I'll never forget the time I had read about ADD…
This is going back several years, and I already began the process of deconstructing the original stories that I was told when I was a kid.
Put simply, I was told a few things when I was very young, only half were remotely true.
So you can imagine my surprise that, when I began delving deeper into my mental issues, I came across ADD and began recognising a lot of the symptoms.
Just over 9 yeas ago, I moved out and into a whole new world of living on my own and the internet. Interestingly, my journey of self-discovery also began there.
The Journey had begun!
When I wasn't gaming or watching porn (I am a former porn addict…I know, but I'm being honest here), I would read countless articles online.
I would also read many stories on people similar to myself, who had been almost duped by some of their peers.
Put it this way, I as told when I was younger that I had Aspergers syndrome, a particular type of autism. It turned out after studying my condition, that it was more similar to the symptoms of ADD (albeit a mild form) with symptom of mercury poisoning splashed in for good measure (thanks, Thimerosal!).
This is where it gets interesting…
All of this meant that my head was always in the clouds and that I couldn't concentrate very easily.
Not necessarily a big deal in college (although you won't be passing that many exams), but when you go to work and you get stressed, its a whole different ball game.
You see, when you are day-dreaming, you are essentially in the alpha state, which is the state to be in for hypnosis.
To sum this up, you essentially hypnotise yourself during stressful conditions, meaning that you take on a lot of bad beliefs without even realising it.
And don't forget, your beliefs dictate you behaviours, so you are essentially in a funny, sick system, where you can buy all the self-improvement stuff that you want, (and even understand it all) but unable to implement barely 10% of it!
And that's not fair
To my cost, I only truly realised this nearly 10 years later, and can now recognise the point when my mind feels slushy, and I know I'm heading for a hypnotic state.
I can pretty much snap out of this alpha state, although it sometimes takes a bit of effort.
And it isn't always when I am sitting at a desk that I can slip into the alpha state, but can be when I am sometimes out and about, talking to people (this seems to happen quite a lot when I am talking to psychologically strong minded people…it's as if their strong minds somehow renders my weak one useless…).
The thing is, ADD affects around 4% off the population for the US alone, and looks set to increase.
It can be really difficult to do tasks, especially if you are very sensitive as there is a lot of mental chaos in you brain. Even doing something that you partially enjoy can seem like a chore.
Boredom isn't too far away!
And I can vouch for this.
For years, I have been in an office, where intense boredom mixed with intense stress taunted my mind for over 10 years.
When I finally moved department, it was like a big thick fog had lifted. I still had some thick mist mind you (thanks to insomnia) but it wasn't nearly so bad.
So, what was the hack that I discovered, that not only helps you emotionally calm down and re-focus but is also a great way of calming the inner chatter in your mind, so that you can mindfully meditate a lot more easily.
Quite simply, all I do is tap.
This isn't EFT in case you are wondering (well the last part is, but not the main steps).
I suspected that all of my fantasying came from one thing… an over-stimulated right-hemisphered brain.
I kinda realised that if I was getting a lot of nervous energy (I have always figited, and couldn't sit still), I realised that I had a lot of energy inside me that I couldn't use.
I also understood that I had to simply, ‘logicalise' this energy, to calm my inner mind down and bring the balance of energy in my brain back.
This helped me get back my mind back to focus and peace.
Or to put it another way, I was able to reduce the amount of imagery in my mind, by consciously moving my body, instead of subconsciously moving my body (and don't forget, nervous energy is also an indication of an over-stimulated sympathetic nervous system).
So what you do is this:
1– Notice the next time you are fantasying or are using a lot of nervous energy.
2– You may also notice the hidden anxiety (there will be some) and realise that your breathing is probably shallow.
3– When you notice that you are using nervous energy, you are unable to sit still, figiting around, daydreaming etc, start consciously tapping.
4– This can be done anywhere, on your body, at your desk…anywhere where you can tap without making a loud noise (best not to disturb people;-).
5– You will find that within 2 minutes, you will become more calm, more mindful, your breathing will be coming from you belly (not always, but sometimes) and you may even find that some Oxytocin will be released (feeling warm around your heart).
6– As a bonus second tip, you can use the EFT quick version, which is to try tapping your wrist with 2 fingers, as this can help the meridians disperse the nervous energy.
Tapping when you get nervous is an excellent simple and free way to reduce the brain chaos and to help steer the ship around, so to speak.
By doing this when you get nervous, you will reduce your anxiety so you can feel more at peace and be more productive with your goals, so you can lead a more happier and abundant lifestyle.
You can also combine this with your meditation practice.
Find a place to sit or lie down, and tap your fingers consciously to help reduce your inner mind imagery if you have difficulty in calming your mind down.
You will find that by doing this for a short while will allow you to achieve mindfulness that little bit more quicker, and you will be able to achieve peace more easier and effortlessly than ever before.
If you do want to find an equally easier way to meditate deeper, you can try the ARVARI courses by Gerald O'Donnell. They are a CD course which, when listened to, allow you to enter very deep states of meditation from Alpha to Delta.
If you wish to find out more details and to read my review, click here.
Till next time
P.S. Day-dreaming most of the time can mean that you may have a symptom of ADD, especially if you have a lot of nervous energy, or that you cannot sit still. This can be disruptive in school or work, and can cause issues with your mental health and your family.
Tapping consciously can be a great way to bring mental clarity back and can help you remain calm in nervous situations. By tapping your fingers, you can help calm yourself down emotionally, bringing peace, being able to re-focus as well as making mindfulness more easier for you.
Practising meditation is another great way to help keep you focused. If you want to find out how to achieve very deep states of meditation and to find out more details on the ARVARI course, please click here.