought to your awareness and you are seeing them in a negative light due to their poor behaviour.

You are saying sorry because at some deep level of consciousness, you somehow put them there, therefore it is your responsibility.

I like to see it that, because you had no idea that the images in your mind and the resulting emotion that you are feeling are affecting them at a deep level, you wish to make amends.

Please forgive me

Be honest, if you knew for sure that the images and the emotions that you saw and felt when you think of the person was putting them though crap, you would be ever so slightly apologetic, wouldn’t you?

Not only would you realise that the imagery was having an affect on the people that you care for, but you would also be very diligent on what imagery and emotions you felt. Not that this would be easy (as I can testify;-)

So of course, it is only logical that if the person has gone through hell partly (and I’m saying that carefully) due to you, then you need to ask for forgiveness again for your own ignorance of the effect your subconscious was having on them. And lets not forget that your subconscious controls 99.9% of your behaviour.

Just saying.

Thank you

Simple one this, you’re saying thank you to the multiverse/unconditional love as you are using your superconscious to help, essentially, re-write the hologram in such a way that benefits the other person. Gratitude has always been a powerful state of consciousness/being.

Also bear in mind, that gratitude allows you to let go; very crucial in the manifestation process and can also act like you are thanking an event or circumstance that as been taken in advance!

I love you

The multiverse is unconditional love. What you give to the multiverse (emotion/feeling wise) you get back ten-fold.

So lets try get into the habit of wishing love to everybody that we meet that we care passionately for, or people that have hurt us.

And of course, don’t forget the obvious; consciousness creates form, not the opposite way round.

And everything is an aspect of consciousness.

We are in a feeling based multiverse.

The trick (in my opinion) is not to rush this, but to feel the individual feelings as if you are working on yourself. Bear another thing in mind, that if you accept the holographic principal (which is almost scientifically proven), this means that whatever work you do on yourself, you do for another person.

Ho’oponopono is a great simple exercise to help you help other people, without even saying a word. You can also use this to help break bad addictions, and help ease of anxiety.

You can combine this with your meditation practice to help make yourself a more peaceful and happier person.

Meditation itself has numerous benefits, and can help make you a more clearer, forgiving person. If you find that meditating is difficult, or would like help with your meditation practice, I have reviewed 2 courses by Gerald O’Donnell, who is an expert on Remote Viewing and Remote Influencing.

These courses allow you to reach very deep states of meditation and allows you to integrate it into your daily life, all in the comfort of your own home.

To find out more information on the ARVARI system, please click here.

Till next time.

Julian.

P.S. Using Ho’oponopono on a regular basis can not only help ease of negative feelings for another person, it can also help you help them at a deep subconscious level.

By trying to heal yourself, you are also trying to heal them. Combine this with your current meditation practice, to enhance you peaceful and happier emotional well-being.

If you do find meditating difficult, you can try using the ARVARI system. To find out more information, please read my review by clicking here.

 

Loving-Kindness Meditation: The Secret To Great Compassion?

Imagine opening your eyes, feeling at peace with the world, any form of anger almost evaporating from your soul…

Imagine opening your eyes feeling that little bit lighter, and for once, optimistic about your day.

Imagine feeling more relaxed with yourself, and feeling more focused so you can get out and do more of the things you love.

Wouldn’t it be nice to start you day feeling lighter, more calmer and feeling more love?

Wouldn’t it be nice to feel your Heart chakra open, so you can feel slightly energised and peaceful, any lingering anger almost gone?

Wouldn’t it be nice to have a simple way to improve your compassion and love skills, so you can feel more younger and become more of a healthier and happier person?

There is good news for you, because there is a simple exercise which does just that!

Enter in the arena a new weapon for your compassion skills.

This one exercise is arguably the best compassion exercise there is.

It not only allows you to feel love, but also Appreciative Joy, Friendliness, Equanimity and of course Compassion.

All rolled into one!

And not many exercises can do that.

And it gets better

By daily practising this technique, this will naturally make you more into a compassionate person, which has its own rewards.

And not only that, but you will reduce pity and increase genuine compassion aimed at another person (Pity merely copies the quality of concern, but doesn’t have the empathy that compassion has).

With increased practice, one develops a sense of Appreciative Joy; Joy, which any law of attraction student will tell you, can help the process of manifestation (but this will be for a later article;-)

Loving Kindness Meditation is a simple but powerful tool to help you go through your day, whilst increasing your compassion skills

You see, Loving kindness meditation has its origin in the early Sutras of Jainism, but may have been inspired by early Buddhist texts.

This simple exercise can not only help you not only feel compassion but also helps your forgiveness skills as well as open up your Heart chakra.

And don’t get me started on the health benefits this spiritual wonder has for you. Loving kindness can help:

* Increase emotional processing with the brain

* Reduce the sign of Ageing

* Increase the volume of grey matter

* Decrease PTSD

* Decrease Chronic Pain

Plus much more…(Thanks to Emma Seppala for this insight)

So, how do you activate this apparent health promoting, compassion inducer within yourself?

Are you ready?

Here goes

Loving kindness meditation essentially is about using feelings of kindness and goodwill towards someone.

You can do this by either;

* Reflecting on the good qualities of the other person

* By reciting a mantra out-loud (which is what I do) and visualizing a person.

* Or by visualizing directly, a Joyous version of that person, and wishing them good feelings.

The way I personally do it is to use 3 sentences as a form of a mantra to help promote success and emotional well-being.

While they can differ (this exercise is also flexible…of course;-) the below is an example of what you can say

“I wish myself success, I wish myself happiness, I wish myself good health”

That’s it.

(Alight, a bit more then)

So the exercise involves you saying this to not only yourself, but to 4 more people.

One person you love

One person you like

One person you are neutral about

(probably the hardest part of this whole process, because of our quick nature to judge. If it makes it any easier, think of a shop assistant).

And someone you dislike (again, can be tough for some of you)

If you wish to do my version, all you have to do is to think of someone and say these 3 statements to them.

This takes me about 5 minutes

It sounds mad, but the exercise above will do wonders to your emotional well-being.

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Not only that, but it can also help increase mental clarity, so this will also help you with your intuition, and should help motivate you to taking more intuitive action.

There is a part 2 to this

Once you have sufficient practice in the above exercise, try to then send the warm feelings towards the north of you, then the east, south and finally west.

I.e. Try to direct the feelings towards not only people that you speak to, but also your local area and ultimately other countries and the world.

This could take longer, but take comfort that you are helping the world at an energetic level.

Buts there’s more…

How would you like to use this exercise in conjunction with a way to deepen your meditation skills and meditate deeper than ever before (and when I say deep, I’m talking about deep Alpha, if not Theta brainwave state),so you can feel more at peace and more healthier, so you can have more fun in your life?

What would you say if I told you that you can do this with some good headphones and a a CD player?

Basically, there are 2 courses that will help you meditate deeper than every before.

This stuff is powerful

So powerful, that you can go into very deep states of meditation, so you can increase your intuition as well as some other cool stuff.

By increasing your intuition, you can get a better chance of noticing your gut feelings, as well as find better ways to get creative which should help with your life style.

I’ve even written a review for you, so you can get my honest opinion on the courses.

Simply click here to read the review.

Until next time

Julian

P.S. Loving Kindness meditation is a great simple exercise which helps you not only begin the forgiveness process of a person, but can also help you increase your compassion and loving abilities.

This in turn helps with your body, as well as help you with your emotional well-being.

This allows you to let go and can help you become a more calmer, happier and fun person, helping you release emotional baggage from the past, as well as helping you concentrate on more important things in life.

Mindfulness meditation is another great way to improve compassion. If you wish to learn to meditate very deeply, please read my review of the ARVARI course by clicking here.

 

Past Hurt and Forgiveness- Are You Doing One Of These 6 Things?

past-hurt11I was almost tempted not to write this article…

Forgiveness and the past is not my strongest suit. I’ve been told that, due to who I am, I will always bear grudges…

not exactly the most healthiest way to live!

On top of that, I can’t even mention some of the past stuff stuff that has held me back in life, for legal reasons..

so that doesn’t help either!

And just to put the icing on the cake, (don’t you just love that phrase), I constantly suffer from anger and rage due to images in my mind, and being (at times) unable to control them.

So believe me when I say, certainly over an important topic, that I was very tempted not to write anything on the past and forgiveness of it.

So why bother then. Why bother wasting internet space on something that has little practical value in ones life.

3 reasons!

Firstly , because this topic is relevant and current now, more than ever. I’m seeing a lot of hurt people out there, with a good degree of what is known in some circles as, ‘learned helplessness’.

‘Learned helplessness’ is a term given when it feels like you are stuck with someone or somewhere, career or otherwise, without any way out.

Its kinda a big deal, and promotes depression, anger, as well as lack of confidence.

I’m seeing a lot of, ‘learned helplessness’ wherever I go, and it kinda bothers me.

Why?

Because we are creative beings, able to mold, or (at the very least), influence our future.

So why don’t we do it?

As I said, we believe that we can’t.

And one of the reasons that we can’t is due to the past and its grip on us.

That’s number 1.

Number 2 is that, despite not fully healing my past (being honest here), I have learnt many ways to come to terms with it.

Yes, I still suffer from anger and rage. Yes, my blood sometimes boils over similar events, But as each day goes on, I’m getting better (sleep dependant, of course;-).

This allows me to focus more on my goals. This extra mental space that I have earned has allowed extra creative thoughts to flash into my mind for inspiration.

Or put simply, I have more, ‘hard drive space’ and as a result, perceived extra, ‘processing power’ to do the stuff that I want.

That is the power of letting go of the past!

It frees up mental space so you can focus on other stuff.

When you let go of the past, your beliefs that are rooted there are changed. You start doing new stuff, new momentum kicks in. You feel like a new you.

Pretty good!

But letting go of the past feels like you are justifying what has happened. You say to yourself, ‘If I forgive this person, I feel like I have authorised what they have done. It is justified’.

I can appreciate that.

Here’s what you don’t know. You are not justifying their actions, merely reclaiming your inner peace over them.

That’s different!

Number 3

For some people, not forgiving the past allows then to keep the resentment it has to offer, which allows them to be righteous in front of other people…

which makes them feels good (only temporarily).

I know, because I have had this feeling myself. I’ve been righteous, and felt great…

…for a short while. Then I felt crap afterwards.

This is going to sound kinda mad, but I know some people who carry bitterness in themselves, yet love being righteous to get that dopamine kick when they need it.

Of course, this is a temporary high, and it soon wears off.

Be careful of these people, because they will burden you in one way shape or form, and may even suck your energy. Some, ‘energy vampires’ may fit this category.

But what happens when you do start to forgive the past?

What you will find is a funny kind of acceptance that promotes peace and eventually cultivates mindfulness (By the way, that is why some people are unable to practice mindfulness, images of the past come up…).

Yet I don’t know about you, but whenever I get into the state of mindfulness, I feel empowered not dis-empowered. My peace increases (not cosmetic, like a mini-dopamine high that righteousness sometimes brings, but a deeper, more fulfilling feeling), as well as increased mental clarity, and my inner will-power returning.

Of course, if you do practice mindfulness on a regular basis, the chances are that you are slowly letting go of the past anyway.

In which case, keep going.

But what if you can’t become mindful. Then what?

Try the below to see if these work.

EFT

EFT is all about tapping certain parts of your body, and reciting a few simple affirmations. By doing this ritual, you will increase your energy and feel more better about the situation. Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this. I’ve used this myself with a job interview, and going back to my former college (I wasn’t the biggest fan due to some stuff that happened). To read more about EFT, click here.

Stopping Comparisons

I was an expert at this over a decade ago, and thanks to social media, it is easy to see why!

But comparing your journey to somebody else’s journey, without even knowing all the facts, is like trying to see inside their brain without an operation. It’s just not going to work.

Stop comparing your life with somebody else’s! They have had their fair share of ups and downs, I can assure you. Someone very wise once said, that if we all bung our negatives into a pile, and study other peoples, were would gladly take ours back…

Don’t forget, social media is nothing short of a highlights reel. Nothing more!

Practising Gratitude

Depending on your situation, this can be a tricky one, and is not the easiest thing to pull off if you are really stuck in your emotional glue.

But basically you try to be as neutral about the person/event as you can, and see the positive over it. Not that this is easy. By seeing the positive, or the, ‘blessing in disguise’, you are able to slowly heal that aspect of yourself.

This may take numerous attempts, so don’t be surprised if the bad feelings come back after a while. Keep going. If you can do this on a regular basis, you may be ready for…

Loving Kindness Meditation

This is a form of compassion meditation, and is useful in helping you get over people.

The exercise is quite simple… you simply sit/lie down, close you eyes, take a few deep breaths, think about someone who has pissed you off (should be quite a few people by now;-) and say to yourself that you wish this person success and happiness and try your best to feel love/compassion for them.

This sounds quite mad I know, yet it is surprisingly effective, and there is even evidence to suggest that this type of meditation may actually reduce the signs of ageing (click here for details).

Seeing The Funny Side

Of course, if you really want to mess with your psyche (just kidding;-), you can even look back at the person and event with humour (if you can…again this is very dependant on what your situation is).

I was hesitant to put this in, as it is very difficult initially, to find the funny side without feeling that you are loosing the plot (and some peoples histories are more serious than others, so no offence intended if you have been a victim of abuse, for example). However, like the above, it can be very effective at dissolving fear, anger/rage and promoting peace.

I’ve sometimes allowed my anger to flood my body, be with the anger for a while (where there was nobody around) and then when the episode passed, laughed at myself while saying, ‘there you go, had to get it out of my system’. I wasn’t repressing the anger, just merely controlling the, ‘hose’.

Very important.

Writing In A Journal

I was also hesitant in writing this one, because I don’t do it, but I’ve read that it is effective in helping you come to grips with your past, so thought it would be worthy of a mention.

Essentially, it will be like writing a diary, and can be helpful in putting what is in your mind out into the open. I’ve read that this can be an effective way in promoting peace, and promoting self-healing. Give it a try.

Let me know how the above works for you, as I do like reading inspiring stories on peoples triumphs. If you would like more information on meditation, and how to increase the chances of intuition and self-healing, please click here.

 

Depression and 2 unusual ways to reduce it’s effects!

I consider myself to be very highly sensitive…

I’ve been sensitive growing up through high school and found myself getting hurt emotionally on a fairly regular basis. Then, going through college, It developed into OCD (when you repeat certain behaviours in an attempt to feel safe and secure). Being told I was autistic (although I would later challenge this believing it was ADD and mercury poisoning later on) didn’t help matters, especially when one is told that you had a problem that you had to deal with for all of your life, and often told in a very patronising way by people who you trusted the most (yeah, juck out self-healing why don’t you…).

Being made to feel ashamed, especially when you are a highly sensitive person, does no help for your self-esteem and self-confidence, and I soon began to loose control of my emotional state to the point that, when I began work in the early 2000’s, I got slowly depressed. I suffered from depression for a good 5-7 years.

Over 350 million people suffer from depression. So what can be done about it, as depression is not only hurting your body (please watch this video for more info), but also looses your focus so you are unable to be productive at work and at home?

I recently began getting depressed, and then had a very intuitive moment. Below are 2 exercises that I did, that not only help me identify the issue, but also stopped the depression dead in it’s tracks. I hope they do the same for you!

These exercises are best done quickly, (I found) as your subconscious likes speed. So please take no more than about a minute doing them.

Exercise 1

Find something in the past or the future imagined scenario that will cause you to become depressed, that is, something that you think will cause you to be depressed seemingly forever or for the moderate term. Something that you think that if you had it, there would be no way you can come to terms with it, and it will haunt you to the end of days. Try to really look at depression, to see it in the eye. Try to imagine holding it…what does it look like? Does it have a smell? What size is it, etc.

When you have done that quick exercise, try the next one.

Exercise 2

Try to become present, that is, nearly mindful. For the purpose of this exercise, you won’t be completely present due to the amount of thinking being used, but try to be nearly mindful. Try to get closed to being present as much of possible, whilst still remaining close to some form of logically thinking capability.

Now, look around and in yourself, and try to spot depression in yourself or outside of you. Again, whilst trying to be close to being present, try to spot and look depression in the eye, try to find it, try to really locate the source of the depression, that you think will be with you until the end of days.

What colour is it? What size? What shape? Does it even have a smell?

What you will notice in both cases (providing your condition isn’t too chronic) is that, while you may have noticed depressing moments in the first exercise, because you were using your conscious logical left-hemisphered part of your brain, any negative moments you did stumble upon quickly had solutions thrusted upon them, or you moved onto a new image or feeling. Whilst you may have had moments that you felt depression, it was very short term, and not as long-term as you thought it would be.

That is because you had your logical, ‘guard’ up. You have a logical conscious for a reason, and one of the main reasons is for calculation and for problem solving. Depression in some cases takes place when this guard is, ‘down’. That is, you are in the subconscious, ‘receiving’ state, getting all sorts of negative imagery lobbed into your direction without any obvious protection.

Sounds too deep? Let me give you an example.

I worked in a desk job, answering some emails for customers. The problem was, due to being highly sensitive as I am, when I was consciously at work (i.e. actually typing a response to a query) my ‘guard’ would be brought down, allowing my sensitive sub-conscious to pick up energies, which it then converted into images and emotions (depending on what type of person you are, you may hear audio or may have different feelings).

I was in the passive, ‘receiving’ state, meaning that, while as was using my conscious to do work, due to not being fully involved with the task at hand, I was getting lots of conversions of energy being translated into imagery being thrown into my conscious mind almost against my will. Or, to put it in simple street language, I would unwittingly fantasise and imagine all sorts of depressing and negative scenarios which would ultimately bring my mood down.

Depression in some cases can take place when the subconscious that picks up other negative sources of energy and converts it, isn’t being logically challenged. That is, the imagery (or audio, random bad emotion etc) isn’t being processed by the logical, critical left-hemisphere of your brain. Essentially, you have become, ‘ungrounded’.

One of the greatest ways to free yourself from the grip of depression, is to notice the specifics of it and name it out loud; that is, give it the verbal treatment. This allows the two hemispheres to become more balanced, allowing you to become more mindful. Or to put it another way, challenging the depressing imagery allows your critical, ‘guard’ to go back up.

Alternately, you can try to do what they describe in NLP as pattern interrupting. Quite simply, think of the depressing moment, and then, quite randomly and spontaneously, look at something behind you on the wall and really take it all in. Could be a photo you have, could be the TV etc… this, again, allows your critical conscious, ‘guard’ to go back up, and you will find it slightly more difficult in thinking of the depressed imagery and may even become slightly mindful in the process.

 

Feeling Under The Weather? Think Again!

Credit: Youtube / Dr. Joe Marshalla

Coming across a video like this makes you realize how important your feelings, as well as how important monitoring your emotions are to your health.

I first came across this video a couple of years ago. I had just heard about Dr. Joe Marshalla, but didn’t know too much about him, or Repeatlessness. I had watched some of his Mind control videos, thinking (stupidly) that it may be on how people used mind control techniques on you (maybe I was going a bit into too much conspiracy theory mindset here, I wasn’t sure…).

This video is a clip from one of the mind control videos, and beautifully shows how the effects of emotions and feelings, specifically love and fear, has an effect on your overall physical strength.

What it simply shows, is how you emotions has a direct control over how strong, or how weak you will be. And of course, you emotions also help govern your immune system, so if you are going to be really negative, your immune system will suffer. If on the other hand you are going to feel and give as much love and compassion out, your immune system will be boosted (I once had the luxury of feeling compassion at work once, whilst sneezing and having a cold, and my cold symptoms temporarily alleviated).

It goes without saying that your emotions affect your behaviour, so by controlling or redirecting your emotional state, you behaviour will change in certain ways where you can become more productive at work, at home and start to make changes in your life.

These days, I try to exude as much love as I can. I’m not saying this is easy, as most of us have had stressful and hectic moments in our lives. Trying to exude love in the workplace can feel like trying to achieve the impossible to some of us, so we have to be careful not to be too emotional if we can help it.

But if we can, somehow, control our emotional state (which usually involves a change in perception), we can make small but significant changes in our lives. And as they always say, every little thing counts;-)

Watch the video and see for yourself. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

 

Forgiveness and My 4-Step Process

Do you want to learn how to forgive? Are you stung by past hurt, or maybe you are stung due to your own actions (or lack there off)?

Forgiveness is a powerful tool and has many implications, but for some it remains that elusive concept that they could desperately get their hands on.

Why is that?

I strongly believe that forgiveness is not only a very personal thing (obviously) but is also unique to each and every individual. Or to put it another way, a method to forgive may work for me, but may not work for you.

I’ve been wanting to write an article on self-forgiveness for some time, yet lacked the tools or the mentality to do so.

The reason being was that I was slightly addicted to the dopamine levels that holding a grudge can release, and also for me to forgive, I would have to…you know…move on with my life. This my EGO couldn’t do very easily.

And yet, this was extremely stupid of me, because I was releasing bad chemicals into my body when I had moments of anger and rage. And they say that 4 minutes of rage can actually lower your immunity for around 5 hours.

So it begs the question, why would you want to become ill for?

With that in mind, I’m taking the plunge and writing my version on how to forgive yourself. Of course, this article mainly deals with self-forgiveness. I haven’t tried it on forgiving other people. I’m sure it would work just as ok, I’ve just yet (at this early stage in discovering this) used it to great length on other people, just on myself.

Of course, like any technique, it may work for you or it may not. What works for me, may not work for you. I’m not trying to slide in a crass disclaimer here, just simply stating that forgiveness is such a personal, unique issue, that no one technique is going to be perfect.

Having said that, I’ll give it may best shot here for you;-)

Of course, you could argue that you don’t need to forgive, that you are not ready to forgive.

If that is your case, good luck to you, because by holding onto your anger, you are releasing chemicals into your body which (by default) will dis-empower you (Click here for a video which demonstrates how emotions has an effect on your body). The trick, if you can, is to somehow let go.

And that is what ultimately forgiveness is; it’s the ability to let go. And letting go is vital for longevity and for a healthier body and mind.

But like I said, this method may not do anything, or may work wanders.

It’s as simple as that.

And I have to say this, but it does incorporate your soul as well, although by now I would like to think that if you are a regular reader to my blog, you should by now know that you do have a soul, and it is this soul that survives after what you call, ‘death’.

I hope you don’t make the amateur mistake in thinking that you are just body and EGO and that’s your lot. (if you want to, you can search online for either, ‘Remote Viewing’ or ‘Out-of body experiences’, then come back here to carry on reading this article;-)

I’ve got a pretty good idea that this will work for you, especially if there is some self-forgiveness that you need to do (I believe it should also work for forgiving somebody else as well, although I’ve only mainly used this technique for self-forgiveness, so you will need to try it against someone and let me know how it goes on).

But ultimately, self-forgiveness is a unique thing, and I’m under no illusion that the following technique might not be suited for everyone.

Still, give it a go and let me know how it goes on. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, a quick online search will highlight many other techniques online.

Try a technique and see if it works for you. Hopefully you’ll find one soon enough, and finally (with time) reduce and eliminate that anger that has been holding onto you.

1 – Learn from the mistake

To begin with, (especially for self-forgiveness) you need to learn from your mistake. No point in trying to forgive yourself if you are going to make the same mistake over and over again.

Ask yourself, ‘What has this mistake taught me?’. What variable needs to change, in order to grow from it. And if you genuinely cannot find a way to grow from it, you may need to experience it again and again until you do grow from it.

This is where a bigger perspective comes in, that you may need to take a really objective view on what’s happened (I say objective very loosely, as we are in a subjective multiverse, but that’s for another day). Try to get a grasp of the bigger picture, and this will make learning from your mistake a lot easier to grasp.

2 – Let go

Easier said than done right (don’t I know that one all too well!). Letting go doesn’t mean justifying what has happened, or agreeing with it from an EGO sense of self, but rather accepting what has happened.

Don’t forget, what you resist will ultimately keep persisting! Much rather let it go, and as a result, change the rule of your reality bubble.

Also, letting go has the added benefit in allowing you to move on and in some cases, even get an intuitive incline that what happened had to happen (i.e. it could be no other way). It does take a slight bit of psychic ability/ spiritualism to get to this mark, but with practice it’s very doable.

Of course, to really fully let go, you can go onto…

3 – See the spiritual perfection in the design

Tough one to grasp, especially when you deal with the crime biggies out there (but that’s for another day) but if you can somehow take a step back (be mindful if you have to) and look at the bigger picture, usually you’ll see that something good always comes out of it.

I know that when I have gone through some real shitty times, I look back and am glad it happened no other way. Mind you, this has not been easy, and even today I still feel a slight tinge of anger, still bubbling up. Of course, for you to make seeing the spiritual perfection easier to do, you require the forth and final piece of the steps…

4 – Find a thing in the experience to be genuinely grateful for

This calls for you to actually having to put the effort to go beyond EGO to reach this state of clarity.

For some of you, this will not be easy, and going beyond EGO may take a lifetime of work (I’ve heard of cases where people refuse to forgive what has happened, when they are quite old…talk about holding onto anger for decades after an event). The thing is, some people get a kick out of holding onto anger, due to the release of dopamine.

Sounds silly, but think of this. I had a belief about being loveless (I’ve since done some inner work to change this belief) and while going to bed I wouldn’t have an issue with love, but first thing in the morning I would fantasize about being old and being on my own.

One morning I decided to really analyze what was going on, why I felt compelled to have this fantasy. Lo and behold, I was addicted to it, because despite feeling crap, I actually felt sort of good and even righteous.

This righteousness kicks many people in the teeth, and nothing breaks down relationship and looses trust faster than being righteous (of course, if you have way too many close friends on your hands…;-)

I suspect that a few people who hold onto a grudge do so because they are addicted to that sensation.

While I can appreciate the argument behind this, you are poisoning your body due to the chemicals that are being released. Much better to be honest with yourself and start the healing process and move on with your life, than hold onto a grudge because at some deep level, it feels good.

Like I said in my opening remarks, forgiveness is a powerful tool to have, and while there is no one-size-fits-all approach to forgiving yourself (or somebody else), it has a great way of providing peace of mind and allows a new state of love to enter you about that situation.

This allows new chemicals to flood your body, and allows you to be in a more empowered sate of mind, so that achieving your dreams or goals becomes that little bit more easier.

 

Fighting for your life: My turn!

I was going to write an article about why bad things happen, from a spiritual perspective to someone.

I was going to write why it is important not to develop too much of a thick shield, where you start to avoid things at all cost to keep your self from getting hurt, and to instead learn the process of de-attachment.

I was going to write about what happens if you don’t have the correct perspective on a negative event, how it can conditionalize you further and how it can make you loose your friends and cause fear of abandonment issues.

I tried to research heavily into this.

I was reading articles from de-personalisation, to how to help yourself if you were a highly sensitive person (which I am).

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind reading articles. In fact, I rather enjoy them (in most cases) purely because I get some much great content.

I love reading on how to understand myself more, and therefore how to improve my life for the better.

And yet, I’ve been reading about improving myself for almost 10 years, yet nothing much has changed.

I still live in pretty much the same place as before, with still the same neighbors, and still the same fears. Yes, my panic attacks and high anxiety have gone (hence this blog) but apart from that, everything is pretty much the same…

Which frustrates the hell out of me…where am I going wrong?

I know the answer…it’s dead obvious!

Action!

So, if I know the answer, why am I still feeling, ‘stuck’ in my life?

I know the answer to that one as well…

Motivation!

I recently tried to study a motivational NLP course (NLP is about understanding the language of your mind).

It had a lot of great info, and some cool NLP tricks which I tried somewhat successfully.

Has it completely worked?

Well, sort of

I can get some of the annoying small things done, but nothing major…I’m still in a rut there.

Then what is it then?

As I was reading some great articles yesterday, I came across a fantastic article on the power of being underestimated

It talked about some of the troubles Steve Jobs went through, from being sacked from his own company, to having cancer.

Yet he never gave up!

On top of that, I watched the 2011 film, ‘Bridesmaids’. It turned out to be a film that completely changed my perception on life.

It featured one of the main characters, Annie, going through a lot of hell with friendships and her job, before hitting rock bottom.

With the help of her spunky friend, Megan, she gets herself out of it.

But the scene that made all of the difference, was when Megan had a playful fight with Annie, who was wallowing in self-pity.

Megan was clearly annoyed that Annie was feeling sorry for herself, and wanted to snap her out of it.

Don’t get me wrong, I sympathized with Annie. Life can be tough, and feeling sorry for yourself is understandable. But there comes a time, when action needs to be taken.

Megan, on the other hand, was not about feeling sorry for herself…

She had been bullied when she was in high school, so understood how fighting for your life was valuable.

This scene hit me hard, and I knew where I had been going wrong with my life…

I hadn’t been fighting for it!

This is one of the few problems with spirituality. We teach you to keep your emotions in check, to be at peace with any piece of shit that comes in your direction.

We teach you to meditate, and we teach you not to judge on appearance. We also teach you how to be , ‘at one’ with the world…

Which is all very well and good (don’t get me wrong), but if you’re not careful, you end up being too passive for any action.

Sometimes, the very emotion that you can suffer a lot from can be very similar to the emotion of getting you out of a rut.

And that’s the problem there!

We teach you (accidentally, in most cases) to essentially numb your emotions.

You emotions is a powerful tool. I should know this all too well.

I used to suffer from rage (getting better now, as I know what’s going on). Yet, the dumbed down version of that is anger.

Anger, lashed out at someone (we all know), is a bad thing.

Fair enough!

But you can use that anger for great effect. You can use it to, ‘fuel your way to the top’.

Essentially, if you can control it, it is a great source of creative energy.

When you finally start fighting for every moment of your life, and you take control, obstacles will come and go.

Yes, keep finding peace in between the madness and don’t loose yourself completely. But if you can control your inner anger, not only will you tap into a source of great creative energy, you will also make changes with your life very quickly.

I’m supposed to write an article about mothers on mothering Sunday, but I thought as a tribute, I’ll write this:

If you can finally direct your life in the way you want it, and make your mum proud, wouldn’t that be the ultimate mothers day present?

I’ll leave you to answer that one;-)

 

Suffer from anger? Here are 10 ways to reclaim your inner peace!

Anger is an interesting emotion…

One can talk about how unhealthy it is to be angry all the time, or how it can help create illness in your body, or how it can even disrupt friendships and damage them to the point of no return.

But the thing is, if you don’t know how to control your anger or your rage, you will lead a very poor lifetime.

It’s as simple as that.

I used to get angry myself living at home. My parents used to come out with irrational reasons why something had to be done…

That in itself isn’t a bad thing, and can be easily overlooked and ignored.

But when the same parents display traits such as narcissism, and lack of consideration towards your feelings about a subject (until much later), and then to go as far as to be talked over and ignored, soon anger and rage become a very obvious side effect to this one-dimentional family relationship.

The thing is, by the time I realized that my parents were at one level, causing me to feel angry, it was too late. The damage had been done.

Having suffered from sleep deprivation over the years, the anger was also fueling my anxiety and even had a helping hand in my panic attacks. Anger is also responsible in making me loose the present moment, and stop enjoying life.

Again, that isn’t necessarily too much of an evil thing, one could argue. Some people could get really cold and say that you have to simply, ‘get over it’ and move on. Fair enough!

But anger and rage have another trick up their sleeve…a trick that few people are aware off…

They are emotions, which means that for you to, ‘feel’ them, certain chemicals in your body have to be released. The chemicals that are released to form anger and rage causes damage to your body, and can even shut down important aspects of your self.

It has been said that 1x 5 minutes of anger can reduce your immune system for up to 6 hours!

Suddenly, not fair enough…this has to be stopped, or you could cause some significant harm to yourself.

We all know the physical symptoms of anger, from Headaches to Fatigue, from increased blood pressure to even Heart palpitations. And yet, despite the harmful effects of anger, around 25% of men have uncontrolled anger!

Now don’t get me wrong, a tiny bit of anger isn’t necessarily a bad thing. One could correctly say that it can be a great energy to deal with, to help you make better plans for your self and you family. But the question ultimately becomes this…can you discipline yourself to feel anger only for a short period of time, so you don’t cause too much injury because of it?

Its a good question!

So lets look at the 10 best ways of controlling and reducing your anger, so you don’t let the burning feeling consume and mentally eat you alive.

1 – Watch you thoughts

Sounds kinda obvious, but just the act of watching your thoughts can be a great way to reduce and eliminate your anger. If you know that a certain word or image is going to set you off, don’t think of it. Try to distract yourself, and actually put the mental effort into changing the thought, so you think more inspiring ones then negative ones. If you can, try…

2 – Practicing mindfulness throughout the day

Just by randomly choosing times to be right here, right now will be great at diffusing any anger/rage inducing imagery which may set you off and cause you stress. Just using your peripheral vision alone is a great way of reducing the mental chit-chatter and will allow you to lift the fogginess of your mind, think more clearly, and actually restore your inner peace.

3 – Use NLP to eliminate the image

You can use a form of NLP, where you actually get into a quick habit of taken a mental snapshot of the picture of your mind that is causing you to be angry, and then shrinking it and making it disappear within a second to the corner of your vision. It does sound too simple for it to be true, but this method actually works. And if you can get your-self into a habit of doing this, you’ll find your general anger will be substantially reduced.

4 – Learn to forgive

Sounds weird, but forgiveness is still very under-utilized by some folk, despite it’s obvious benefits. To forgive, see the blessing in disguise, and then let go. This will be the toughest part, as we are taught to not let go. But letting go doesn’t mean that you are justifying what the person/ group have done that is causing you to be angry, but accepting what has happened. And when you learn to accept life, it can be remarkably peaceful. Not that it’s easy mind you…

5 – Count backwards from 10 and learning emotional discipline

Can be a great little trick to delay any negative response, as well as anger/rage. Just by quickly counting backwards from 10 can delay an angry image to flash up, and can stop you from loosing your inner peace.

5 – Become creative

Sometimes being creative can be a great way to reduce and eliminate anger, such as writing down your angry thoughts, and making a scorching letter. This can be a very peaceful way of letting the energy of anger leave you, and can help relax your soul.

7 – Use exercise to relax

Of course, if you are not the static person, try something kinetic instead, like jogging, or hitting the punch bag…something that can allow you to release steam. By burning some of the excess energy you get from anger, you will feel slightly exhausted, but on the plus side you will also be partially recovered.

8 – Breath deeply and slowly during the heat of moment

And by this, I mean belly breath deeply and smoothly, which will not only allow you to keep yourself from loosing your cool, but allows you to become slightly present as well as give mental clarity. Deep breathing has many health benefits, and it is easy to see why, as we have trained ourselves to shallow breath as part of normal everyday life.

9 – Learn to meditate

Naturally, prevention is always better than cure, so to reduce any future anger and rage attacks from harming your psyche, try to take up meditation. No, it doesn’t mean that you have to sit with your back straight, legs cross for hours upon hours (although fair play to you if you do;-) but it can mean just 10-15 mins of lying down on your bed, or sitting in your chair, just watching your breath and paying attention to any thoughts that you think off.

10 – Have a good laugh.

Of course, sometimes a good old fashioned laugh is in order to save the day! And when I mean laugh, I mean to genuinely find the funny side of what has happened. Admittedly, this will not always be easy, but if you can somehow get into a habit of seeing the funny side, not only will you stop yourself from getting angry, you’ll also have a blast while doing it.

Practicing the above steps will sure fire your way to success in reducing anger and rage. Don’t harm your body by suffering from these emotions Instead, be emotionally smart, re-gain clarity of thoughts, and keep your inner peace.

You life depends on it;-)