The one exercise that could change your life, and 5 steps to achieve it.

I’m going to show you something that few people know…

This one exercise helped me start my spiritual journey.

The problem is, when we talk about, ‘life changing’ stuff, people automatically shut down.

It’s not our fault. We’re trained to do it.

However, I’m going to ask you to suspend your disbelief for just a few moments, and read this article in its entirety.

Because you never know, this article could be that, ‘gem in the rough’.

This could actually be life-changing!

You see, just like you, I was very sceptical.

No… actually I was a lot worse…

I was very cynical.

Being bought up in a cynical household, I had every reason to be.

That, and the very fact that I was also brought up as Roman Catholic.

So a church-goer, who is cynical, who had almost zilch passion for life.

Great combination

On top of that, I even thought that life was a waste of time.

After all, if we are all just skin and bones, being born just to pay tax and die into nothingness, then what was the point of it all? (as you can tell, I had a lot of friends;-).

Surely there is more to life that this?

And yet, as I went to church, there was a nagging feeling that there was something I was missing, the knowing of it would change everything.

Don’t you just love statements like that as well…

I will never forget the old story of the teenagers that are driving an old banger.

As they turn down a particularly nice, tidy street, they look around.

They see all of these nice clean posh houses, with lovely sports cars in their garages…

One guy looks at the other guy and says (the now infamous line), ‘There is something that we don’t know, the knowing of which will change everything‘.

I was like that 10 years ago.

Since then, I have asked a lot of deep questions, received very surprising answers and now meditate on a regular basis due to mental clarity as well as understanding some of the health benefits.

And it all began with a simple exercise,

that took less than 5 minutes

Actually, that’s a lie…

It all, truth be told, began with listening to a voice that told me to buy a certain book (which is still available online), which THEN led me to another book which talked about this exercise.

Before I forget, let me quickly tell you a few things…

This isn’t like any other exercises that you know (only a few of you will know this one).

This isn’t about opening your chakras, you even meditating deeply (that may come later…)

Or about EFT… although that’s very useful.

And it certainly isn’t about mindfulness either (although that could be a by-product of this).

Or about a visualization type of meditation exercise…not that there is anything wrong with those (of course;-).

This is something that for a few of you, will radically change how you perceive the world!

It did for me…

…and this is coming from a former cynic!

This is how good it can be

But before I carry on, just a few words of caution…

This exercise requires just two things: open mindedness and a mirror.

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Here’s why…

Opened mindedness is always crucial when trying a new exercise.

We’re so bombarded with crap info left, right and centre when it comes to online stuff, we have no idea who or what to trust.

That’s understandable and fair…

After all, whose fault is it that we are so sceptical? (and trust me, the answer isn’t yours;-)

So we are taught early on to not only develop our inner BS indicator, but also to fine tune it and listen to it as often as we can.

If we don’t we get burned.

Simple.

Yet, every now and again, a little bit of open mindedness can go along way. This is one of those times (again, don’t believe me, but try it and see for yourself;-)

and number 2, the mirror…

Well, lets just say that you’ll find out in a few moments;-)

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Enough waffling, here’s the exercise:

1 – Find a mirror that its around head height, or one which you can hold up to your face.

We are aiming to gaze into our own eyes, as the eyes are the windows to your soul. Of course, you have probably heard that loads of times, so this time, we are going to actually experience it, for experience creates wisdom (as you are about to discover, hopefully).

2 – Look at your eyes, and gaze at the black bits in the centre, that is called the pupil.

3 – Don’t strain hard, but gaze gently for a few minutes.

4 – What you should find is a deep peace which doesn’t emanate from your Heart area (this isn’t the Heart Chakra opening up, for once) but even more deeply from your centre of being.

5 – Keep gazing softly at your pupils until you have enough peace for the day;-)

That’s it.

Easy, wasn’t it

You may find that by doing this exercise, you might feel slightly light headed and feel you are going to faint and pass out.

Don’t worry abut this, as you’ll find that you should be able to stand up to the light headedness, enough to grow strong enough to handle the peace.

I remember when I first did this.

I was sceptical that it wasn’t going to work, and was so close to not even attempt this exercise (I still remember that moment to this very day.

Thank god I didn’t talk myself out of it! I remember walking to my bathroom, and looking into my eyes and felt like I was going to pass out.

But I didn’t, and survived long enough to tell the tale;-)

The whole experience lasted just a few minutes.

That was all I needed, and I began realising that I have been told a bunch of lies.

From that moment on, my BS indicator began getting better, as I could tell what information resonated with my being, and which stuff was just manipulation.

I also invite you to do the same, and begin seeing this as another simple meditation exercise (which it is!).

Of course, if you can combine this with meditating deeply, then that is even better.

Whilst I haven’t got the expertise to teach you, I know of someone who can.

His name is Gerald O’Donnell, and he has produced 2 courses which allow you to meditate deeply than ever before.

And when I mean deep, we’re talking about brainwaves that are into the Theta and even Delta range.

Now that’s deep!

Not only that, but these ARVARI courses can also help you increase you intuition, which can help you not only in your personal life but also reduce (and in some cases, avoid) dangerous situations before you find yourself involved in them.

To find out more about the ARVARI courses and to read my review, please click here.

Till next time

Julian

P.S. Looking into your eyes is a great way to connecting to your higher consciousness, or soul.

To do this requires that you use a mirror, and gaze gently at your pupils. By doing this, you will find a deep peace emanating deep within your centre of being.

Combining this with meditating deeply can bring some profound results. To find out more information about meditating deeply, please click here.

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Have a lot of nervous energy? Here’s 6 steps to get your peace back!

I’ll never forget the time I had read about ADD…

This is going back several years, and I already began the process of deconstructing the original stories that I was told when I was a kid.

Put simply, I was told a few things when I was very young, only half were remotely true.

So you can imagine my surprise that, when I began delving deeper into my mental issues, I came across ADD and began recognising a lot of the symptoms.

Just over 9 yeas ago, I moved out and into a whole new world of living on my own and the internet. Interestingly, my journey of self-discovery also began there.

The Journey had begun!

When I wasn’t gaming or watching porn (I am a former porn addict…I know, but I’m being honest here), I would read countless articles online.

I would also read many stories on people similar to myself, who had been almost duped by some of their peers.

Put it this way, I as told when I was younger that I had Aspergers syndrome, a particular type of autism. It turned out after studying my condition, that it was more similar to the symptoms of ADD (albeit a mild form) with symptom of mercury poisoning splashed in for good measure (thanks, Thimerosal!).

This is where it gets interesting…

All of this meant that my head was always in the clouds and that I couldn’t concentrate very easily.

Not necessarily a big deal in college (although you won’t be passing that many exams), but when you go to work and you get stressed, its a whole different ball game.

You see, when you are day-dreaming, you are essentially in the alpha state, which is the state to be in for hypnosis.

To sum this up, you essentially hypnotise yourself during stressful conditions, meaning that you take on a lot of bad beliefs without even realising it.

And don’t forget, your beliefs dictate you behaviours, so you are essentially in a funny, sick system, where you can buy all the self-improvement stuff that you want, (and even understand it all) but unable to implement barely 10% of it!

And that’s not fair

To my cost, I only truly realised this nearly 10 years later, and can now recognise the point when my mind feels slushy, and I know I’m heading for a hypnotic state.

I can pretty much snap out of this alpha state, although it sometimes takes a bit of effort.

And it isn’t always when I am sitting at a desk that I can slip into the alpha state, but can be when I am sometimes out and about, talking to people (this seems to happen quite a lot when I am talking to psychologically strong minded people…it’s as if their strong minds somehow renders my weak one useless…).

The thing is, ADD affects around 4% off the population for the US alone, and looks set to increase.

It can be really difficult to do tasks, especially if you are very sensitive as there is a lot of mental chaos in you brain. Even doing something that you partially enjoy can seem like a chore.

Boredom isn’t too far away!

And I can vouch for this.

For years, I have been in an office, where intense boredom mixed with intense stress taunted my mind for over 10 years.

When I finally moved department, it was like a big thick fog had lifted. I still had some thick mist mind you (thanks to insomnia) but it wasn’t nearly so bad.

So, what was the hack that I discovered, that not only helps you emotionally calm down and re-focus but is also a great way of calming the inner chatter in your mind, so that you can mindfully meditate a lot more easily.

Quite simply, all I do is tap.

That’s it.

This isn’t EFT in case you are wondering (well the last part is, but not the main steps).

I suspected that all of my fantasying came from one thing… an over-stimulated right-hemisphered brain.

I kinda realised that if I was getting a lot of nervous energy (I have always figited, and couldn’t sit still), I realised that I had a lot of energy inside me that I couldn’t use.

I also understood that I had to simply, ‘logicalise’ this energy, to calm my inner mind down and bring the balance of energy in my brain back.

This helped me get back my mind back to focus and peace.

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Or to put it another way, I was able to reduce the amount of imagery in my mind, by consciously moving my body, instead of subconsciously moving my body (and don’t forget, nervous energy is also an indication of an over-stimulated sympathetic nervous system).

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So what you do is this:

1– Notice the next time you are fantasying or are using a lot of nervous energy.

2– You may also notice the hidden anxiety (there will be some) and realise that your breathing is probably shallow.

3– When you notice that you are using nervous energy, you are unable to sit still, figiting around, daydreaming etc, start consciously tapping.

4– This can be done anywhere, on your body, at your desk…anywhere where you can tap without making a loud noise (best not to disturb people;-).

5– You will find that within 2 minutes, you will become more calm, more mindful, your breathing will be coming from you belly (not always, but sometimes) and you may even find that some Oxytocin will be released (feeling warm around your heart).

6– As a bonus second tip, you can use the EFT quick version, which is to try tapping your wrist with 2 fingers, as this can help the meridians disperse the nervous energy.

Tapping when you get nervous is an excellent simple and free way to reduce the brain chaos and to help steer the ship around, so to speak.

By doing this when you get nervous, you will reduce your anxiety so you can feel more at peace and be more productive with your goals, so you can lead a more happier and abundant lifestyle.

You can also combine this with your meditation practice.

Find a place to sit or lie down, and tap your fingers consciously to help reduce your inner mind imagery if you have difficulty in calming your mind down.

You will find that by doing this for a short while will allow you to achieve mindfulness that little bit more quicker, and you will be able to achieve peace more easier and effortlessly than ever before.

If you do want to find an equally easier way to meditate deeper, you can try the ARVARI courses by Gerald O’Donnell. They are a CD course which, when listened to, allow you to enter very deep states of meditation from Alpha to Delta.

If you wish to find out more details and to read my review, click here.

Till next time

Julian.

P.S. Day-dreaming most of the time can mean that you may have a symptom of ADD, especially if you have a lot of nervous energy, or that you cannot sit still. This can be disruptive in school or work, and can cause issues with your mental health and your family.

Tapping consciously can be a great way to bring mental clarity back and can help you remain calm in nervous situations. By tapping your fingers, you can help calm yourself down emotionally, bringing peace, being able to re-focus as well as making mindfulness more easier for you.

Practising meditation is another great way to help keep you focused. If you want to find out how to achieve very deep states of meditation and to find out more details on the ARVARI course, please click here.

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Past Hurt and Forgiveness- Are You Doing One Of These 6 Things?

past-hurt11I was almost tempted not to write this article…

Forgiveness and the past is not my strongest suit. I’ve been told that, due to who I am, I will always bear grudges…

not exactly the most healthiest way to live!

On top of that, I can’t even mention some of the past stuff stuff that has held me back in life, for legal reasons..

so that doesn’t help either!

And just to put the icing on the cake, (don’t you just love that phrase), I constantly suffer from anger and rage due to images in my mind, and being (at times) unable to control them.

So believe me when I say, certainly over an important topic, that I was very tempted not to write anything on the past and forgiveness of it.

So why bother then. Why bother wasting internet space on something that has little practical value in ones life.

3 reasons!

Firstly , because this topic is relevant and current now, more than ever. I’m seeing a lot of hurt people out there, with a good degree of what is known in some circles as, ‘learned helplessness’.

‘Learned helplessness’ is a term given when it feels like you are stuck with someone or somewhere, career or otherwise, without any way out.

Its kinda a big deal, and promotes depression, anger, as well as lack of confidence.

I’m seeing a lot of, ‘learned helplessness’ wherever I go, and it kinda bothers me.

Why?

Because we are creative beings, able to mold, or (at the very least), influence our future.

So why don’t we do it?

As I said, we believe that we can’t.

And one of the reasons that we can’t is due to the past and its grip on us.

That’s number 1.

Number 2 is that, despite not fully healing my past (being honest here), I have learnt many ways to come to terms with it.

Yes, I still suffer from anger and rage. Yes, my blood sometimes boils over similar events, But as each day goes on, I’m getting better (sleep dependant, of course;-).

This allows me to focus more on my goals. This extra mental space that I have earned has allowed extra creative thoughts to flash into my mind for inspiration.

Or put simply, I have more, ‘hard drive space’ and as a result, perceived extra, ‘processing power’ to do the stuff that I want.

That is the power of letting go of the past!

It frees up mental space so you can focus on other stuff.

When you let go of the past, your beliefs that are rooted there are changed. You start doing new stuff, new momentum kicks in. You feel like a new you.

Pretty good!

But letting go of the past feels like you are justifying what has happened. You say to yourself, ‘If I forgive this person, I feel like I have authorised what they have done. It is justified’.

I can appreciate that.

Here’s what you don’t know. You are not justifying their actions, merely reclaiming your inner peace over them.

That’s different!

Number 3

For some people, not forgiving the past allows then to keep the resentment it has to offer, which allows them to be righteous in front of other people…

which makes them feels good (only temporarily).

I know, because I have had this feeling myself. I’ve been righteous, and felt great…

…for a short while. Then I felt crap afterwards.

This is going to sound kinda mad, but I know some people who carry bitterness in themselves, yet love being righteous to get that dopamine kick when they need it.

Of course, this is a temporary high, and it soon wears off.

Be careful of these people, because they will burden you in one way shape or form, and may even suck your energy. Some, ‘energy vampires’ may fit this category.

But what happens when you do start to forgive the past?

What you will find is a funny kind of acceptance that promotes peace and eventually cultivates mindfulness (By the way, that is why some people are unable to practice mindfulness, images of the past come up…).

Yet I don’t know about you, but whenever I get into the state of mindfulness, I feel empowered not dis-empowered. My peace increases (not cosmetic, like a mini-dopamine high that righteousness sometimes brings, but a deeper, more fulfilling feeling), as well as increased mental clarity, and my inner will-power returning.

Of course, if you do practice mindfulness on a regular basis, the chances are that you are slowly letting go of the past anyway.

In which case, keep going.

But what if you can’t become mindful. Then what?

Try the below to see if these work.

EFT

EFT is all about tapping certain parts of your body, and reciting a few simple affirmations. By doing this ritual, you will increase your energy and feel more better about the situation. Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this. I’ve used this myself with a job interview, and going back to my former college (I wasn’t the biggest fan due to some stuff that happened). To read more about EFT, click here.

Stopping Comparisons

I was an expert at this over a decade ago, and thanks to social media, it is easy to see why!

But comparing your journey to somebody else’s journey, without even knowing all the facts, is like trying to see inside their brain without an operation. It’s just not going to work.

Stop comparing your life with somebody else’s! They have had their fair share of ups and downs, I can assure you. Someone very wise once said, that if we all bung our negatives into a pile, and study other peoples, were would gladly take ours back…

Don’t forget, social media is nothing short of a highlights reel. Nothing more!

Practising Gratitude

Depending on your situation, this can be a tricky one, and is not the easiest thing to pull off if you are really stuck in your emotional glue.

But basically you try to be as neutral about the person/event as you can, and see the positive over it. Not that this is easy. By seeing the positive, or the, ‘blessing in disguise’, you are able to slowly heal that aspect of yourself.

This may take numerous attempts, so don’t be surprised if the bad feelings come back after a while. Keep going. If you can do this on a regular basis, you may be ready for…

Loving Kindness Meditation

This is a form of compassion meditation, and is useful in helping you get over people.

The exercise is quite simple… you simply sit/lie down, close you eyes, take a few deep breaths, think about someone who has pissed you off (should be quite a few people by now;-) and say to yourself that you wish this person success and happiness and try your best to feel love/compassion for them.

This sounds quite mad I know, yet it is surprisingly effective, and there is even evidence to suggest that this type of meditation may actually reduce the signs of ageing (click here for details).

Seeing The Funny Side

Of course, if you really want to mess with your psyche (just kidding;-), you can even look back at the person and event with humour (if you can…again this is very dependant on what your situation is).

I was hesitant to put this in, as it is very difficult initially, to find the funny side without feeling that you are loosing the plot (and some peoples histories are more serious than others, so no offence intended if you have been a victim of abuse, for example). However, like the above, it can be very effective at dissolving fear, anger/rage and promoting peace.

I’ve sometimes allowed my anger to flood my body, be with the anger for a while (where there was nobody around) and then when the episode passed, laughed at myself while saying, ‘there you go, had to get it out of my system’. I wasn’t repressing the anger, just merely controlling the, ‘hose’.

Very important.

Writing In A Journal

I was also hesitant in writing this one, because I don’t do it, but I’ve read that it is effective in helping you come to grips with your past, so thought it would be worthy of a mention.

Essentially, it will be like writing a diary, and can be helpful in putting what is in your mind out into the open. I’ve read that this can be an effective way in promoting peace, and promoting self-healing. Give it a try.

Let me know how the above works for you, as I do like reading inspiring stories on peoples triumphs. If you would like more information on meditation, and how to increase the chances of intuition and self-healing, please click here.

 

Suffer from social anxiety? A quick guide to help you!

Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) affects over 15 millions Americans, causing breakdowns in relationships, increases nervous in social situations, and can lead to a life of social awkwardness and loneliness.

Yet the people who generally recover from SAD have greater confidence in their speaking ability, are able to meet new people in a bar or club, and are able to create and sustain longer and more fulfilling friendships which ultimately means a more happier life. And of course for those who do recover from a social anxiety, the chance to not only meet but engage with a potential soul mate.

Data already shows that around 90% of all communication is done non-verbally anyway, which includes body language, tone and eye contact.

So it is really important to have coping mechanisms so that next time you are in a social situation, you are not feeling overwhelmed at the enormity of trying to meet new people.

While it can be useful to help heal the anxiety by using some form of self-hypnosis, studies do say that Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) is still one of the best ways to recover to get in control of your social life again.

You can also try EFT, a therapy based on touching parts of your face and chest, so you can reduce the feelings of anxiety that can arise when you think or imagine a possible social situation, and NLP will also also allow you to see how your mind is storing the negative imagery, so you can change it to a positive one, making a social situation more inviting rather then scary.

So, you get invited, attend a bar and you see a few people, one of them you recognize. Then what?

Saying, ‘Hi’ and breaking the ice by making a quick passing comment, or a quick complement is a tactic that I sometimes use. Then it is a question of holding your nerves and actively engaging in your conversation.

Naturally it is easier to engage in the conversation, if the topic is something you are interested in. But there are times when the topic of interest will be what will seem like an obscure niche. The trick then, is to ask questions and then just listen.

Asking questions is a great way of keeping the conversation flowing, as people love answering questions about themselves and how they relate to the topic at hand.

Being able to socialize means also means learning to keep eye contact, something that SAD sufferers often dread, so here is a quick tactic when it comes to talking to a group and maintaining eye contact

The easy rule of thumb to follow, when it comes to speaking to a group of people, is to use the, ‘1 sentence per person’ rule. That is to say, as you speak to a group of people in a bar, speak to the individuals one at a time, so that it appears you are speaking generally to the group.

If you have difficulty in maintaining eye contact, try to focus on the persons eyebrows, or if you wish, soften your focus so that you a gazing at the them, rather than looking at them. This should reduce any anxiety that you may be feeling.

Of course, when it comes to communication, we can get lost and caught up with our anxiety when it comes to eye contact. Socially anxious people have a difficult time in keeping eye contact, so it is best to have a protocol when it comes to keeping your cool and speaking to someone.

In general, keep maintaining eye contact around a third of the time when you are talking to someone. This helps take the pressure of thinking you are staring at them.

On the other hand, when the other person is talking to you, try to maintain eye contact around 60% of the time, and try to nod your head a few times (as if you agree with what they are saying). This helps the flow of the conversation, and can also be useful in gaining rapport.

Of course, anxiety may pop up, and you may have to then contend with looking at someone and feeling uncomfortable at the same time. The best way to overcome this is to try belly breathing.

Just breathing through your belly a few times will help reduce your nerves, and will allow you to gain control of your situation, so you don’t loose face. You can also practice being mindful, by being present in the hear and now. This will help reduce the fear given to you by your Amygdala, that part of your brain which is responsible for emotions.

While you are starting out however, it is important to not jump in but to start small. As you have trained yourself (albeit accidentally) to be nervous in social situations, you will need to slowly go back into socializing more fully again. The trick is to try progressive desensitization.

Progressive desensitization is about facing your fear. Start small, by exposing yourself to the fear, and you will begin to slowly desensitize and then overcome your fear.

So in the context of a social situation, you would first aim to going to a bar once a week, and meeting just one or two people there. Then as your confidence starts to grow, you move to 2 bars during the week and meeting a few more people, until you ultimately find yourself being invited or attending other social events. As each week goes on, your confidence gets bigger and your social anxiety gets smaller.

The more you do this, the easier it will become, and your social anxiety should be a thing of the past. Try the above and let me know how you get on.

 

The Top 7 Ways To Control Your Anger!

Do you suffer from anger? Do you find yourself getting angry and wound up very easily. Believe it or now, all is not lost as there are coping mechanisms you can use to help control, reduce and in some cases even eliminate the anger. But only if you want to.

And that is because some people actually seem to enjoy being angry. For some, it is an EGO boost, a power trip to release tension and to get what they want. However, the emotion of anger can harm your body, as the emotions play a significant part in our overall health. Or to put it another way, it has been said that a few minutes of rage can actually reduce your immune system for several hours. Now I don’t know about you, but that is a few hours too many.

I’ve suffered my fair share of anger and rage over the years. It’s not been pretty, and you do loose many friends. You have to be really careful in what you say and do, as anger has an annoying habit of getting you to say and do things which you are only going to regret, and can be ultimately costly.

So if you do want to remain healthy, keep your immune system and your blood pressure intact, and keep your friends, keep reading. This article will help summarize the best ways to reduce anger and get your inner peace of mind back. As always, reading is simply not enough, you do need to take action. But by taking action, you’ll begin to gain more emotional strength, which will help any future situations.

1- Use deep breathing

Deep breathing is vastly under-rated in modern society. Just the act of deep belly breathing itself can work wonders for your emotions and your mind. It automatically has a soothing effect on your emotional well-being, and can be helped to keep your mind clear, distraction free, and to re-focus on the task at hand.

To deep breath, take a good belly breath, hold for 2 seconds, and then breath out. Repeat this simple exercise 3-5 times (more depending on the level of anger you feel) to really help reduce the anger bubbling inside you. You’ll be surprised how effective this little exercise can be.

2- Count backwards

This is another great exercise that you can do in the privacy of your own mind, and helps not only to relax you but to retain your inner peace. Essentially, when you feel you are getting angry, learn to quickly count backwards in your mind from 20. If you can breath deeply at the same time, this will also help. I’ve used this technique to stop emotionally reacting to peoples comments, that would otherwise wind me up, and can be used to re-claim your peace of mind.

3- Being present

For the spiritual amongst you, presence is a good way of reducing your anger. By being present, your are reducing your EGO mind chatter, and the imagery that comes with it, which means that you will re-claim your peace and reduce the negative emotions that anger was giving you. Of course, this does mean that you have to quickly find a way to be present. One of the easiest ways of doing this is to use your peripheral vision, so that your central focus is widened (although deep breathing can also be used in conjunction with this for great effect).

4- EFT

Another clever little resource, this can be used to help not only reduce anger (by restoring the energetic flow of emotional energy) but can also help you to stop reacting the same way in the future.

EFT is all about tapping certain parts of your face and body, while reciting affirmations. While it may sound silly, EFT is a powerful free tool in helping you overcome many emotional issues, and has been used to treat many psychological problems.

When you are in the angry state (if you can remember), sit down for about 5 minutes and do a quick session of EFT. You’ll find that after a few, ’rounds’ you’ll start to notice peaceful feelings returning (or at the very least, the intensity of the feeling of anger will be reduced). EFT is a powerful technique, and has been used by thousands of people across the world with startling effects.

5- Drinking cool water/green tea

Of course, diet plays an important role when it comes to your emotional well-being, and anger is no exception. Popular drinks like coffee and alcohol actually can be more of a hindrance than a help. Caffeine is a popular stimulant, whereas alcohol is the best combustible…it can heat and dry your body.

However, a better alternative would be to slowly drink cool (not cold) water, as this will soothe your nerves. If you have access though, drinking green tea is a great way to relax you, as it contains Theanine which calms you. Of course, try to go for the de-caffeinated version, so the Theanine will be at it’s best, and not be fighting against the stimulating effects of the caffeine.

6- Boxing bag

If you simply don’t have the time for the above, or are not in a situation to do anything, a boxing bag can be very handy after work. Of course, you would need to find a way to help calm the nerves before you get home/go to the gym (breathing exercises would be advised in this case) but once you have left work, or the situation that is causing your anger, the boxing bag can be an ideal way to let of some steam.

Of course, try not to destroy your bag, as you will end up not only hurting yourself but also causing long-term injuries. Boxing gloves would be well advised, as well as wearing wrist supports. Doing a few rounds in the gym can work wonders on your emotional strength, and can help you get the negativity out of your system.

7- Avoiding situations/knowing your triggers

It does go without saying, that if you know something is going to make you angry, try to avoid it altogether. Sometimes certain comments which trigger images can wind you up. Other times, it could be certain people. The thing is to try to find a way to keep contact with them at a minimum, or if you must, find coping strategies so you can put up a, ‘shield’ so your negativity will be reduced. Of course, this does require practice, and also the knowledge that you know which situations, comments or images are likely to trigger the feelings of anger in you.

But over time, you’ll find yourself building emotional strength, which will not only help you feel better, but can also send out positive vibes towards other people who could also be suffering. Knowing what triggers your anger is a priceless skill, and can help you resolve conflicts peacefully and very quickly.

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The Top 6 Benefits Of Getting Your Sleep

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Everybody knows that sleep is important to you, but do you know just how important? They say it’s always quality over quantity, but are you sure you are getting your hours worth each night? For some adults, if it isn’t insomnia keeping them awake, it could be the pressure of job stress or even family obligations that’s doing the job.

I must confess, even though I’ve written an article on sleep before (last year I believe), even to this day, getting a great night sleep isn’t as easy as it sounds. Why? Well, for starters, bad habits die hard. When I was in my teens growing up, I would end up going to bed later and later, which ultimately caused my studying to suffer, and then my exams results. Secondly, stress in my adult life took it’s toll. And before I knew it, my twenties had come and gone.

You see, that’s the problem with a poor sleep schedule. Not only does it disrupt your body clock, but it makes the day wizz by without you appreciating it. And before you know, 6 months have already gone. By getting your sleep (somehow) you can make the most of your days and really appreciate being here in the moment. Here, I look at the top 6 benefits of getting your sleep.

1- Increases your immune system

Getting a good night sleep automatically boosts your bodies immune system, regardless if you eat plenty of fruit or not. If course, if you do eat your fruit, a good nights rest will naturally keep your body in good condition (from an illness view anyway). But even if you don’t eat that much fruit (I must confess, I don’t…) getting your sleep is a must for improved body immunity and a higher chance of fighting of illnesses.

Of course, if you do get ill, trying to get your sleep itself won’t be easy, and if you’re not careful, you may find yourself trapped in a viscous cycle, where you go to bed late and not dream much, followed by more illness, followed by more late sleep time etc. The trick is to find a way to relax, even attempt meditation (yes, I’ve done it, but not easy) so you can drift off and help your immune system. You can try listening to some Delta/Theta CD’s to help you drift off, if that helps, or drink some soothing Chamomile tea.

2- Reduces depression

Getting your hours of sleep will certainly help elevate your mood, and help reduce mood swings. From a spiritual standpoint, it could be said that the more sleep you have, the more you feel the higher vibrations of your soul, as well as your Chakras having a good proportion of Qi energy, which trickles through when you are dreaming (It’s been also said that dreaming is simply an unconscious out-of-body experience, as you are floating slightly above your body, so the Qi energy can trickle through and nourish your Chakras).

From a non-spiritual standpoint, getting you sleep does help with your mood, and also helps you to see the positive in a situation, when you would normally see the negative giving you a balanced and fair viewpoint at the situation at hand. And of course, it means that you don’t get stressed and anxious that easily, which means that you can better cope with tough tasks when they head in your direction.

3- Reduces the risk of death

Believe it or not, having your required amount of sleep will actually reduce the risk of death at an early age. Found in the, ‘Whitehall II Study’, Researchers from Britain looked at around 10’000 British Civil Servants over 2 decades, for sleep loss, and found out that the servants who had reduced their sleep from 7 hours to around 5 hours (or fewer) almost doubled their risk of death from different sources. Coupled with the fact, that sleep deprivation means that certain famous hormones are not being able to nourish certain parts of the body, and it’s not difficult to find out why.

4- Releases more Human Growth Hormone into the body

Probably one of the most famous of the hormones that are released when you are sleeping. True, you can buy supplements to compensate, but for a better, natural way of doing it, sleep will always be number 1. And why? Because The Human Growth Hormone is responsible for so many good things that our body needs, from promoting growth, to increasing thickened skin to improving muscle mass and bone structure.

That is why bodybuilding take HGH so seriously, they know how it can help increase muscle mass for building more muscle. Supplements can also help, but if you do want to give your body (and brain) a good head start, getting your required dosage of sleep is a must.

5- Increases your mental skills

This may seem a bit obvious, yet it amazes me how some people really work their brains hard, when a good night sleep will not only make them a slightly happier person, but they also don’t have to fight hard to get their minds working!. Essentially a good sleep (especially in the long run) will help with your cognitive functioning, your alertness and will help you visualizing (yeah, don’t try focused visualizing when you are tired, it doesn’t work very easily!). Essentially, you are helping your brain so you can makes better judgment calls, improve memory, and be more attentive to what you are doing…always valuable in the workplace.

Of course, this is easier said than done if you are stressed, or suffer from an anxiety disorder of some sort. Getting to bed itself is tricky, especially if you suffer from OCD, and actually being relaxed to fall asleep can be trickier still. Somehow, you have to find a way to relax, so this is where meditation can come into play, or a nice relaxing warm bath. If you do feel particularly anxious over a certain thing, try your hand at EFT (no pun intended;-). You’ll might find that you get the relaxed mindset that your body needs after all.

6. Reduces the risk of gaining weight

According to a study conducted in 2004, the people who slept for less than 6 hours a day were 30% more likely to suffer from obesity than those who slept between 7-9 hours. Not only that, but there is a link between sleep and the peptides that regulate the appetite. Shortened sleep is strongly associated with a decrease in Leptin and an increase in Ghrelin, Leptin being a protein hormone that has a key role in regulating appetite and Ghrelin being a hunger-stimulating peptide.

Put simply, getting your required hours means that you are less likely to go for that chocolate bar (probably due to the sugars that your brain and body needs to stay awake). You’ll also less likely to have a need for coffee, so you won’t need to worry about the stimulation of caffeine in your blood. This should make mental clarity much more easier to obtain. Food for thought;-)

 

Top 4 Ways To Reduce Stress And Anxiety Fast!

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Do you want to combat and manage stress and anxiety for good? Are you really sick to death of the suffering? I don’t want to appear funny, but there are people who claim to want to heal themselves, but don’t actually do anything. It’s hard to believe, but the amount of people that I’ve come across who moan and winge about life, yet don’t get inspired to take any action baffles me. Then it dawned on me why this could happen…hard to believe, but some people actually feel great by feeling bad.

I couldn’t believe this when I heard it, at least on a conscious level. Yet, (and I know I shouldn’t really admit this) I’ve been guilty of doing this myself. Certainly waking up in the early hours of the night, being angry and depressed at not having something, or having a bad time with my life didn’t helps things, and of course only re-conditions the subconscious (due to the fact that when you wake up, your brainwaves exhibit mostly Theta waves, which is used in some peoples cases to re-programme the subconscious). I woke up once and tried to study the depression that I was feeling, to try to get a grasp of the feeling that I was having while being in a nice comfy bed.

To the best of my knowledge, despite it feeling bad and dis-empowering, there was like an addiction to the depression I was feeling. Even when I realized what was going on, and tried to loosely fantasize a happier outcome, my subconscious would come roaring back with ‘oh that’s impossible, stop being delusional’ etc. It took quite the effort to somehow break this spell, by sheer mental willpower (which is never nice early in the morning).

So believe me when I say, while I sympathize that people have stress/anxiety and many other mental health problems, there are some people who subconsciously like this. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but learning to see if you a secretly sabotaging your success will go a long way to enable your recovery.

That is part of the reason why I started this blog, to try to help people with what I’ve experienced. Now, I’m not going to list all of my ills here, but I thought I would summarize what I believe to be the top 4 ways to reducing stress and anxiety. Here we go;-)

1- Meditation

Summary – can be used to great effect at reducing (and some people would say, eliminating) long term anxiety and stress. Has been around and used for thousands of years, and baring some ridiculous miracle posture that cures all ills, will be around for the next 50 thousands years (as far as I’m concerned, providing that we don’t destroy our planet due to spiritual ignorance, of course!!!). Has the ability to help reduce your ego mind chatter, and increase intuition.

Pros – Numerous benefits to list them all here, but the main basis is certainly an increase in spiritual, mental and emotional well-being. Ability to heal past emotional wounds, and also helps create mental clarity so that you can think more clearly on the task at hand, allowing you to finish your goals, hopefully to better your life. Can be said to help with out-of-body experiences as well, especially being in the, ‘now’.

Cons – Not many, really, but it can be an absolute bugger to get started, especially if you simply don’t know what to do, or you have severe stomach gut issues which prevent you from relaxing completely. All it really takes is for you to move your attention from your thought process, to either your body, your breathing, or even the sounds outside Do this for a few minutes, and you should start to feel a deep peace. The issues is that some people find this, in itself, difficult. We have been trained to use our minds all the time, and the invention of the Gregorian calendar didn’t really help things when it came to the invention of time (but that’s for another day;-). Still, you know what they say, practice makes perfect!!!

2- Diet

Summary – Well established fact, that if you want to change your lifestyle, what you put into your body also has a significant effect on how you think. Think of eating sweets, and feeling really restless and energetic, for example. So it goes without thinking, that if you want to have a goods nights sleep, drinking coffee at 9 pm (and it is said that caffeine has a half life of 6 hours!) isn’t really going to help matters. Get your diet right, and your head should follow (not sure if I read that somewhere, but thought I’ll put it in anyway:-)

Pros – It’s diet, what do you think? Nutritional food, with nutritional drink, will help keep the body healthy, and your thoughts calmer. Don’t forget, the mind and body are interrelated, so what you think will manifest (to some degree) with your body, and vice versa! (Think of stress related illnesses as one example). It has also been documented, that loving thoughts helps almost single handedly to help the molecules of the water (think of Dr. Emoto, and that famous water experiment). And as our bodies is made up of around 70% water, it’s not hard to imagine the power of feelings on the body.

Cons – Of course, if your busy, this is that last thing you will care about. Busy people eat whatever they can (they have do, they don’t have time to prepare a nutritional snack) and of course if they are busy, the chances are that they need as much energy as they possible can get their hands on.

So we’re talking chocolates, energy drinks, and so on. And don’t forget, you have your emotional eaters (of course) who will always eat something specific to keep their stress levels away (called a coping mechanism). The thing is, emotional eating and eating in a rush does no one any favors, and one needs to create a more healthier coping mechanism, and of course, manage your time better (always helps).

3- Sleep!

Summary – Getting your sleep is absolutely vital to keeping your stress levels to an all time low, as well as being able to focus on your goals, and having a clearer mind. I know I probably shouldn’t admit this, but the article I researched for stress and sleep here was one of the biggest eye-openers for me.

Quite simply, sleep does more than you think! Alright, you already knew that, but they say that it is always quality sleep rather than quantity that always counts. I’m going to go one step further and say that it is the amount of non-rem sleep that you have (don’t forget, your sleep in 90 min cycles, with REM, the eye-twitching one, being the last stage of this cycle. It is also the type of sleep that allows you to dream…whether you remember it or not is another matter;-).

But we need as much non-rem sleep as possible, due mainly (but not exclusively) to the good ol’ Human Growth Hormone being released, probably given us that, ‘freshness’ that we feel when we wake up after a good night.

The thing is, we cannot plan how much non-rem sleep we’re going to have, that is why it is recommended that we have between 7 to 8 hours. Of course, there are those people who use delta CD’s and meditation to help…

Pros – Getting a good, refreshing sleep as numerous benefits, from improved memory, to reducing the risk of some physical ailments, to improved cognitive functioning, and of course, feeling great for the day. It allows you to keep your focus, and helps reduce your stress and anxiety levels (or at the very least, allows you to manage them more effectively).

Cons – For those insomniacs, or people with other sleep disorders, and of course, people who work nights, sleep is a luxury they simply cannot have. Meditation will help, but ultimately, a change in lifestyle may be required (especially those people who are too stressed, or even on a burnout to get any hours of sleep at all). I hate to say this, but medication, or sleeping pills may be the only way. But only if you are able to take the side effects…

4- EFT

Summary – I had heard of EFT before I started my blog, and to be honest with you, when I did my research for my post, EFT and Stress, I didn’t learn anything too new…

Having said that, I did learn a few more things. Firstly, the Chinese used a version of acupuncture (which later inspired EFT) to help treat physical illnesses, not emotional ones. And secondly, EFT can be used to treat nearly everything emotionally bound.

It’s free, it’s quick and best of all, it’s fun. And there’s nothing better than feeling better and like a huge weight has been lifted off of you shoulders. I’ve used it myself to help reduce my OCD to around 60%, have used it for a job interview, to get better focus, and even (and this even surprised me…) get more energy.

That’s right, using EFT in a certain way can get you more energy and help you feel more refreshed (although truth be told, I used it after a decent nights sleep and after meditation, so perhaps the two can work hand in hand…food for thought).

EFT is fast becoming huge popular, due to it’s widespread, and natural benefits.

Pros– Too many to list here, but mainly nearly all psychological conditions and some physical ones (as it is said that many illness are stress induced illnesses). EFT has been said to help reduce autism symptoms, and can also vastly help with PTSD, depression, and many other ailments. It can take as little as a few minutes each day, and the results can be long lasting.

Cons– Not too many, but I did notice in my research that the people who really benefit with EFT are the ones who do it longer than 5 minutes, so perhaps EFT isn’t the shortest treatment of them all (depends I suppose, on the problem at hand). Also, EFT isn’t perfect, and can’t cure all conditions physical or otherwise, under the sun. There are of course, limitations, as to what you can use EFT for. And don’t forget, it has it’s own competition in the likes of PSTEC and IST (which I will be doing future articles about, so watch this space.)

Like meditation, you have to dedicate a certain amount of time to get the maximum benefit from EFT, and some stressful people simply do not have that time. But if you do have 5 minutes to spare, it’s not a bad place to start, even if it does look silly…

What’s your favorite coping mechanism for stress, anxiety or depression? Let me know in the box below;-)

 

How To Rid Yourself Of Depression In 4 Stupidly Easy Ways!

Depression is a condition that many of us will suffer from in some form or another. It is estimated that over 120 million people suffer from some form of depression worldwide, with 80% of people not receiving any treatment. The number of patients who are diagnosed with depression increases by around 20% each year in America, with the people who are unemployed and recently divorced being the type of people most likely to suffer from it. I myself have suffered a form of depression, (even suicidal thoughts back in 2012 when I was at my most lowest point). It got me thinking about my lifestyle and what I wanted to achieve, and since that terrible day, have tried to make amends to amend my ways and lead a more healthier life.

But it hasn’t been easy. I would love to write an article saying that I had this one epiphany and everything in my life changed, but in all honesty it’s all been about small and regular changes. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with people or gurus who say that they did one particular action or was involved in one event, but I guess I’m not that type of guy. For me, my depression was on and off for over 10 years, and included anxiety attacks, mild insomnia and OCD.

To completely recover from depression, in my opinion, does take time. People can talk about being in medication and taking drugs, as there is evidence to say that depression is nothing more than just a simple chemical imbalance. Resolve the chemical imbalance, and the troubles just fade away! But in my opinion, this just tells half the story…while I don’t dispute these findings, I believe that the chemical imbalance is the outcome, not the cause of depression. The cause of the depression can be job/career related, relationship/family related, or financially related (or a combination of all three) and while taking medication can help relieve the symptoms, unless lifestyle changes are made, you will soon be back on it.

Now, I want to be really brutally honest here…I’m not an advocate in taking medication for most depression cases. Barring the odd severe case, I believe medication does more harm than good. Maybe I’m lucky that my depression hasn’t been that long, or hasn’t been that intense. I don’t know that many people who are severely depressed, but from memory, taking a pill was the last thing on my mind during my last episode. I’ve actually taken more pills for anxiety attacks, then for depression (only to realize what a waste that was!). While I will appreciate the poor person that has a severe case my argue this (and understandably so), from my experience there are more healthier ways of reducing it. Of course, medication does give you mental breathing space (which, again I can appreciate), but from all of the forums, discussions and articles I’ve read, medication is a solution most people are against.

This was even validated during a (fairly) recent episode. Whilst not that bad, I did observe my body during the depressing wave. I quickly realized a few things I noticed which I hadn’t noticed during my 10 year wave (things I wished I knew back then). It seems that my self-help curious ego had actually served a purpose, and I was able to avoid much of the misery that I had suffered a few years back. What I present isn’t new, isn’t exclusive, and I’m under no illusion that you’ll either hate it (or see it as pointless) or you’ll agree but can add some more. Either way is fine. I don’t believe there is a one-size-fits-all approach to recovering from depression (well, apart from obvious lifestyle changes, but that is also arguable). So see these points as reminders, on how to get yourself out of a tricky situation.

 

Thinking of your ideal scenario all day

You’re depressed because you feel helpless, like nothing you can do is going to work, and you are low of energy. What I have found is that if you can somehow have an image of your ideal career/partner in your mind (whatever image is causing you to be depressed, think of the ideal version of that image) you will gain, after a short amount of time new energy, and will carry on the day with vigor. When I have the image in my mind, a new sense of inner personal power took over, and I was able to be more focused and more attentive to the job in hand…which was quite surprising, as I had no idea that this would have any side benefit at all. Of course, the image wasn’t a static image, but an image that was constantly evolving; from a snapshot of the ideal career, to being practical and actually finding ways to turn the image into reality (nothing to do with the Law of Attraction…at least, not yet;-). In the space of a few hours, the image had changed from static, to the actual dynamics on how to create it. This bizarrely increased my inner will power, my concentration, and my energy levels (as I had a bad night sleep, so I was feeling really down). This nicely leads me to my next topic…

 

Sleep

Get your sleep, period! While I can appreciate mums and dads can say that they don’t get any sleep due to their kids, feeling super tired and fatigued during the day does more harm to you then you realize (please see this article on sleep and stress). Find a way to get early nights, or find a routine and stick to it.

When I’ve been depressed in the past, I always remember that my sleep had been a contributing factor. Fatigue and depression, in my experience, go hand in hand (or to put it another way, I very rarely see someone who has had ample sleep, complaining about being depressed…). Having your 7-8 hours of sleep my be tricky to begin with, but your routine will eventually allow your subconscious to feel sleepy, allowing you to drift off once bed time takes place. To quickly get some energy during the day, you can do one of two things: Either meditate in Theta (I’ve found that the Theta level releases short bursts of healing and energizing energy. You can buy some Theta CD’s here) or do a quick session on EFT, which can also leave you feeling energized.

 

Gratitude

One thing I always try to do is to feel grateful for at least 5 things. Why? It helps you feel more alive with more energy due to it uplifting your soul, and it also helps you change your negative self-talk into positive self talk, which has numerous physical and mental benefits. The easiest thing to feel grateful for is having a nice home, or wearing some nice clothes, and then go from there. You can try being grateful for the crap in your life, because you now know what you don’t want (i.e. see the blessings in disguise). This allows you to make and act on a new choice, bringing more opportunity in your direction, which could also ultimately help remove the very thing that is causing you to be depressed to begin with.

 

Breathing/Mindfulness Meditation

By keeping positive imagery in your mind, and controlled belly breathing, you are able to retain your focus and keep yourself mildly energized. Being in the, ‘Now’ helps (or being present). Controlled belly breathing actually helps you feel more present and this by default helps reduce any stressful feelings your depression can sometimes spring (yes, one can lead to another…it does happen!). I’ve found a particularly useful way of keeping energized during the worst moments, when the negative, depressing induced imagery starts to take hold in your imagination, and you need to concentrate at the task in hand. Staccato Breathing is a great way on increasing energy levels (at least for the immediate short term) and helps with your cognitive abilities. Simply breath though your nose inwards, increasing the size of your belly initially, but moving upward so you feel your chest increasing as well (kind a’ like pouring water into a jug) and then reverse it breathing outwards (so chest first then belly second).

Do this 3 times, always inhaling and exhaling though your nose. When it comes to the forth attempt, inhale again, but when you exhale, use your mouth this time, and blow out short bursts of air (as if you are blowing out imaginary bubbles). This helps increase your energy and allows you to think more clearly. And the good thing about this technique, is that not only is it quick to do, you can also do it throughout the day.

Try the above things to help you throughout the day. Exercise and diet of course helps, but maintaining presence, or keeping positive mental imagery are also viable and powerful ways in keeping your inner personal power, and as a result your mood intact. You can also try Bach remedies, and if you are into a bit of NLP, try using mental anchors The trick is to keep yourself feeling powerful, and that change can and will take place. Over the years, I’ve been at my depressing worst when I feel that change will never take place, yet over time, (and the help of a good nights sleep;-) I have increased my personal willpower tenfold. Creative visualization can be a great way in helping re-programme your subconscious so that not only you believe in change, but you are inspired to take certain actions to make sure that changes takes place. Don’t forget to visualize effectively, try to use all 5 senses as much as possible, and feel the feelings of joy or love. As your subconscious uses emotions, this will help re-programme it more effectively. Give it a go and find out. You’ll be pleasantly surprised;-)

 

Your 7 Main Chakras Explained, And Why They Are Important To Your Health!

When it comes to stress and anxiety relief, there is a topic that few people want to get involved in. And the reason only a few people want to get involved in it is because it may challenge their very own core beliefs about the nature of divinity. By default, when anyone mentions or insinuates about the non-physical, people are either thinking you are talking about science, or even worse, death.

Yet, the very nature of who we are can help us in understanding out lives, our particular lifestyles and ultimately (sticking to the topic of stress relief) how to use it to feel more better, more energized and more healthier (and in some cases, more mentally sharp). The non-physical is nothing to be ashamed of, but rather embraced. And this shift in mentality can help us not only reduce stress and anxiety in our everyday lives, but also has a knock-on effect on other things as well (including using your very own body, arguably, as a manifestation tool…but that is for another day).

You see, at the risk of proselytizing, we are all spiritual beings (of some degree) in a physical body. And believe it or not, your whole body doesn’t just encompass the physical you (i.e. skin, organs etc…) but also the non-physical you. People who have had out-of-body experiences, or near death experiences will testify to this. This non-physical vehicle (if you will) help them, ‘float’ around and do all sorts of stuff. But you don’t have to be a mental or spiritual guy to feel your non-physical body. You can do it using various techniques.

Your physical body has points which allows Qi or life energy, to flow in to, ‘feed’ your organs, and these non-physical contact points between your physical body and your non-physical body, are known as,  ‘The Chakras’.

Now, some of you will already have been put of this article by this point. Unfortunately, some people are so strict with their beliefs (rightly or wrongly) that any mention of the non-physical is automatically associated with the almighty upstairs (or your own particular version). Now, I don’t want to offend anyone, but if you are not open-minded enough to consider the following article, I’m afraid this article may not be for you. But if you can suspend your beliefs for just a few minutes, you’ll find information that can help you reduce stress in numerous ways.

Having said that for some of you, what I’m going to say here will probably not be the first time you’ve heard this. For some people, they will already know what the Chakras are, and are probably even using other techniques (as well as the ones in this article) to help balance them out (more on that later). If that is the case, please see this as a gentle reminder, and nothing more;-)

If you do, on the other hand, want to know more about your Chakras, than keep reading. Hopefully you’ll take away a lot than you think, and although the exercises may seam downright insultingly obvious, it’s amazing to think how many people don’t know or even do this. Of course, as always, don’t be fooled by the simplicity. Your Chakras are powerful, and have more of an influence than you give them credit for. While I’m doing more research on the correlation between the Chakras and the subconscious (even I have questions about this subject that need answering, as the subconscious also has a big control over your body and your conscious thoughts and actions) needless to say that taking your Chakras into consideration when it comes to any form of negative relief (stress, anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts) will greatly help in recovery and an automatic improvement in ones lifestyle. Try it and find out for yourself!

This is quite a long article (over 3300 words) and does talk primarily about your 7 main Chakras, what they do, and how you can balance them. If you do find that there are more tips you can add to this list, please feel free to let me know (I’m all for finding out more:-).

Now to begin with, you have over a 100 Chakras from places like your toes and your hands to above your head, but there are 7 main ones. Each one serves a big role in the development of your consciousness, as well as helping your emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual and physical needs. So your Chakras have a huge influence to you and your emotional well-being, stress levels, and your manifesting skills (if you are into anything like the law of attraction, but that is for another day;-).

Your Chakras are therefore responsible for your emotional well-being, as well as your general mood, how well you place yourself in society and how well you communicate to your loved ones and the public in general. Your Chakras are the, ‘jack of all trades’ so to speak. And don’t forget, your Chakras are the connection between your soul and your physical body.

There are so many great videos online on helping you open your Chakras, and whether you can tell if it is open or closed, but before I carry on, some quick terminology. When we say open or close down your Chakra, what we mean is opening or closing your vortex. Your Chakras are vortices swirling around like a funnel, and you can close one, open one up, and make one spin quicker or slower to stop any unbalances and therefore balance the Chakra which gives you the correct proportion of pure Qi energy flowing into your etheric body and therefore influencing your physical body. By contrast an unbalanced Chakra will give you too much or too little energy, which will negatively physically and emotionally influence you. And this will be reflected by the way, in your behavior.

Now your first Chakra is your Root Chakra, and is located at the bottom of your spine and is also the most physical one, and is the one which has the lowest vibration of energy and as a result the lowest wavelength. And that is because it is closer to the physical. Your root Chakra is really your connection to the physical world. Physicality is energy at it’s most slowest vibration.

Now if you were an energy healer, you would be able to see the colour red, as this Chakra emits a reddish hue. Now it does govern our physical energies, it governs our survival, securities, passions, our money, our job, really our vigour in life. When it is balanced, you do feel very secure, very stable, very grounded, you do tend to use very good common sense. When it is blocked, you are blocking the flow of life energy, you may ask very deep questions, for e.g., ‘Why am I here?’, you may feel disconnected towards life. And of course, your ability to manifest will be stuttered.

If it is over-active, it is the opposite. You will be very greedy, you’ll demand everything, you’re highly strung, almost aggressive, can be reckless and impulsive, even sexually manipulative. When it is under-active, you can be very tired, very lethargic, very weak, afraid of change, you lack confidence, fear of abandonment, all of these are psychological issues, and this is the thing about the Chakras, they will govern your psychology.

But you can open the Root Chakra, by visualizing a red flower opening and spinning, by dancing, you can stamp your feet for short periods of time, and you do feel more better as a result. You tend to feel more alive. Interestingly, when I did some research behind this, I discovered that the sense of smell is associated with the Root Chakra, so if you can smell very easily your Root Chakra may be very well balanced. Now how does it feel? Well your Root Chakra feels like a low hum down your spine, a bit tingly at times. You have to be really careful as this should be a good tingling sensation. If it is a bad tingling sensation, you could have a very serious medical condition. So with practice you should be able to differentiate between a good tingling sensation, and a bad tingling sensation. I’ve noticed that mine tingles in a nice way, certainly hearing some bass and listening to some types of music, as music often stimulated the Chakras.

The the next main Chakra above is near your sexual organs and is called the Sacral Chakra, and this is located near the sacrum and testes/ovaries that produce the various sexual hormones. Again, if you are an energy healer, or can see non-physical energy, the Sacral Chakra emits an orange colour.

This Chakra is involved in relationships, violence, addictions, basic emotional needs and pleasure. It does mentally govern creativity, governs joy and governs enthusiasm, so again, psychological influences there.

You know when it is out of balance or blocked, when you are no longer enjoying life, you are very angry or frustrated, your suppressing your emotions, and in some cases no sexual desire, your lacking creativity, have feelings of guilt or jealously. If you do tend to be unemotional, or very stiff, (and we have all met people who are unemotional and are very stiff, they have like a poker facer!) that is also another symptom that this Chakra could be under-active.

If it is over-active on the other hand, you can be very emotional most of the time, you can be emotionally attached to other people and can be very sexual as a result.

There are many ways to open and balance this Chakra. You can take walks by an ocean or a lake, you can go swimming, you can have relaxing, aromatic baths, you can of course, visualize the colour orange, or an orange flower opening and spinning. And it goes without saying (at the risk of sounding unprofessional or intimate) you can even make love to yourself, or your partner to balance this Chakra.

How does it feel? You know when you feel sexual energy in your body. It’s similar to lust, you can feel it around your body, but most notably around your sexual organs.

The next Chakra is your Solar Plexus Chakra, (or sometimes called your Naval Chakra, as it is located above your navel, or belly button). The colour this Chakra emits is yellow. You would need to work on this if you lack self esteem, if you lack will power (if you give up easily), if you experience aggression, anger, if you have difficulty expressing your feelings, if you have trouble getting things done, stuff that comes to productivity and completion of projects.

Feeling tired can be an indication of an underused, or blocked Solar Plexus Chakra. If you have too many negative thoughts, suffer from anxiety, that could also be a symptom of a blocked, out of balance Chakra. It’s all about asserting yourself in a group, and if your Chakra is under-active, you do tend to be indecisive, sometimes passive.

Of course, if it is over-active, the complete opposite will occur, and you will be domineering at times, sometimes aggressive (and we have all met people who seem to dominate the group).

To open and balance this Chakra, you can take a walk in the sun, take regular walks, wear yellow clothes, do things that spark your interests and passions, and another great way is being in the, ‘Now’. When you are in the, ‘Now’, you feel that rush of Qi energy rushing into your body via your Solar Plexus Chakra.

Now the Chakra above, is your Heart Chakra and is located outside of your Heart. This emits a greenish hue and is also deemed the, ‘gateway to the spiritual world’ hence why if you come from love, (a little tip, if you can feel unconditional love for around a few minutes, not only will it help you to reduce your stress, but you can also reduce any future fear-based scenario. Out-of-body explorers already understand this) you are really using the spiritual world, which of course creates the physical world. We are in a spiritual multi-verse.

When it is opened, you feel love, kindness, compassion, you are affectionate, you’re very friendly, you work in harmony, and you work at creating harmonious relationships.

If it is closed, or out of balance, you can be very distant and cold (something I was guilty off in years gone by). You do need to work on it of course, if you have problems with relationships, if you have problems keeping friends, if you feel lonely all the time, if you feel unloved, if you are unable to love yourself and others and you have difficulty letting people into your life. You can also catch a cold quite easily because your Heart Chakra does tend to work in close relationship with your immune and nervous system, hence the psychological and health influences.

You can open or balance it in several ways. You can let go of negative people, not always easy of course…so you can do the next best thing, and forgive them (which helps you to love unconditionally) and letting go of anger from unwanted past experiences (forgiveness should help you with that as well). Wearing green clothing can sometimes open and balance your Heart Chakra as well as surrounding yourself with things you enjoy as well as imagining hugging someone you love and admire, and feeling that love spread across your body.

When you have opened the Heart Chakra or balanced it, you feel the feeling of love emanate from the vortex, and it will soon spread across your body. Feelings of fear soon dissipates, as fear cannot exist when you feel, ‘unconditional love’.

The next Chakra is the Throat Chakra, and is all about self-expression, and emits the colour light blue. It is located at the throat.

You know when you need to work on it, when you find it hard to express your self freely and find it hard to communicate, you can sometimes find yourself telling white lies most of the time; you find it difficult to listen to other people, your lacking in self esteem and have speech problems. You know when it is under-active when you don’t speak much, you are very introverted, perhaps shy, even not speaking your personal truth.

Opening or balancing your Throat Chakra can be achieved by singing out load very loudly, by speaking louder than usual, and by saying something as simple as, ‘Hi’. Not many people realize this… just saying, ‘Hi’ to people on the street is a great way of doing this. Reading poetry out loud is another great way of doing it, as well as standing firm in your opinions, in a non-argumentative way. If the opinion is going to create an argument, the best thing to do is to stop the opinion.

When it is open, you don’t have any problems in communicating, and may consider yourself to be a bit of an artist.

The next one is one that most people are curious with. It is often talked about, and one that has the most attention, and that is your 3rd Eye Chakra, located between your eyebrows, but slightly above.

It is all about insight and visualizing. When it is opened, you have very good intuition, but you may also tend to fantasize a lot.

You need to work on it if you are not very good at thinking for yourself, if you find yourself relying on other people, like your parents, and your friends; you may be rigid in your thinking and rely on your beliefs too much, which may lead to confusion. If you suffer from panic and anxiety attacks and you cannot think clearly or if you have trouble concentrating, and are having problems finding a purpose in life, this could also be an indication. Another indication is that you lack goals for example, if you lack faith or you cannot find your own inner voice.

One thing I read, is that it could be blocked or very imbalanced if you have learning disabilities or if you have hearing problems, so that’s worth bearing in mind (no pun intended;-).

If it is over-active, you tend to live in fantasy land too much, and in some cases may even hallucinate. If you are not careful, you do tend to lose focus very easily. The 3rd Eye Chakra is the gateway to intuition and higher perception and people who have a strong vibration with this Chakra are people we would call psychics. We are all psychics, and we all have that ability, but most of us have to work on it as you would do like a muscle.

It can be opened/ balanced by being in the, ‘Now’, which helps reduce mental chatter, or meditating with Yoga. Theta and Delta, brainwave states between 0.5hz to 7 Hz (the measurement of the electrical activity of your brain, commonly before you go to sleep and when you wake up) are also a good way of opening up this Chakra. Now unless you are a trained meditation expert, you would need CD’s to help you achieve Theta or Delta. A package I personally recommend is the ARVARI course, which not only helps you get to Delta (which lowers your mental noise), but also helps you reduce your stress and allows you to manifest a lot easily, as you are very close to your soul.

The feeling of an active 3rd Eye Chakra is the equivalent of someone gently tapping your forehead. It is like a tiny, throbbing sensation, and in some peoples cases, can cause small headaches if it is being opened, or balanced for the first time.

The final Chakra is one that is above your head, and is called your Crown Chakra, which emits a whitish hue and is your connection to source, higher consciousness, or essentially your soul.

Remember what I said about the root one being the lowest vibration? Well your Crown Chakra is your highest vibration because it is the vibration closest to your soul/higher self.

When it is blocked, unbalanced, you are not aware of your spirituality, you have very rigid thinking, you may even suffer from depression or a mental disorder, and you may have a weak immune system or you suffer from chronic fatigue.

On the other side, if you intellectualize a lot, obsessed with spirituality, or neglect your basic bodily needs, it may be over active and you may need to work on it.

When it is balanced, you do connect to your inner being, and you feel a oneness with divine source; you feel a sense of bliss, with an understanding of your life’s purpose. You become more aware of the beauty around you, with nature, and you feel its natural energy. You are happier because you are connected to the, ‘all that is’, and as a result, you don’t feel lonely. This means you are unprejudiced, and are aware of yourself and this world. You become very non-judgmental, and exhibit unconditional love.

To open this Chakra or balance it, you do need to meditate daily, it’s as simple as that! Take time to be still, being in the, ‘moment of now’ really helps. Try and be thankful and grateful for everything you are and have. By being thankful, you uplift your soul. This connects you more to the spiritual aspect of yourself very quickly. Again, being in Delta also helps in this case.

So, this is just a quick run-down of the Chakras, as they are pretty essential, not just to manifesting your reality, but also to your emotional, psychological and physical well-being. You can also help balance your Chakras when you have an out-of-body experience, by using the healing power of love to flow though your consciousness and direct it to one of your Chakras, and as a result, begin to self-heal in that way.

Combining your Chakras with other mental and emotional tools (like EFT, please see my article about it) will help you reduce your stress or depression, give your life purpose back to you, and allows you to not only recover from your illness, but lead a more healthier and happier lifestyle. Try it for 30 days and see what happens. You should be pleasantly surprised;-)

 

The Top 4 Ways to Reduce Anxiety Shaking Fast!

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Many of the 40 million anxiety sufferers today suffer from a wide range of symptoms including nausea and seating, but one symptom that is also becoming common is shaking and trembling.

stress21But why do we shake and tremble when we are anxious?

Put simply, it is the bodies response to the excess amount of adrenaline that is pushed through the body during the common, flight-or-fight response. The problem lies in the fact that the original cause of the anxiety (the first event that took place in your life which spawned the now constant anxiety) caused us to freeze in response to the scary (fight or flight) event.

When the danger has passed, the cells that have had this fight-or-flight energy has to release it, and does so in the form of shaking or trembling.

And it’s all down to the over-stimulation of the sympathetic nervous system causing the huge amount of adrenaline to flood into your body!

This adrenaline can of course have a debilitating effect on the individual concerned, for they now have to take shaking into consideration. And the shaking can take place anyway where there is a trigger to anxiety.

But if you do suffer from anxiety shaking, what exactly can be done to stop it?

Well, in truth, there is no one single solution to this problem. Some people use medication, and suffer some of the side effects, while some people literally wait it out…that is, once the shaking starts to happen they wait for the shaking to stop.

But there are techniques that can have a higher risk of reducing the shaking.

One of the promising ones is EFT.

EFT is all about the body’s meridian system, and how the non-physical energy is transported and nurtured to the vital organs. But this energy system can have this balance disrupted dramatically when a traumatic event takes place.

So the trick here, is to simply try to locate the original memory that caused the dramatic event to take place, and simply re-balance the meridian system to, ‘flush’ the nervous energy away. This can be done by tapping where you can tap on your meridian points, located on various parts of the head and chest.

I know it sounds weird, but just the act of tapping, and re-citing an affirmation is more than enough to help release the energy, and re-balance your meridian system, so the flow of non-physical energy is flowing smoothly again (the meridians, incidentally, take the, ‘Qi’ energy’ from the Chakras, which are the main non-physical voices accompanying the body. You have 7 main Chakra points in your body). It’s when this energy is blocked that physical and psychological problems takes place.

EFT is a great free tool in helping you unblock and re-stabilize the Chakra points, and there are people who have used EFT to help themselves stop their shakes caused by anxiety. Just simply go online and search on videos that show you are to do EFT, and you’ll be amazed at the results it will bring.

But if EFT sounds to far fetched and, ‘new-agey’ or you would rather prefer something else, there are also other techniques that can help you reduce that adrenaline in your body.

If you can, you can try jogging or walking, as this will help calm you down and wear the adrenaline off. Jogging is exercise and is a great stress-reliever, and this will help insure the reduction of the adrenaline in your blood.

But if you are in a place where jogging is simply not allowed, or impractical (for example, in a car) you can try deep breathing. Although this doesn’t necessarily get rid of the adrenaline straight away, deep breathing has a soothing effect, and will help you to reduce the anxiety that is causing you to have the fight-or-flight response to begin with.

This is especially useful in you are in the middle to doing a particular task in the work place, and you have to find a way of carrying on.

Deep breathing has a meditative quality towards it, and has been shown to help individuals sooth their mind and as a result, calm down.

But ultimately, the best help you will get will be to take the time and go through events that naturally make you anxious or stress, and find ways to reduce the anxiety in those events, as this will reduce the risk of the adrenaline being flooded into your body.

Visualization and hypnosis my help in this case, as this will help your sub-conscious react slightly differently to the next scenario that could trigger the fight-or-flight response. Give it a go, you may be pleasantly surprised by the results.

 

This Uncanny Technique Will Reduce Stress Within 5 Minutes!

What if there was a tool that could eliminate practically many of the physical ailments that we suffer from?

What if there was a tool that could help erase phobias in minutes, help people stop their suffering, and help them get back to good health?

What if there was a simple exercise that one could do that could help eliminate most of the problems in as little as 5 minutes?

Would you want to hear about it?

 

I bet you would!

 

The thing is, Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT for short has been around since the early 1990’s and was developed by Gary Craig.

And EFT is fastly becoming one of the safest and quickest forms of self-healing, due to the interlink between the mind and body. Simply put, if the mind is in poor shape, so will the body, and vice versa.

So what has this got to do with EFT, and ultimately, reducing stress and anxiety?

 

Well, if we can help the bodies electrical system, we can in turn, help our mind.

 

You see, EFT is actually a version of acupuncture, which comes from Chinese medicine between 2000-4000 years ago. The Chinese believed that the body had meridian points, a system within the body that distributes the life energy, or Qi.

Now, in a previous article about sleep and stress relief, I mentioned that the body has a non-physical counterpart as well, and this non-physical counterpart would contain around 7 main Vortices or Chakras.

Well, consider the meridians as the system that transports the life energy given by the Chakra to around other areas of the body. (Simply put, the chakras are the main contact points for the Qi to trickle in when we are sleeping, nourishing the main organs, where as the meridians are a network that allow the Qi to other areas of the body and other organs).

 

The two, in fact, work with each other.

 

So to get back on track, the Chinese believed that the body had meridian points, and by sending shocks to these points (originally, needles) you would be able to nurture and re-balance these energy imbalances However, acupuncture was used to help physical problems, not emotional ones.

Fast forward to 1962, and Dr G Goodhead had read a book on acupuncture by the President of the Acupuncture Society in the UK. He got excited about the possibilities about the potential, and having studied acupuncture he developed Applied Kinesiology (which uses testing of muscles to establish the appropriate cure or treatment).

Instead of using needles, he discovered that he could add manual pressure on the acupuncture points, or, ‘tapping’ them.

This work was developed further around the 1970’s by an Australian Psychiatrist called J. Diamond M.D. when he created a variation of it called, ‘Behavioral Kinesiology’, but including affirmations, or ‘statements’ when the acupuncture points were contacted and was used to treat emotional problems.

But this was only to turn into EFT when a further step was required. It required a structure in order for this treatment to help psychological problems, and Dr R Callahan, who specialized in anxiety disorders, created this structure.

In the 1980’s, he learned about Applied Kinesiology and learned about the bodies meridian system. He used the combination of tapping, while focusing on the psychological issues at hand. But after an event involving one of his patients called, ‘Mary’ (who had a phobia of water) he made a surprising discovery.

Gary Craig heard about this discovery and developed this tapping method even further, to distinguish it from the methods used by Dr Callahan. He has been teaching his methods since the early 1990’s and called it EFT.

 

Fast forward a few decades, and EFT is now being used by many health practitioners across the world to help people with physical and emotional issues.

 

Yet, despite the obvious fact that EFT works, and is helping people everyday to help physical ailments as well as psychological ones, why don’t we all use it?

 

  • One of the biggest reasons is that we simply don’t know where to start! None of us have perfect lives, and as a result, we have not just one issue, but several. So naturally, the question seems to be, ‘Where do I begin?’

 

The easiest way to answer this is to honestly ask yourself what the biggest stressful thing that is currently facing you right now, and start from there. Think of a thing that you know is going to send your stress levels souring, such as attending a job interview, or going on a date. Anything that you know is going to cause that heartbeat of yours to go higher than usual.

 

  • Another problem to EFT is that while we know what we don’t want, sometimes (not everytime) we don’t always know what we want. So we do the negative affirmations (which will be explained later) but sometimes forget their positive counterparts.

 

This creates the tendency to think of all the negative situations in your life, without using EFT in an exciting way in creating a better life for yourself, including ways to developing your psychology to allow you to strive towards your goals and dreams. Put simply, we do the bad stuff first, to create a form of self-healing, but forget that the same tool could help us realize our full potential!

 

  • Another problem is that some critics say that EFT could be new-age rubbish, saying that it is nothing more than a psychological placebo effect! (although this would surely indicate that age old law of mind over matter, for if you think you can become well, and you did become well, if it isn’t the acupressure that was directly responsible, your mind is!).

 

Some critics say that EFT, due to not enough scientific evidence, is nothing more than a patients belief system kicking into gear (although this wouldn’t quite fully explain why some physical ailments would be healed) and as a result, has no premise in the main medical establishment or industry, and is nothing more than just an extra cog in the new-age industry.

Personally, I’ve tried EFT for several years (although admittedly on and off, for various personal reasons) and I can testament to the effectiveness of this, ‘tool’.

For starters, I used it to help rid my nerves of an impending job interview, as well as using it (very recently) to reduce my OCD by up to 60% (which I know doesn’t sound much, but that’s most of my bad feelings gone, and my OCD ritual time reduced, allowing me to have more time to go to bed and meditate and image stream;-)

Is this really just mind over matter, once again confirming my belief (and some experience) that your mind does indeed create your reality (forming the basis of the law of attraction, a subject for another article) or is there really a meridian system that allows the distribution of Qi from the Chakras to help nourish the organs and the body including the psychological aspects of your being, to be essentially, ‘reset’ when you do nothing more than just, ‘tap it’ thereby inducing a mini, ‘shock’ allowing you to reset the energy disturbance, the very protocol which EFT is based on?

But then this would ponder another question: Is our feelings, emotions and thoughts nothing more than electrical activity taking place in our body, and as such, we can harness this electrical energy for positive effect, thereby allowing us to some degree, to manipulate our own body, manipulate our own thoughts and as a result (surely) manipulate our reality?

I must confess, even though I’v done as much research as possible in writing this article, I don’t have the answers (I wish at times I did!). However, I do know a few things:

Clearly, we have some form of running electrical activity in our body. This is measured by an EEG, (Electroencephalogram) which shows the electrical activity of the brain, and we know that during meditation, this electrical activity substantially varies, between Beta, Alpha and Theta (or, if you are really good at it, Gamma, and Delta) .

 

This alone can help increase the flood of Qi into your chakras, allowing you to feel refreshed.

 

But what if it is true that by tapping into this running electrical activity, we can indeed help the healing of some physical and psychological ailments, just be doing a simple exercise like tapping on some parts of your face and your chest, while saying out loud some simple statements?

Using a scan procedure called, Functional MRI (fMRI), which measures signal changes in the brain due to changing of the neural activity, scientists can demonstrate that stimulating points on the skin not only can change brain neural activity, but also can de-activate parts of the brain that is activated when we experience fear and pain.

 

Research has also shown that EFT can reduce Cortisol, the stress hormone, by as much as 24%, and can reduce stress by as much as 90% in more general cases.

 

EFT has been know to help help reduce (and in some cases, eliminate) the following ailments:

 

  • Performance Anxiety

 

  • Self Esteem Issues

 

  • Relationship problems

 

  • Trauma/PTSD

 

  • Addictions

 

  • Childrens Issues

 

  • Pain Management

 

  • Depression

 

  • Rage/Anger

 

  • Learning and Study Issues

 

  • Sleep/Insomnia issues

 

  • Allergies

 

  • Animal Issues

 

  • Weight loss or eating disorders

 

  • Fears and phobias

 

  • Anxiety/Stress

 

So what exactly do you do?

 

First things first, we need to know the most pressing psychological issue in your life, and work from there!

 

We need to know the thing that stresses you out, or at the very least, makes you feel very uncomfortable just thinking about it.

Once you have the emotional memory (or your perceived threat, i.e. something you are scared of that could happen in the future) ask yourself: How intense is it, on a scale of 1 to 10. This gives you a nice reference point which you can come back later, to see if you have made any progress.

Also ask yourself if it is a dumb or sharp feeling, as well as where the feeling is located (i.e. around the throat, or stomach area, or perhaps your heart feels clamped.).

Doing this protocol, we get to analyze more effectively the type of feeling we are trying to dislodge (and hopefully eliminate). We need to have some form of measurement guide, so we can effectively see how well (or not so well in some cases ) we are doing.

 

If done correctly, in most instances, the feeling should begin to reduce, as one tries EFT and practices more and more.

 

Note of warning. Although EFT has been deemed a fast way of self-healing, the people who have the greatest successes are the ones who do it more than once (or more than 5 minutes). It is said that doing EFT is like peeling the layers of an onion. You peel of one layer, only to discover that a deeper memory is there, so we need to tap that away, only to discover that another subconscious memory is lurking behind that, and so on. People who tap for a good hour are more likely to have more success that the people who tap for just a few minutes. But, of course, each to their own.

Once we have established and analyzed the feeling (to the best of our ability) we need to create a setup point.

stress7To do this, we simply tap our right hand (for the right handers out there) at the karate chop point, and say out loud the issue, ending in, ‘I deeply and completely, love and accept myself’

For example:

‘Even though I am stressed out about this job interview, I deeply and completely love and accept myself’

This is an affirmation, and affirmations are used in EFT to help with the re-framing process in the subconscious. Affirmations need to be said out loud while tapping the parts of your body (and ideally with desire) to help with your subconscious reconditioning.

 

Do this 3 times

 

This is called the setup, and is used to prevent Psychological Reversal, which can happen when a part of ourselves wants to change, but another part, either energetic or subconscious, doesn’t want to have that change.

After you’ve done this, we then start tapping the area above the bridge of the nose at the side of the eyebrow, called the Bladder Meridian.

You can either tap with one hand, or you can use both hands. You are essentially tapping the area where your eyebrows meet. This is a meridian end point, and by tapping, you are sending mini shock-waves to try to balance any energy imbalances in your body, that was caused when you thought of an unpleasant emotion or feeling.

 

Tap this around 7 times, saying out loud, ‘This feeling’

 

The next meridian end point is to the side of the eyes, and corresponds to the Gall Bladder meridian.

 

Tap this about 7 times, saying out loud, ‘This feeling’

 

The next end point is under the eye called the Stomach Meridian (where bags under your eyes are formed, if that helps). Tap that around 7 times, saying out loud, ‘This feeling’

The next end point is the spot just below your nose and above your mouth, the place where your mouth tends to curve downwards slightly, and is called the Governing Vessel. Tap that about 7 times, saying out loud, ‘This feeling’

The next meridian end point is the place below your mouth and above your chin. The spot where your skin goes inwards and is called the Central Vessel. Tap this about 7 times, saying out loud, ‘this feeling’

The next point is the patch or area just under your collar bone. This is called the Sore spot, and is the Neurolymphatic point. Tap that using one or both hands, saying out loud, ‘This feeling’

The following point is the place just about 4 inches under your armpit, and is called the Spleen Meridian. Tap this about 7 times, again saying out loud, ‘This feeling’

Then go to the top of your head, also called the Governing Vessel, and tap that about 7 times, saying, ‘This feeling’

Then we repeat this process, but with the fingers, as they also include meridian points. The first one is the thumb, called the Lung Meridian. Tap just right next to the nail, about 7 times, and say out loud, ‘This feeling’

The index finger is called the Large Intestine Meridian. Again, tap about 7 times right next to the nail, saying out loud, ‘This feeling’.

The middle finger, or Heart Protector is next, and you need to tap next to the nail again, about 7 times, saying, ‘This feeling’.

You miss the next finger, and go straight to the Little finger, called the Heart Meridian. Tap this around 7 times, again near the nail, saying out loud, ‘This feeling’.

Take a deep breath, try to get the feeling back, and see how it feels by now. Sometimes it’s still there, sometimes it’s been reduced. In some cases, it may even have gone (although that’s rare on the first occasion).

Try to bring the image in your mind back, or the feeling, and again feel how intense it is. Going by the initial protocol, which should be able to establish whether the feeling is still profound, if it has shifted position (i.e. gone somewhere else in the body) and (more importantly) whether there has been any positive effect caused by the tapping.

In most cases, the feeling/emotion will still be there, so what you do is to tap in the area between the little finger and the ring finger behind the knuckles (that triangular part between the bones, roughly 15 mm behind the knuckles).

It’s called the Gamut point, and will replace the karate chop point for the setup. Like before, say your problem out loud, but include the ending statement, ‘I love and accept myself).

Repeat as before, starting with the main part of the body, and finishing with your fingers.

Some techniques say that you can change the wording of your statements to fit your particular problem, so instead of saying, ‘this feeling’ you could say alter your statements to address the issues directly, and ask for help instead (e.g. while tapping your chin, you could say, ‘Being in a bar is no longer socially stressful’ and then tap on the part below your collar bone saying, ‘I love being around people’).

Change the wording where needed, and experiment. It’s perfectly safe.

If you say something out loud, and the feeling intensifies, it could mean that you’re saying it inaccurately, so test, experiment, and change where appropriate. Difficult it may be for some people, but try to have fun with this.

Although some people believe EFT is nothing more than a clever NLP trick to reduce (or collapse) a mental anchor that is created when a negative event takes place (i.e that is stimulas = response), it is generally regarded as a great, free tool to help not only overcome stressful and anxiety ridden circumstances, but also many other psychological and some physical ailments.

I personally have used EFT to help reduce my OCD, ‘routine’. I was able to reduce it and go to bed earlier (although admittedly, it took me several attempts. But then , I’ve had this OCD for many, many years).

This is still an incredibly fast form of self-healing, and many more people are using it to richly empower their lives and break through many barriers.

Although there is still some scientific research needed to see it it can, indeed’ heal other physical ailments (only some ailments can be reduced with EFT, although the symptoms of autism, interestingly, has been reported as being reduced in encouraging degrees using EFT on a child. You can read about it here).

EFT is fast becoming more and more popular as a treatment to help nearly all psychological symptoms, including anxiety and depression.

Of course, it doesn’t work for everyone, and in future articles, I will talk about other therapies, such as IST and PSTEC…so stay tuned.

But what do you think of EFT? Has it worked for you? Please let me know below, I would love to hear of your experiences.