How do you stop obsessive or compulsive thoughts? How do you stop a certain negative thought pattern? Do you even believe it is possible? Maybe you haven’t heard of the, ‘White Bear Syndrome’, or don’t believe it is possible for you to control your thoughts. Some people don’t. There are some people who have such a rich imagination, yet they seem unable to use it as a constructive, harmonious tool. They instead let it run riot, causing themselves and their families heartache. Maybe you are one of these people. If you are, you have my sympathies. I’m not trying to be polite, not trying to humor you, but you do genuinely have my condolences, because believe it or not you are not your mind.
I’m being serious, and anybody who practices mindfulness mediation, or even had out-of-body experiences will testify to this. You are not your mind, nor your body, but a spiritual being, inhabiting a 3D holographic (of sorts) physical body. You thoughts are who you think you are…or to put it in the words of a famous master, Eckhart Tolle, your EGO is your identification with thought.
Did you read that correctly, your identification. Not you, but what you are identify with! And this is a huge concept to get. You in the purest form, are soul (or higher consciousness if you don’t believe in souls). And that is awareness itself. That’s right…pure awareness. And what you give awareness (or attention) to, is ultimately what you give energy to.
So, at the risk of breaking your bubble, but you are not EGO. Sure, you may use the EGO to create, and that’s fine. That is what it is there for. A very useful tool to be able to create multiple things, think multiple things, calculate multiple things (or at least consciously, a few things), and much, much more. And that’s great, because you are a creative being, made in the image and likeness of source (what I call source, and I use that term to make this article more socially acceptable;-).
That is why it has been written, that most masters are mindless. That doesn’t mean to say that they are brain-dead (far from it). But they simply choose to give thought it’s correct priority, and as a result, live lives in peace and create almost effortlessly. Of course, as a master, you probably wouldn’t be thinking about creating lots and lots of materialistic wealth. Masters generally have the frameset of STO (Service-To-Others) whereas most people (don’t mean to generalize here, forgive me) have a mindset of STS (Service-To-Self). The reason for this being that masters see the oneness of everything, and understand consciously (as well as super-consciously) that what they give to the multi-verse, they get back 10 fold, because they and everything else is ONE (i.e. one with everything). They see people as merely extensions to themselves, rather than being separate. This helps promote unconditional love, as it opens up their Heart Chakra (don’t believe me, try it…I know this works, because I have tried this myself).
Of course, most people don’t understand this. They see the illusion of separatism, and as a result, don’t see oneness with everything (well, perhaps a few may in meditational exercises, but that’s it). As a result, most people have a STS mentality. And this of course is understandable. When you rely solely on your eyes, and you haven’t had much spiritual education, you expect nothing less.
So this is why, to get back on topic, most masters are mindless. They understand that they are not thought, but pure spiritual awareness. Or to put it another way, consciousness is being aware of itself!
It took a long time for me to get this. I myself understood spirituality, at least intellectually, I just couldn’t get it experientially. Having had OCD, and negative, paranoia inducing thought patterns for most of my adult life, I genuinely at times, didn’t believe that I could tame this monster in my mind. I would go to work, and my subconscious would run riot. I would have little control. It wasn’t until a few obe’s and reading, ‘The Power Of Now’ did I get that be being in the present moment, does one help reduce the mental noise. And not only that, but you can tame your imagination so it works for you rather than against you (which is what it is supposed to do).
But lets say that you are not spiritual, you have no interest in being, ‘present’ (which, incidentally, helps you get into the Theta brainwave state, where new beliefs and as a result, new experiences can form and take place). That’s fine, there are other, psychological techniques you can do to help get rid of, or at the very least significantly reduce your OCD/obsessive thoughts/ negative thought patterns.
Now, I will warn you, what you are about to read, you may already know! I’m under no illusion that you already know this, so see this as a reminder. They seem deceivingly simple, but don’t let that fool you…they do work! Again, I should know, because I try these out every day. If you give the following techniques a go, at least for 30 days, you will see a huge improvement in your psychological and as a result, your emotional state.
It sounds mad, I know, but just the simple intention of acting like you are healed actually goes a long way to help recovering and ridding yourself of unwanted thoughts and OCD. By acting like you are healed, you are re-programming your subconscious to behave in a certain, different way. And that’s a good thing, because it is your subconscious that is causing all the problems. It’s not your subconscious fault…it’s been trained to do it by yourself (not trying to be mean here, just saying the facts). By at least pretending you are healed, you’ll find yourself acting more and more confident and finding yourself least anxious (which is causing the problems to begin with). Charles Lindens, ‘The Linden Method’ goes into more detail as to why your anxiety is causing you to have OCD and panic attacks.
When I tried to act like I was already healed, I began to observe that not only was I more confident in myself, but that my anxiety and worries were nothing more than just past fears trying to exert control over me. By acting super confident (or at least trying to), I found that I didn’t have the anxiety to begin with (or it was substantially reduced). This resulted in my OCD automatically being reduced, and more control over my thoughts.
This is a tip I got from ‘Release The White Bear’. By embracing your unwanted thoughts mentally, you actually release the energy that is keeping it there. I normally have the image of the unwanted thought in my mind, and then try to hug it. I let the anxiety/negativity slightly consume me, but I quickly realize that my mind soon lets go after about a minute (usually less). Why is this? In the words of famous spiritual teacher Neale Donald Walsh, ‘What you resist, persists’ (If truer words were ever spoken). Essentially, by resisting a thought (or reality, for all of you law of attraction practitioners out there…), you keep it firmly in place. By embracing it, sending it love, etc…your mind lets it go. Try it and see for yourself (I did this in work once, and within a few short weeks, found myself in a new department).
Being grateful, by default, automatically raises your inner vibrations so you’ll find that your unwanted thoughts will be at a minimum. Of course, it’s very hard to be grateful, when you fear the worse, but it is good practice to try to have a grateful mindset when the going gets tough. The trick, always, is to remember. Gratitude invokes the same principle as in my last point; that is to say, you are sending the thought love (although in this case, it’s more indirect than direct). Next time you have unwanted or depressing thoughts, don’t be too harsh on yourself, and just try to find a way to be grateful. You should find that this will reduce it, as you are switching your attention away from the negative thought, and to positive imagery instead.
Getting Your Sleep
This is one which I famously sometimes struggle with, but by going to bed on time helps with your OCD. Why? If you are tired and fatigued, you automatically are ratty and sometimes in a bad mood. Your unwanted thoughts/ OCD will be at an all time high (unless you find a way to chill out or relax…yes it is possible). By getting your required dosage of sleep, you’ll automatically increase your inner vibrations, and your attention span will be sharper. You’ll also find that your critical conscious, Beta brainwave self will be more alert, which means that you’ll reduce your obsessive habits or ignore the unwanted thoughts in you mind more quickly, or won’t pay that much attention to them due to an increase in mental energy.
Being In The, ‘Now’
I have already touched on this before, but wanted to give it a better hurrah by making it the last tip of this article. Put simply, living in the present moment is vastly underrated and underutilized. Mindfulness meditation is the most common form of practicing it, but there are other ways. Being in the, ‘Now’ helps reduce your brainwave state to Theta, which is where re-programming of the subconscious takes place (and in spiritual terms, where you meet your soul/higher self, so from a law of attraction point of view, you create more easily).
Being in the present moment reduce general mental noise to an all time minimum anyway, so that will naturally include OCD and disturbing/unwanted thoughts. In fact, when you observe your mind from one state to the other, it’s actually fascinating to watching how your thoughts seem to, ‘melt away’ or dissolve altogether. The thing though, with OCD, is to keep being in the mindful state after you’ve done your chore (otherwise you’ll find yourself going back to do it again and again.). Don’t make the mistake I’ve made a few times, by getting into the, ‘Now’, do the chore, congratulate myself (by thinking again), only to be a bit anxious and go back! Trust me, this doesn’t work, and if you are not careful, you’re going to believe that this doesn’t work.
What you’ll find is that by being in the, ‘Now’ for a few minutes (in psychological clock time) you’ll do your chore, and do something else, but this time it will still be in your immediate memory. This means that if the worry does pop-up in your mind, your subconscious will automatically give you the image that the chore has been done (of course, for the severe sufferers out there, you do also have to believe the image or you’ll simply repeat the chore again). Therefore it’s best to be mindful for a good few minutes after you’ve done the chore, to keep the negative imagery to a low.
What you’ll find from practicing the above skills is that you’ll be combining one or more to get the best results. And don’t delude yourself into thinking that your OCD will go in the next 5 mins. It will still take a tiny bit of time for it to fully flush away. Even if you use EFT, your anxiety might not completely go (don’t get me wrong, EFT is still a great tool. Click here for the article on it). But by at first recognizing you have a problem (which is a crucial step in and of itself), and then taking some active steps to actually try and resolve the problem using the above techniques, you’ll find that in a few days your OCD and unwanted/disturbing thoughts will be at a minimum.
I must confess, despite still going to bed sometimes late (bad habit, I know;-) when I have tried the above exercises, not only has my general mood lifted, but I also feel strangely powerful as well. It’s as if I’m re-taking control back from my mind, and use it as a great tool it was always meant to be. Your thoughts and imagination are great tools, but they do need to be disciplined and trained, and that sometimes does take time. So don’t be too hard on yourself if you find that after a few days, your OCD is still there, or you keep having really strange/ unwanted thoughts that really don’t want to go away. As a famous spiritual teacher once said, don’t take your thoughts too seriously! You are not them.
And that’s a good thing;-)