Sucks, doesn’t it?
This horrible situation that won’t leave your mind.
It nags at you.
Like a wasp, it hangs around.
You want to squat it, but you can’t…
It seems to dodge your very conscious.
And no matter what you do, you can’t seem to forget what has just happened.
It’s haunting you… you can feel it deep in your soul.
You can feel this sticky energy, almost ruining your life.
You want to get on with your life, yet you can’t seem to do much about it.
You seem absolutely powerless, vulnerable…
You can’t believe this situation has gotten hold of you, that it will haunt you forever.
That wasp will simply not be killed!
It’s not flying away, it’s buzzing, humming, getting louder at times…
No matter what you do, you are always distracted by it.
You want to get on with your life, but that wasp refuses to leave your conscious awareness.
And yet you can’t seem to get over this…
That wasp will not leave you.
You try to hit it…the wasp dodges.
And for some reason, you don’t seem to have enough power in your arm, in that thrust…
It’s almost like your arms have become weak all of a sudden.
And yet that wasp hovers there, looking at you, saying, ‘Go on, I dare you…’
And it’s winning!
And you hate that.
You hate yourself for letting it win so easily!
You want to get on with your life, and you know you can.
You’re more that this, and you know it.
And I’ve been there. I know what it feels like.
I’ve had situations where, I’ve tried to move on…
And I’ve got it absolutely wrong!
I felt crap and worse of because of it, because you’re told to, ‘just get over it’.
But without using the reframe, you may as well shove your head in the sand!
It ain’t much use!
But there’s a warning here…although reframes are quite simple to do once you get the knack of it, you may want to avoid them altogether…
Think about it!
You’ve heard about reframes, sure, but what about all that stubborn resistance, and justifiable resentment.
All the anger and pain…
Do you really want to let that go…I mean, doesn’t holding onto that make you feel righteous and powerful?
It’s ok if you’re not ready to move on. Go ahead, click the back button, and carry on with your life.
If you can…
Don’t worry, I’ll wait! Because I know that it probably won’t be too long before you’ll come back.
When you do come back, your future life could be waiting.
I say ‘could’, because this isn’t something you can do once and that’s it (well, I’ve heard of people who can, but they are not the majority 😉
This is something you have to keep reminding yourself to do, to achieve the beginning of peace.
This allows you to get your life back on track.
Still with me?
Lets get started.
The reasons being:
1- Allows you to improve mental clarity.
Be honest, when you have a fight with someone, the last thing you are when the fight is over is being mentally clear, right?
However, using the reframe will reduce the natural emotional negativity that comes from that particular situation, and helps you calm down.
which leads to;
2- Achieving a different perspective!
One of the greatest things about taking another perspective, is that you get to gain some of your peace of mind back.
Your brain isn’t in emotional foggy territory anymore, you’ve got clarity back (or at least a good part of it).
When I use the reframe, while I may be still emotional, I know that calmness isn’t too far away and that it is only a matter of time.
3- Helps reduce stress.
A reframe, when done correctly, can help reduce your stress levels. Note how I say the word reduce, and not eliminate.
I don’t believe in a second that you can eliminate a stressful event, just by changing the perspective.
And I have been in a fair few.
But you can reduce its effects on you, and in my opinion, that is what counts.
For about 2 years, I got to talk to her a few times, making tiny conversation (nothing serious) and generally keeping things polite (with a smidge of humour for good measure…little tip, make sure the joke is short and that she laughs…very important;-).
You can use a reframe in a bad job.
For example, if you realise that, 6 months in, you know you aren’t going anywhere and the job sucks, then you can use your reframe as a way of, ‘forcing’ positivity into your brain.
This can help you make some better informed decisions when you get home to, ‘plot your escape’.
You can also use reframes on difficult people or difficult situations regarding difficult people (another ol’classic).
Simply put, if you have had a difficult person to deal with, you can use the reframe to put yourself into a better mood and help yourself deal emotionally with the situation.
To give an example; say that someone was yelling at you for not doing a particular action (which you legit forgot).
Ok, you apologise and say that you won’t do it again, and you walk away, feeling emotionally battered and bruised.
You can use the reframe and say, ‘Well, at least that is over, and I know what they are like on a bad day’
While it does seem trivial, this type of thing can help you in the long run (does for me)
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