Forgiveness and My 4-Step Process

Do you want to learn how to forgive? Are you stung by past hurt, or maybe you are stung due to your own actions (or lack there off)?

Forgiveness is a powerful tool and has many implications, but for some it remains that elusive concept that they could desperately get their hands on.

Why is that?

I strongly believe that forgiveness is not only a very personal thing (obviously) but is also unique to each and every individual. Or to put it another way, a method to forgive may work for me, but may not work for you.

I’ve been wanting to write an article on self-forgiveness for some time, yet lacked the tools or the mentality to do so.

The reason being was that I was slightly addicted to the dopamine levels that holding a grudge can release, and also for me to forgive, I would have to…you know…move on with my life. This my EGO couldn’t do very easily.

And yet, this was extremely stupid of me, because I was releasing bad chemicals into my body when I had moments of anger and rage. And they say that 4 minutes of rage can actually lower your immunity for around 5 hours.

So it begs the question, why would you want to become ill for?

With that in mind, I’m taking the plunge and writing my version on how to forgive yourself. Of course, this article mainly deals with self-forgiveness. I haven’t tried it on forgiving other people. I’m sure it would work just as ok, I’ve just yet (at this early stage in discovering this) used it to great length on other people, just on myself.

Of course, like any technique, it may work for you or it may not. What works for me, may not work for you. I’m not trying to slide in a crass disclaimer here, just simply stating that forgiveness is such a personal, unique issue, that no one technique is going to be perfect.

Having said that, I’ll give it may best shot here for you;-)

Of course, you could argue that you don’t need to forgive, that you are not ready to forgive.

If that is your case, good luck to you, because by holding onto your anger, you are releasing chemicals into your body which (by default) will dis-empower you (Click here for a video which demonstrates how emotions has an effect on your body). The trick, if you can, is to somehow let go.

And that is what ultimately forgiveness is; it’s the ability to let go. And letting go is vital for longevity and for a healthier body and mind.

But like I said, this method may not do anything, or may work wanders.

It’s as simple as that.

And I have to say this, but it does incorporate your soul as well, although by now I would like to think that if you are a regular reader to my blog, you should by now know that you do have a soul, and it is this soul that survives after what you call, ‘death’.

I hope you don’t make the amateur mistake in thinking that you are just body and EGO and that’s your lot. (if you want to, you can search online for either, ‘Remote Viewing’ or ‘Out-of body experiences’, then come back here to carry on reading this article;-)

I’ve got a pretty good idea that this will work for you, especially if there is some self-forgiveness that you need to do (I believe it should also work for forgiving somebody else as well, although I’ve only mainly used this technique for self-forgiveness, so you will need to try it against someone and let me know how it goes on).

But ultimately, self-forgiveness is a unique thing, and I’m under no illusion that the following technique might not be suited for everyone.

Still, give it a go and let me know how it goes on. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, a quick online search will highlight many other techniques online.

Try a technique and see if it works for you. Hopefully you’ll find one soon enough, and finally (with time) reduce and eliminate that anger that has been holding onto you.

1 – Learn from the mistake

To begin with, (especially for self-forgiveness) you need to learn from your mistake. No point in trying to forgive yourself if you are going to make the same mistake over and over again.

Ask yourself, ‘What has this mistake taught me?’. What variable needs to change, in order to grow from it. And if you genuinely cannot find a way to grow from it, you may need to experience it again and again until you do grow from it.

This is where a bigger perspective comes in, that you may need to take a really objective view on what’s happened (I say objective very loosely, as we are in a subjective multiverse, but that’s for another day). Try to get a grasp of the bigger picture, and this will make learning from your mistake a lot easier to grasp.

2 – Let go

Easier said than done right (don’t I know that one all too well!). Letting go doesn’t mean justifying what has happened, or agreeing with it from an EGO sense of self, but rather accepting what has happened.

Don’t forget, what you resist will ultimately keep persisting! Much rather let it go, and as a result, change the rule of your reality bubble.

Also, letting go has the added benefit in allowing you to move on and in some cases, even get an intuitive incline that what happened had to happen (i.e. it could be no other way). It does take a slight bit of psychic ability/ spiritualism to get to this mark, but with practice it’s very doable.

Of course, to really fully let go, you can go onto…

3 – See the spiritual perfection in the design

Tough one to grasp, especially when you deal with the crime biggies out there (but that’s for another day) but if you can somehow take a step back (be mindful if you have to) and look at the bigger picture, usually you’ll see that something good always comes out of it.

I know that when I have gone through some real shitty times, I look back and am glad it happened no other way. Mind you, this has not been easy, and even today I still feel a slight tinge of anger, still bubbling up. Of course, for you to make seeing the spiritual perfection easier to do, you require the forth and final piece of the steps…

4 – Find a thing in the experience to be genuinely grateful for

This calls for you to actually having to put the effort to go beyond EGO to reach this state of clarity.

For some of you, this will not be easy, and going beyond EGO may take a lifetime of work (I’ve heard of cases where people refuse to forgive what has happened, when they are quite old…talk about holding onto anger for decades after an event). The thing is, some people get a kick out of holding onto anger, due to the release of dopamine.

Sounds silly, but think of this. I had a belief about being loveless (I’ve since done some inner work to change this belief) and while going to bed I wouldn’t have an issue with love, but first thing in the morning I would fantasize about being old and being on my own.

One morning I decided to really analyze what was going on, why I felt compelled to have this fantasy. Lo and behold, I was addicted to it, because despite feeling crap, I actually felt sort of good and even righteous.

This righteousness kicks many people in the teeth, and nothing breaks down relationship and looses trust faster than being righteous (of course, if you have way too many close friends on your hands…;-)

I suspect that a few people who hold onto a grudge do so because they are addicted to that sensation.

While I can appreciate the argument behind this, you are poisoning your body due to the chemicals that are being released. Much better to be honest with yourself and start the healing process and move on with your life, than hold onto a grudge because at some deep level, it feels good.

Like I said in my opening remarks, forgiveness is a powerful tool to have, and while there is no one-size-fits-all approach to forgiving yourself (or somebody else), it has a great way of providing peace of mind and allows a new state of love to enter you about that situation.

This allows new chemicals to flood your body, and allows you to be in a more empowered sate of mind, so that achieving your dreams or goals becomes that little bit more easier.


Top 5 DVD’s That Should Change Your Life!

DVD’s are a great way of delivering information and wisdom to the TV screen. It’s a great alternative to use if you find reading boring or don’t like listening and prefer wanting something to see instead. And as the self-improvement niche seems to be ever expanding, watching a DVD of your favorite speaker can be a great way to relax with your friends during the weekend, or watch for your own self-educating reasons in the comfort of your own bedroom on a laptop.

I must confess, I’ve brought my fair share of How-To DVD’s over the years, from making money online, to the mechanics of the cosmology of the universe, to even exercise DVD’s. The main attraction for me is that I like to watch what is going on, and sometimes that is better than listening in the car. Sometimes, while listening is good, one has to concentrate on the road or tidying the house (or another household chore) so focusing on the material isn’t always easy. Having said that, fitness fans could point out that a simple MP3 player and good headphones is all that is required to enjoy listening to your favorite teacher, while you do one of your bodies little chores: going for a run;-)

Still, some of us prefer watching over listening, and that’s fine. Sometimes when you watch a person on stage, you get to see the audiences reaction and you can tell which truths the audience are accepting, and which truths are not. Not only that, but you can also tell a lot by the body language itself. That is something you cannot do while listening to a CD/MP3.

So, watching your favorite speaker on the stage is still a great way to deliver wisdom to the individual. Here, I reveal the top 5 DVD’s which I believe should change your life! As always with these list type blog posts, this is very subjective. After all, what inspires me you may find weird, and vice versa. Ultimately, it seems that wisdom can come in all shapes and sizes, but you will only accept it when you’re ready.

So, without further ado, I present the DVD’s which (I believe) will change the way you think and act in the world but only if you take the inspired action required to put them into use. See what you think;-)

1. Physiology of Excellence -Dr. Harlan Kilstein

I thought I start with one which involves a bit of NLP and physiology, and one that helped me last year when I was in work. Essentially, it’s a case study of Dr Kilstein with one of his students. It’s not a long DVD (around 45 minutes) and is set in (what looks like) a library. Dr Kilstein is with one of his students and during the 45 minutes, helps the student change their physiology which in turn helps their way of thinking, using a few NLP techniques.

Now, for those that don’t know, NLP is a language which essentially communicates with the subconscious and the conscious (at times almost simultaneously). It’s been around for decades, and has helped thousands of people with their lives. NLP can be as simple as saying a statement to yourself, in a certain tone, which then (almost automatically) changes your posture so you are more confident and more focused (and I should know as this has happened to me on numerous occasions). That is the power of NLP, and can be used in nearly every situation.

And to be fair, Dr Kilstein does a good job of walking his student through an exercise that reduces (and eliminates) a certain problem she has. It’s fascinating to watch how your posture really can influence your way of thinking and even your mood. It’s certainly a DVD that surprised me, and I believe will greatly benefit you

2. God Says Yes – Neale Donald Walsch

This seminar was taking in Scotland a few years ago, and expands on the, ‘Conversations with God’ material. Neale Donald Walsch talks about humanities issues when it comes to creation and living a good lifestyle. It’s a clever DVD as he is in an intimate surrounding with only about 100 people, who do ask him quite tough questions about the nature of divinity (one person actually challenges him quite well, and he has to go, ‘within’ to retrieve the answer. It’s a good clip).

He talks about questions that many people don’t ask, and explains why we may not be living a reality that we want to be living. It’s a good DVD as it provides insight into the way society is sometimes the way it is. If you are a fan of his, like his books, like him, or just want to have a clever and humorous approach towards how life works, this DVD will be for you!

3. The Voice – Intention Media (Various)

Probably one of the few DVD’s which got me taking spirituality more seriously. Up until I watched this DVD, I flirted with the ideas presented in books and online materials. This DVD pretty much woke me up to the fact that we do have a higher consciousness (if you want to replace, ‘consciousness’ with the word, ‘soul’ or ‘god’, that’s up to you.). It asks the most pressing questions about humanity, involving attaining world peace, to whether the mind can influence matter, plus more. It also provides case studies of people who have had metaphysical experiences, and interviews spiritual and holistic practitioners alike.

Not to say that science is ignored, because this DVD is one of those that adds a good healthy dose of science as well. Scientist are also interviewed when it comes to spiritual matters and the big bang, as well as discussing vibrational frequencies (most of which we can’t see) plus much more. If you are a skeptic wanting to believe, but feel that the science isn’t sufficient enough, this DVD should change your mind;-)

4. Install And Transcend The Secret– Dr. Joe Vitale with Mark J. Ryan

For all of you law of attraction followers, or people who want to take the mind over matter concept and apply it to everyday life, this DVD will help you with that. It features Dr. Joe Vitale, who is a law of attraction expert, who guides you to how to practice the law of attraction, giving real life case studies of the law of attraction in action. Now for some of you, this will be old material, and for some a new age fantasy. However, it is worth pointing out that your feelings do affect (to some degree) electromagnetic fields, which covers every physical object. So from that point of view, it’s not really hard to imagine that by thinking of your desires with loving feelings in your mind, that will increase the likelihood of manifestation.

On top of that, it has one of the best Q&A bonus sections out there, where Dr. Joe Vitale answers some of the most common law of attraction questions, such as how to deal with initial resistance, as well as the power of gratitude. He also talks about the Ho‘oponopono method, which was invented by a guy who helped the mentally insane criminals of an Hawaiian prison, by repeating a sort of mantra in his mind (sounds far-fetched, but completely true). Once you watch this DVD, you will start focusing on what you do want, and will start freeing your own mind from limiting beliefs.

5. Beyond the Physical– Path 11 Productions LLC (various)

This DVD is one of a few of it’s kind to hit the mainstream, dealing specifically with the non-physical. It covers the law of attraction, the knack of making a good intention, and out-of-body experiences. It features several speakers and authors in their field, from the owners of the Monroe Institute to William Buhlman (amongst others), and even attempts to explain why a thing called, ‘Hell’ may exist.

It’s a thought provoking DVD, which again challenges what we think we know about the non-physical dimensions using case studies and peoples testimonies. It’s a DVD which not only helps reduce your fear of death, but also helps you examine your thoughts more carefully, so you can choose the rights ones (and as a result, start affecting your initial non-physical reality). For any out-of-body explorers, or law of attraction followers, this DVD will help you understand, in more spiritual terms, how it all works.


Top 6 Reasons Being Spiritual Rocks!


Do you believe in spirituality, or an existence of a soul? Do you believe that we all have a bigger purpose than what is consciously seen here? Or do you simply believe that we are on this planet to work to pay our taxes, get a family, get old, and just die?

Maybe you don’t believe in a different way of seeing things, and that would be fine. Being spiritual is a game changer, because essentially you are now changing the rules. And believe it or not, most people are simply not comfortable with that idea (otherwise, the world would’ve changed a long time ago!). Some people even go so far as to believe that we have to suffer on this planet to achieve paradise in a perceived heaven. That’s fair enough, I respect that. I don’t agree with this, because this asks way to many questions than are answered. And quite frankly, some (if not most) of these people would be arrogant. Quite a harsh thing you would say, but consider this. Suffering is not a normal state of being. The body (and mind) was meant to thrive (hard to believe sometimes, I know). The example of this is in the body (in most cases) to self-heal, while the mind can self-heal using various spiritual techniques (one will be discussed shortly).

So it’s quite obvious that you were not meant to suffer on this planet. Yes, in some circumstances, suffering is needed to stop an action, for example using courage (whether you are a battle worn soldier, or suffering from OCD/paranoia). In this case, in order to overcome a mental obstacle, you need to suffer (slightly) and use courage to, ‘beat’ the subconscious. That is called expanding your comfort zone, and is a must when it comes to self-improvement. But notice how I said to suffer slightly. It’s not normal to endure any intense emotional or psychological suffering. But courage has it’s own rewards, and at the risk of sounding inhumane, it all starts with suffering (the trick, obviously, is to keep the suffering to a low;-).

So it’s very clear that we are not meant to suffer on this planet (apart from the time you need to expand your comfort zone, but that’s it). While I appreciate that there are medical cases where suffering is due to intense injuries, for the most part, the body and mind doesn’t like it. And that’s not surprising.

But at the risk of digressing, being spiritual is a game changer, because it does help reduce suffering. And in this modern day and age, where psychological suffering seems to be at an all time high, being spiritual is turning into an absolute must. But why be spiritual? Below, I list the Top 6 ways why being spiritual rocks. Hopefully you’ll be inspired.

1. Feeling peace on demand

Being spiritual is a great easy (and free) way to feeling peace on demand (or if you wish to be slightly religious here, Goodness On Demand, ‘G.O.D’;-). As hinted earlier, the mind has the ability to self heal in a number of ways. One is through being in the, ‘now’ or commonly known as mindfulness meditation.

You don’t have to sit down, and try to think of nothing for this to work, you can be mindful in doing everyday chores and activities. The trick is to keep your attention to strictly your body or the outside noise (or even your peripheral vision). All three are excellent ways of being consciously present in the here and now.

When you do this, your sacral chakra will spin more, allowing a rush of energy to pour into your non-physical body (click here for a guide on the chakras). This energy increases your personal power, and is one of the energies responsible for the law of attraction working quickly for you (more on that later). Quite simply, if you feel depressed, or feel like you are the victim of negative circumstances, one of the best ways of reducing and (sometimes) eliminating it is to be in the here and now. But being in the here and now helps you in other ways as well, which leads me nicely to my next point…

2. Less easily manipulatable

Being spiritual means that you can observe yourself more easily, as you are less from EGO and more from a higher state of consciousness. This also means that you get to see other peoples power games as well. While not always nice to observe, your empathy and compassion does increase, as you get to see how other people conduct their affairs rightly or wrongly, so you can learn from them.

This also means that you can observe yourself more easily, and thereby improve how you conduct your own state of affairs, watch your own emotions, and generally find ways to stand your ground when the going gets tough. This is invaluable, as it helps you keep your inner peace when other people are going through their own melodramas. This also means that you are not easily swayed by other peoples opinions, which allows you to do and experience things that you wouldn’t normally do, which leads me to my next point…

3. Feel more natural and less ashamed.

This is a big one as I believe that a lot of people feel shame/guilt and fear. Essentially, being spiritual means that you are going against the very grain of society, due to the fact that most people are normal and not natural. By being spiritual, you are becoming more emotionally healthy, and therefore reduce your past and emotional burdens, which can sometimes (subconsciously) be passed onto other people.

Regrettably, some people feel ashamed for feeling ecstasy or any form of goodness that they experience (harping back to my earlier point that some people think that we need to suffer). Being in the here and now is one great way of feeling more emotionally healthier, but there are other techniques. Being emotionally intelligent is a great way of finding out how aware you are with your emotions, so you can be more focused and improve aspects of your life.

4. Have out-of-body experiences.

This is another big one, yet it sometimes surprises me how many people are spiritual, yet haven’t had an out-of-body experience. This is a shame, as the two really should go hand-in-hand. You can be the most cold-hearted cynic all you want, but the second you have an out-of-body experience (or a few of them at the very least) most of your cynical beliefs goes out the window! Why? Because you finally get how life works. Essentially, by being more spiritual you reduce the electrical activity in your brain, which allows you to (sometimes) separate yourself from your body when you are in bed.

But why have an obe to begin with? Put simply, have an obe substantially allows you to experience your higher-self, or divinity first hand. No other experience beats it. You essentially see, ‘behind the veil’, so to speak, and you finally get what most religions and spiritual textbooks talk about. The benefits of out-of-body explorations are numerous, but one of the main ones is to greatly reduce the fear of death (which is oh so crucial for your EGO), substantially increase your love and respect for life, and helps you see first hand the law of attraction due to the fact that you are within time/space so there is no time delay between thought and event. This leads me towards my next point…

5. Experience the law of attraction firsthand.

Being spiritual is a great way to experience the law of attraction, as you are more conscious of the desire turning into an event. You get to count how long it takes from a desire to manifest into an event for you to enjoy experientially, which as a result, stops you from being the victim of your circumstances and instead be the powerful co-creator you always were (and incidentally, you are co-creating with your soul). You know how well you are doing when it comes from manifesting your desires, by seeing how long in space/time it takes from a desire to turn into your reality, and then trying to improve upon it (see it like your own personal competition;-)

Being spiritual allows you to reduce your personal anger, past/historical issues, and allows you to be more in the here and now, which helps the manifestation process. This all guides you towards being 100% responsible for your creations (although for some part, it will be subconscious and you won’t be aware of it). This of course eliminates your cynicism and reduces your negativity, which not only helps your body but also makes you more of a healthier and happier person. Food for thought;-)

6. Feeling unconditional love

I put this one last, as this is the key ingredient and also the key experience behind being spiritual. Essentially, you get to feel more love for yourself and your neighboring souls. This is done by seeing the unity of everything, or if it’s easier, seeing places and people as extensions of yourself. By doing this, you feel more love pour into your non-physical body, via your Heart Chakra and you become more peaceful and happier in the process.

As unconditional love is the language of the multi-verse, you also use it to manifest your desires more easily, due to it’s strong connection to the spiritual world (they do say that your Heart is the gateway). Unconditional love is vastly under-rated, and has been known to not only heal supposedly incurable diseases, but also helps you become more charismatic, and allows you to manifest your desires when used with being mindful. Feeling and experiencing unconditional love is key in helping evolve this planet. But if you don’t want to hear me proselytize, that’s fine. Just take it from me that you will feel more natural, more healthier and more stronger when you get into the practice of feeling love wherever you go.


Top 8 Most Influential, Self-improvement Experts


I was reading a few articles, when I realized that in all of my years of self-improvement and spiritual learning, I haven’t had a top 8 list. I’ve read so many books, and listened to so much stuff that it has been mind boggling. So it got me thinking of the best self-improvement experts out there, for the newbie who was starting to slowly get into this.

Now, before I carry on, just a few things. Firstly, I don’t really believe in the word, ‘guru’. I think it conjures up to many negative connotations. The following list are people who have inspired me, but just because they have inspired me, doesn’t mean they are going to inspire you. Inspiration is subjective. Secondly, being brought up in a cynical family, it takes a heck of a lot to change my core beliefs. Not because I don’t want to, but because it takes a lot of effort. The following people are people I believe who are so good, even a cold-hearted cynic would find it difficult to disprove them. Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure they could quite easily, for their own beliefs will understandably reflect in their reality, thereby confirming that their beliefs are correct. I’m just saying that it takes a lot to convert a cynic into somebody who likes anything self-improvement related, and the following people certainly get my tick.

And finally, the following people are not new at all, they have been around for some time (some since the nineties). They’re good, and draw in huge crowds, so their influence are huge. This means that they can create change quicker than most people.

So, in no particular order, I present the top 8 most influential ,self-improvement experts online.

Read and enjoy;-)

1. www.freenlphomestudy.comMichael Stevenson

I came across this almost by accident, and to be honest with you, I’m glad I discovered it. Probably one of the very few times an email address gives so much information, as when you subscribe you get around 10 hours of video footage of the founder, Michael Stevenson in action. It’s a very good intro into NLP, which if you don’t know, stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. It may sound technical, but it’s all about how the mind operates, consciously as well as subconsciously.

Watching the videos (and I haven’t even finished them all yet;-) was a real eye opener for me. There are some great case studies involved, as you get to understand the inner workings of how your mind works. Be warned though, this isn’t for the faint hearted;-) You’ll find out how easily it is to create good rapport to help influence someone (or even a group) and you’ll also get introduced to conversational hypnosis. All in all, it’s a great introduction into a subject which I believe everyone should be aware of.

2. www.deepakchopra.comDeepak Chopra

I’m currently listening to one of his audiobooks called Synchro Destiny, and it is a real eyeopener to me. But on top of that, Deepak Chopra has authored many books, narrated many audiobooks and seems to get the nature of the cosmology of the universe all too well. And to top it off, he understands how to get the best out of your life using simple tweaks to your lifestyle. Having listened to some of his stuff, I can quite easily testify that this guy knows what he is doing. He has a great soul, and a lovely voice which soothes yours when you listen to him, so his truths are easily accepted.

His website contains many articles ranging from Health issues to Conscious itself, and they are very insightful, as well as a huge video library and book collection.

3. www.nealedonaldwalsch.comNeale Donald Walsch

I came across (and even met) Mr Walsch many years back, and have brought some of his books and audiobooks. Quite simply, this guy is the real deal. He has a fantastic sense of humor, and delivers his truths with such clarity, it’s hard to ignore. While he may be most popular with the, ‘Conversations With God’ Trilogy, the first book I read from him was, ‘Tomorrows God’, and found myself agreeing with almost everything he was saying.

It takes a lost of guts and courage to openly and honestly talk about religious matters in the modern day and age, and yet Mr Walsch makes it looks so easy, it’s hard not to fall in love with him. Anybody who has a slight to moderate religious background should read (or listen) to his stuff, as it makes for compelling reading. As it stands, ‘Conversations with God’ is one of those books that you pick up to read just 10 mins of it, only to discover that you end up loosing about half an hour instead. That is how addictive it can be;-)

4. www.eckharttolle.comEckhart Tolle

I still rank the audiobook of, ‘The Power Of Now’ as one of the best audiobooks I’ve listened to. The reason? I just keep coming back to it again and again. Being present has never been so popular in the modern day and age (which I suppose says a lot about modern society, doesn’t it;-). And yet, trying to distract the attention away from the EGO is something that is very seldom talked about in most peoples lives, and I’m not quite sure why.

Sure, mindfulness meditation (another form of being present) might be just another great way to meditate, but the health benefits from being present are too big to ignore. Apart from keeping your youth on your side (yes, there are articles I’ve read that say it reduces aging) there are also numerous cognitive and anxiety related benefits as well. In this society which seems to promote fast talkers and quick thinkers, it’s refreshing to know that there are several mechanisms that can turn it off (or in most peoples cases, reduce it).

5. www.psychicbutsane.comAnna Sayce

So far I’ve done mostly guys from all areas of the self-improvement niche, but I thought, (in the balance of equality;-) that I’ll include a lady which I believe is super inspirational. And that’s Annas site, It’s great for a number of reasons. Like me, she’s read some of the authors in this list (so I automatically like her for that;-) secondly, she also knows about spirituality all too well (she is a psychic, what do you expect…) and thirdly, her website has probably one of the most coolest sounding names out there!

I once spent a couple of hours reading her articles, they were that articulate and good! And the good news is that they are not running out. Her website is full of great, intuitive self, ideal if you want to develop your psychic ability (because as we all know, we all have that 6th sense) and great about ways of discovering your soul and life purpose. Highly recommended if you have 2 hours to burn 😉

6. www.probablefuture.comGerald O’Donnell

I came across this website almost by accident, and yet to this very day, I’m still learning new things about the nature of reality. Quite simply, the most straightforward, transparent viewpoint on life and the cosmology of the universe out there, but it gets better. It lets you experience it as well, giving you a direct experience on the powers of creation. As they sometimes say, it’s all very well knowing the theory, but it is real life tests that give you the experience, and the 2 courses do just that.

Now, I’m not going to make out I’m an expert at creating from thought alone (I’m still re-listening to some Remote Viewing CD’s that I brought a while back), but even I’ve managed to Remote View a few places thanks to the course. Now, before I carry on, let me explain some terminology. The website is offering 2 courses (as well as interviews and articles for you to listen and read) and the 2 course are about Remote Viewing and Remote Influencing. Sounds a bit technical, I know, but essentially Remote Viewing is the ability to meditate very deeply so you can see distant places, people and events, without never having to be there. Remote Influencing takes this even further by allowing you to meditate even deeper than before so you can actually manipulate events in your favor (and hence allow your desires to come true).

Now, this may seem a bit too much for some people, but anybody who has brought the course will testify, it is money well spent. The website offers a forum, where people who brought the course meet up and give a helping hand to get the maximum out of the materials. If you are into the Law of attraction, the website and the information on there is a must.

7. www.stevepavlina.comSteve Pavlina

Unless you have been in a coma for a long time, you must have surely heard of Steve Pavlinas website, or read one of his articles. Quite simply, this guy knows his stuff, and isn’t afraid to challenge core assumptions (I’m still loving the article he wrote on the nature of subjective reality, but I’ll leave that for you to discover;-). Very spiritually articulate, and also anything self-improvement related (just in case you have something against being spiritual). His articles are the longest I’ve ever read, some well over 5000 words. But it is certainly worthy of an hour of your time spent on his website, because his knowledge is just that good.

Steve Pavlinas website is one of those places where you read one article, hoping to read it is just 5 minutes, and out of nowhere end up using a couple of hours of your time! It’s that good. But don’t just take my word for it, go there and check for yourself. The articles are on all sorts of things self-improvement related, from finance to the law of attraction (obviously) and some more. Be careful though, once you read his stuff, your life might not be the same again☺

8. www.repeatlessness.comDr. Joe Marshalla

Ok, so you’ve meditated a few times over the years, and you understand about goal setting. You may even have heard a bit of the science behind how all this works. What you need right now, is somebody to come around and round this information up for you, in one neat tidy package. That guy is Dr. Joe Marshalla, and between his videos and his book, you are pretty much set for life.

Again, very spiritually articulate, but has the added bonus of balancing EGO/mind nature with the nature of the soul. His videos are not short (and that’s a good thing) and yet, just like some of the above authors, you’ll end up re-listening to his stuff time and time again. He shows you how to completely change your life in the most easiest way possible, from goal setting to a great neat way of being in the, ‘now’ (and this technique was new to me). Highly recommended for anyone who wants to make quick and profound changes in their life.

So there you have it, authors who have had a big impact in my personal and spiritual growth, and who I believe are the biggest influences in the self-improvement niche. Each one has there own spin on the nature of reality and how to achieve your dreams. Be careful though, once you read their stuff, you may not want to go back to your old way of life again;-)


What If Life Was One Big Metaphor? 4 Examples That Could Blow You Away!

What if life was one big metaphor? How would you know? Would you have a hard time believing that? But if your subconscious understood symbolism and metaphors more easier than your conscious, wouldn’t your life make more sense? Maybe you don’t believe in metaphors, or maybe you do believe them, but in small doses.

I must confess when I heard that life was a metaphor, I was just as skeptical as you are. Of course, we can only rely on our eyes. Our eyes are rather simple tools. They are a basic converter, and that’s it. They convert light photons into a nerve impulse that our brain translates into an image. And guess what part of our conscious helps that? That’s right, our subconscious.

Of course, if you solely believed what your eyes are saying to you, you could miss some of natures tricks of the trade. For example, you can’t see in a dream, yet some people claim to have divine insight or premonitions. You can’t see your intuition, yet how many of you haven’t had Déjà vu, or some other psychic experience. And talking of psychics, what if there was a way to develop your own psychic ability, and as a result peer into the future moment of now. Some people actually do this, and are called Remote Viewers (Psychics and Remote Viewers are essentially the same thing, people who can get an image or an impression of a distant time event, or a distant person, or both. For more information, click here).

Also, it is scientifically proven that our eyes only see a tiny minute fraction of the total light spectrum. It has been compared to seeing just a grain of sand, whereas the total light spectrum is a tall skyscraper.

So, as you can see (or not;-) your eyes don’t give you a full view of the world in front of you. They can’t. They are just basic converters, and that’s it. Sure, we need them, but we also need our 6th sense, our intuitive-self just as well as our emotions as other tools to direct and experience our life.

And we also know that our subconscious understands symbols more better than our conscious does. Don’t believe me, think about dream interpretations There is a whole niche on interpreting what dream means, and this can often help someone explain their life and highlight areas for improvement. Dreams are most commonly understood to be nothing more than the subconscious filling away memories and experiences of the day, like a filing cabinet. And while some of this is true, there are ways you can understand your life more by merely writing down what happens in your dreams.

Keeping a dream journal is a great way to know yourself more intimately. How often have you had a striking dream, tried to trivialize it saying it was just a dream, only to look at a dream dictionary and realize it may contain a truth. Some dreams have even been responsible for people to make discoveries and help the evolution of humanity.

I used to have a frequent dream where I would be chased by people in authority figures. It would start of ok, but then I would sense a threat, and would need to run quick. And of course, I would be tired (like in waking life) so I would mentally have to struggle running up hills in going though corridors in buildings. It was so mentally exhausting.

In my waking life, I wouldn’t confront people with an emotional issue (still have a hard time doing it to this day). Instead, I would choose the passive, ‘let it go over my head’ approach, and all because I didn’t like verbal fighting. The only problem about not speaking your truth, is that you ultimately repress those feelings which can turn into rage (I went though a period where I would be angry for a melodrama created in my mind, which never took place. The punch bag would come in handy then). Thankfully, I didn’t live with anybody, and kept it all bottled inside, while trying to smile and act of sweet and light on the outside…not a great combination!

So dreams are a surefire metaphorical way to understand problems and solutions in your waking life. But your subconscious works during the daytime as well as the nighttime, so wouldn’t it make sense that everything around you is also a metaphor of some description?

Lets take the only conscious way of discovering your subconscious in real time, and that’s the out-of-body experience (I’m not including lucid dreaming, due to the fact that it involves a partial awareness, and we’re talking about about full conscious awareness…but lucid dreaming is a great way to helping you discover more about your subconscious, and making changes to your life).

Now anybody who has had an out-of-body experience will be the first to tell you several things: Firstly, the objects, people, and situations are an aspect of mind. That is to say, all subconsciously generated. Secondly, you are in the inner dimension of the multi-verse and therefore not in the space-time continuum. As a result, your thoughts manifest almost instantly. This means you have to be really controlled in what you think, say and do (not a big issue for people who practice mindfulness meditation, they can simply be in the, ‘now’ which helps mental control).

So, you are floating around being directed by your soul, and bumping into places and people and events, which are nothing more than just figments of your subconscious imagination. Oh, the non-physical people are real, don’t you worry, but they are still aspects of your subconscious. This though begs the question, ‘If the only difference is time, wouldn’t the same be true in your normal waking life as well?’

This is where we come full circle and back to the age old question, of whether life is one big metaphor. Of course, if you believe in the illusion of separatism, dreams probably would hold little significance for you and as a result, you probably wouldn’t care about the wonders of life.

If on the other hand, you are on the spiritual path and believe that we are all one, that we are one consciousness, and that what you see in one person is what you ultimately recognize in yourself, your dreams and your life would make perfect sense.

I was pondering this very question while re-listening to Conversations with God Book 2 (By Neale Donald Walsch). They were talking about how time wasn’t really linear, but more like a spindle. It began to get me thinking on how we really should be viewing life and came to a few metaphors.

Metaphor 1- Trees are like time.

They are everywhere, aren’t they (unless you live in a desert!). Yet metaphorically, trees could be likened to time…or lack there of. There is no such thing as time. The hands on your clock is nothing but that, a hand, measuring a perceived field. All there is are, ‘now moments’. Even most scientists say that what we have is a space-time continuum.

So when you look at a tree, you could say that it is a reminder that time is more like a spindle, allowing you to make your next choice into a reality (a reminder, if you will, of choosing your thoughts and the images in your imagination more carefully). If you see a tree as a spindle of a, ‘now’ moment, and all of the leaves/branches as possible, ‘choices’ in this, ‘now’ moment, you could arguably say that a tree is a great metaphor on the moment of now, and the quantum field of infinite possibilities. Arguably…

Metaphor 2 – Clouds are like your thoughts.

The next metaphor I got was when I read Ken Elliott’s, ‘Manifesting 123’. In the book, the author describes how he is told that your thoughts begin to form as bits of smoke, before added concentration allows that smoke to form into a reality.

I thought that the sky beautifully demonstrates this. How does a cloud form, through water vapor. What happens when there is a lot of vapor, it gets heavier, condenses and physical droplets begins to develop. Then what…it rains! Just like what happens when you think about thoughts. They start of as bits of smoke, while added focus and thought increases the smoke in the non-physical subconscious, before finally forming into a 3D hologram, forming into physical reality.

Having had both lucid dreams and out-of-body experiences, I can personally testify that your thoughts do form on the other side really quickly. I once had an obe when I was slightly above my body. I then tried to command the power of the multi-verse to enable me to try to self heal. I saw a wisp of whitish color start forming into a small dot, quite white in the center, above my body. But due probably to the excitement of having an obe, I quickly stopped this, and went on to have other adventures.

Needless to say, when I look into the sky, I am often reminded on how thoughts form, and how they manifest into physicality. Food for thought (no pun intended…well I tiny bit maybe;-)

Metaphor 3 – The sun is like your soul…non-judgmental and powerful.

I’ve had this metaphor in my mind for some time. Essentially, you could argue that the sun is like your soul…always shining in its unconditional love and infinite power and creativity. The clouds that cover it, arguably could be seen as your negative thoughts that stop the light from shining (or even a better one, thoughts itself, stopping you be in the, ‘now’. Two metaphors for the price of one). While it may somehow contradict the above metaphor on thoughts, it’s still a great reminder that when you look near the sun (obviously don’t look into it due to health and safety!) you are reminded to be unconditional, forgiving,nimaginative and creative.

When you think about it, the sun gives power to everything on the planet. It is always shining, come rain or wind, and it is extremely warm. Could you not think of a great way to think about your soul?

Metaphor 4- People are your inner personalities.

This is one that I’m still sketchy about, yet it does (to some degree) make perfect sense. Ok, coming from the point of view that we are all one, and if you’ve read that by seeing people as extensions of yourself, you can open up your heart chakra and raise your inner consciousness; see people as parts of your own inner personality shouldn’t be too far a stretch.

They do say, that what you see in somebody, you have in yourself. Let me explain…next time you see yourself being angry at somebody else, due to a perceived character flaw, ask yourself the ultimate question: Am I reacting because I see this in myself? This of course takes into account that you are honest, and that you can go deeply within…traits that not everybody can do. If you learn to practice this exercise, you’ll discover (to your amazement) that you can discover more about yourself by how you criticize others.

When I’ve noticed this, I’ve realized that I can be quite the narcissist, and also arrogant. Of course over time, I’ve tried to heal those aspects of myself, and allowed myself to try to accept other peoples opinions and points of view. This hasn’t been easy, especially due to the face that I had a speech disorder in my early days, so had to do an abnormal amount of listening rather than speaking. As I grew up in a cynical atmosphere, it began to dawn on me that nobody was going to listen, so I would just shut up, listen, and do as I was told. These days, I only try and speak when I am spoken to. I try not to force my opinions down other peoples throats (I let other people do that;-). Only when somebody actually speaks to me directly do I then speak. I’m not perfect at this, but I’m getting slowly better.

Believe it or not, from what I’ve observed, everybody has a million and one things to say. So it’s a great exercise also on how to listen correctly and how to be compassionate, especially when people go through tough times.

If you find yourself nodding or agreeing to any or all of the above points, it may be an indicator that you are slowly waking up. Consciousness it seems, has be conscious of itself. That is part of the deal of this lifetime: to be aware and to be aware that you are aware. This allows you to manipulate life and your reality more effectively, heal many hurts and keep your inner peace (which is highly recommended for people suffering from stress/anxiety and many psychological problems).

Of course, you could look at this list and say that I have it all wrong. And you would be absolutely correct in that reaction. Why? Because whatever happens, you will always be led to your truth, and as a result this article has done it’s job; you’ve been led back to your own truth. And that is the key, to finding out your own inner personal truth, and then trying to live it.

Because at the end of the day, what is the point in life otherwise?


How To Rid Yourself Of Unwanted And Disturbing Thoughts In 5 Simple Ways!

How do you stop obsessive or compulsive thoughts? How do you stop a certain negative thought pattern? Do you even believe it is possible? Maybe you haven’t heard of the, ‘White Bear Syndrome’, or don’t believe it is possible for you to control your thoughts. Some people don’t. There are some people who have such a rich imagination, yet they seem unable to use it as a constructive, harmonious tool. They instead let it run riot, causing themselves and their families heartache. Maybe you are one of these people. If you are, you have my sympathies. I’m not trying to be polite, not trying to humor you, but you do genuinely have my condolences, because believe it or not you are not your mind.

I’m being serious, and anybody who practices mindfulness mediation, or even had out-of-body experiences will testify to this. You are not your mind, nor your body, but a spiritual being, inhabiting a 3D holographic (of sorts) physical body. You thoughts are who you think you are…or to put it in the words of a famous master, Eckhart Tolle, your EGO is your identification with thought.

Did you read that correctly, your identification. Not you, but what you are identify with! And this is a huge concept to get. You in the purest form, are soul (or higher consciousness if you don’t believe in souls). And that is awareness itself. That’s right…pure awareness. And what you give awareness (or attention) to, is ultimately what you give energy to.

So, at the risk of breaking your bubble, but you are not EGO. Sure, you may use the EGO to create, and that’s fine. That is what it is there for. A very useful tool to be able to create multiple things, think multiple things, calculate multiple things (or at least consciously, a few things), and much, much more. And that’s great, because you are a creative being, made in the image and likeness of source (what I call source, and I use that term to make this article more socially acceptable;-).

That is why it has been written, that most masters are mindless. That doesn’t mean to say that they are brain-dead (far from it). But they simply choose to give thought it’s correct priority, and as a result, live lives in peace and create almost effortlessly. Of course, as a master, you probably wouldn’t be thinking about creating lots and lots of materialistic wealth. Masters generally have the frameset of STO (Service-To-Others) whereas most people (don’t mean to generalize here, forgive me) have a mindset of STS (Service-To-Self). The reason for this being that masters see the oneness of everything, and understand consciously (as well as super-consciously) that what they give to the multi-verse, they get back 10 fold, because they and everything else is ONE (i.e. one with everything). They see people as merely extensions to themselves, rather than being separate. This helps promote unconditional love, as it opens up their Heart Chakra (don’t believe me, try it…I know this works, because I have tried this myself).

Of course, most people don’t understand this. They see the illusion of separatism, and as a result, don’t see oneness with everything (well, perhaps a few may in meditational exercises, but that’s it). As a result, most people have a STS mentality. And this of course is understandable. When you rely solely on your eyes, and you haven’t had much spiritual education, you expect nothing less.

So this is why, to get back on topic, most masters are mindless. They understand that they are not thought, but pure spiritual awareness. Or to put it another way, consciousness is being aware of itself!

It took a long time for me to get this. I myself understood spirituality, at least intellectually, I just couldn’t get it experientially. Having had OCD, and negative, paranoia inducing thought patterns for most of my adult life, I genuinely at times, didn’t believe that I could tame this monster in my mind. I would go to work, and my subconscious would run riot. I would have little control. It wasn’t until a few obe’s and reading, ‘The Power Of Now’ did I get that be being in the present moment, does one help reduce the mental noise. And not only that, but you can tame your imagination so it works for you rather than against you (which is what it is supposed to do).

But lets say that you are not spiritual, you have no interest in being, ‘present’ (which, incidentally, helps you get into the Theta brainwave state, where new beliefs and as a result, new experiences can form and take place). That’s fine, there are other, psychological techniques you can do to help get rid of, or at the very least significantly reduce your OCD/obsessive thoughts/ negative thought patterns.

Now, I will warn you, what you are about to read, you may already know! I’m under no illusion that you already know this, so see this as a reminder. They seem deceivingly simple, but don’t let that fool you…they do work! Again, I should know, because I try these out every day. If you give the following techniques a go, at least for 30 days, you will see a huge improvement in your psychological and as a result, your emotional state.


Acting Healed

It sounds mad, I know, but just the simple intention of acting like you are healed actually goes a long way to help recovering and ridding yourself of unwanted thoughts and OCD. By acting like you are healed, you are re-programming your subconscious to behave in a certain, different way. And that’s a good thing, because it is your subconscious that is causing all the problems. It’s not your subconscious fault…it’s been trained to do it by yourself (not trying to be mean here, just saying the facts). By at least pretending you are healed, you’ll find yourself acting more and more confident and finding yourself least anxious (which is causing the problems to begin with). Charles Lindens, ‘The Linden Method’ goes into more detail as to why your anxiety is causing you to have OCD and panic attacks.

When I tried to act like I was already healed, I began to observe that not only was I more confident in myself, but that my anxiety and worries were nothing more than just past fears trying to exert control over me. By acting super confident (or at least trying to), I found that I didn’t have the anxiety to begin with (or it was substantially reduced). This resulted in my OCD automatically being reduced, and more control over my thoughts.


Embracing/Hugging It

This is a tip I got from ‘Release The White Bear’. By embracing your unwanted thoughts mentally, you actually release the energy that is keeping it there. I normally have the image of the unwanted thought in my mind, and then try to hug it. I let the anxiety/negativity slightly consume me, but I quickly realize that my mind soon lets go after about a minute (usually less). Why is this? In the words of famous spiritual teacher Neale Donald Walsh, ‘What you resist, persists’ (If truer words were ever spoken). Essentially, by resisting a thought (or reality, for all of you law of attraction practitioners out there…), you keep it firmly in place. By embracing it, sending it love, etc…your mind lets it go. Try it and see for yourself (I did this in work once, and within a few short weeks, found myself in a new department).



Being grateful, by default, automatically raises your inner vibrations so you’ll find that your unwanted thoughts will be at a minimum. Of course, it’s very hard to be grateful, when you fear the worse, but it is good practice to try to have a grateful mindset when the going gets tough. The trick, always, is to remember. Gratitude invokes the same principle as in my last point; that is to say, you are sending the thought love (although in this case, it’s more indirect than direct). Next time you have unwanted or depressing thoughts, don’t be too harsh on yourself, and just try to find a way to be grateful. You should find that this will reduce it, as you are switching your attention away from the negative thought, and to positive imagery instead.


Getting Your Sleep

This is one which I famously sometimes struggle with, but by going to bed on time helps with your OCD. Why? If you are tired and fatigued, you automatically are ratty and sometimes in a bad mood. Your unwanted thoughts/ OCD will be at an all time high (unless you find a way to chill out or relax…yes it is possible). By getting your required dosage of sleep, you’ll automatically increase your inner vibrations, and your attention span will be sharper. You’ll also find that your critical conscious, Beta brainwave self will be more alert, which means that you’ll reduce your obsessive habits or ignore the unwanted thoughts in you mind more quickly, or won’t pay that much attention to them due to an increase in mental energy.


Being In The, ‘Now’

I have already touched on this before, but wanted to give it a better hurrah by making it the last tip of this article. Put simply, living in the present moment is vastly underrated and underutilized. Mindfulness meditation is the most common form of practicing it, but there are other ways. Being in the, ‘Now’ helps reduce your brainwave state to Theta, which is where re-programming of the subconscious takes place (and in spiritual terms, where you meet your soul/higher self, so from a law of attraction point of view, you create more easily).

Being in the present moment reduce general mental noise to an all time minimum anyway, so that will naturally include OCD and disturbing/unwanted thoughts. In fact, when you observe your mind from one state to the other, it’s actually fascinating to watching how your thoughts seem to, ‘melt away’ or dissolve altogether. The thing though, with OCD, is to keep being in the mindful state after you’ve done your chore (otherwise you’ll find yourself going back to do it again and again.). Don’t make the mistake I’ve made a few times, by getting into the, ‘Now’, do the chore, congratulate myself (by thinking again), only to be a bit anxious and go back! Trust me, this doesn’t work, and if you are not careful, you’re going to believe that this doesn’t work.

What you’ll find is that by being in the, ‘Now’ for a few minutes (in psychological clock time) you’ll do your chore, and do something else, but this time it will still be in your immediate memory. This means that if the worry does pop-up in your mind, your subconscious will automatically give you the image that the chore has been done (of course, for the severe sufferers out there, you do also have to believe the image or you’ll simply repeat the chore again). Therefore it’s best to be mindful for a good few minutes after you’ve done the chore, to keep the negative imagery to a low.

What you’ll find from practicing the above skills is that you’ll be combining one or more to get the best results. And don’t delude yourself into thinking that your OCD will go in the next 5 mins. It will still take a tiny bit of time for it to fully flush away. Even if you use EFT, your anxiety might not completely go (don’t get me wrong, EFT is still a great tool. Click here for the article on it). But by at first recognizing you have a problem (which is a crucial step in and of itself), and then taking some active steps to actually try and resolve the problem using the above techniques, you’ll find that in a few days your OCD and unwanted/disturbing thoughts will be at a minimum.

I must confess, despite still going to bed sometimes late (bad habit, I know;-) when I have tried the above exercises, not only has my general mood lifted, but I also feel strangely powerful as well. It’s as if I’m re-taking control back from my mind, and use it as a great tool it was always meant to be. Your thoughts and imagination are great tools, but they do need to be disciplined and trained, and that sometimes does take time. So don’t be too hard on yourself if you find that after a few days, your OCD is still there, or you keep having really strange/ unwanted thoughts that really don’t want to go away. As a famous spiritual teacher once said, don’t take your thoughts too seriously! You are not them.

And that’s a good thing;-)


Your 7 Main Chakras Explained, And Why They Are Important To Your Health!

When it comes to stress and anxiety relief, there is a topic that few people want to get involved in. And the reason only a few people want to get involved in it is because it may challenge their very own core beliefs about the nature of divinity. By default, when anyone mentions or insinuates about the non-physical, people are either thinking you are talking about science, or even worse, death.

Yet, the very nature of who we are can help us in understanding out lives, our particular lifestyles and ultimately (sticking to the topic of stress relief) how to use it to feel more better, more energized and more healthier (and in some cases, more mentally sharp). The non-physical is nothing to be ashamed of, but rather embraced. And this shift in mentality can help us not only reduce stress and anxiety in our everyday lives, but also has a knock-on effect on other things as well (including using your very own body, arguably, as a manifestation tool…but that is for another day).

You see, at the risk of proselytizing, we are all spiritual beings (of some degree) in a physical body. And believe it or not, your whole body doesn’t just encompass the physical you (i.e. skin, organs etc…) but also the non-physical you. People who have had out-of-body experiences, or near death experiences will testify to this. This non-physical vehicle (if you will) help them, ‘float’ around and do all sorts of stuff. But you don’t have to be a mental or spiritual guy to feel your non-physical body. You can do it using various techniques.

Your physical body has points which allows Qi or life energy, to flow in to, ‘feed’ your organs, and these non-physical contact points between your physical body and your non-physical body, are known as,  ‘The Chakras’.

Now, some of you will already have been put of this article by this point. Unfortunately, some people are so strict with their beliefs (rightly or wrongly) that any mention of the non-physical is automatically associated with the almighty upstairs (or your own particular version). Now, I don’t want to offend anyone, but if you are not open-minded enough to consider the following article, I’m afraid this article may not be for you. But if you can suspend your beliefs for just a few minutes, you’ll find information that can help you reduce stress in numerous ways.

Having said that for some of you, what I’m going to say here will probably not be the first time you’ve heard this. For some people, they will already know what the Chakras are, and are probably even using other techniques (as well as the ones in this article) to help balance them out (more on that later). If that is the case, please see this as a gentle reminder, and nothing more;-)

If you do, on the other hand, want to know more about your Chakras, than keep reading. Hopefully you’ll take away a lot than you think, and although the exercises may seam downright insultingly obvious, it’s amazing to think how many people don’t know or even do this. Of course, as always, don’t be fooled by the simplicity. Your Chakras are powerful, and have more of an influence than you give them credit for. While I’m doing more research on the correlation between the Chakras and the subconscious (even I have questions about this subject that need answering, as the subconscious also has a big control over your body and your conscious thoughts and actions) needless to say that taking your Chakras into consideration when it comes to any form of negative relief (stress, anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts) will greatly help in recovery and an automatic improvement in ones lifestyle. Try it and find out for yourself!

This is quite a long article (over 3300 words) and does talk primarily about your 7 main Chakras, what they do, and how you can balance them. If you do find that there are more tips you can add to this list, please feel free to let me know (I’m all for finding out more:-).

Now to begin with, you have over a 100 Chakras from places like your toes and your hands to above your head, but there are 7 main ones. Each one serves a big role in the development of your consciousness, as well as helping your emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual and physical needs. So your Chakras have a huge influence to you and your emotional well-being, stress levels, and your manifesting skills (if you are into anything like the law of attraction, but that is for another day;-).

Your Chakras are therefore responsible for your emotional well-being, as well as your general mood, how well you place yourself in society and how well you communicate to your loved ones and the public in general. Your Chakras are the, ‘jack of all trades’ so to speak. And don’t forget, your Chakras are the connection between your soul and your physical body.

There are so many great videos online on helping you open your Chakras, and whether you can tell if it is open or closed, but before I carry on, some quick terminology. When we say open or close down your Chakra, what we mean is opening or closing your vortex. Your Chakras are vortices swirling around like a funnel, and you can close one, open one up, and make one spin quicker or slower to stop any unbalances and therefore balance the Chakra which gives you the correct proportion of pure Qi energy flowing into your etheric body and therefore influencing your physical body. By contrast an unbalanced Chakra will give you too much or too little energy, which will negatively physically and emotionally influence you. And this will be reflected by the way, in your behavior.

Now your first Chakra is your Root Chakra, and is located at the bottom of your spine and is also the most physical one, and is the one which has the lowest vibration of energy and as a result the lowest wavelength. And that is because it is closer to the physical. Your root Chakra is really your connection to the physical world. Physicality is energy at it’s most slowest vibration.

Now if you were an energy healer, you would be able to see the colour red, as this Chakra emits a reddish hue. Now it does govern our physical energies, it governs our survival, securities, passions, our money, our job, really our vigour in life. When it is balanced, you do feel very secure, very stable, very grounded, you do tend to use very good common sense. When it is blocked, you are blocking the flow of life energy, you may ask very deep questions, for e.g., ‘Why am I here?’, you may feel disconnected towards life. And of course, your ability to manifest will be stuttered.

If it is over-active, it is the opposite. You will be very greedy, you’ll demand everything, you’re highly strung, almost aggressive, can be reckless and impulsive, even sexually manipulative. When it is under-active, you can be very tired, very lethargic, very weak, afraid of change, you lack confidence, fear of abandonment, all of these are psychological issues, and this is the thing about the Chakras, they will govern your psychology.

But you can open the Root Chakra, by visualizing a red flower opening and spinning, by dancing, you can stamp your feet for short periods of time, and you do feel more better as a result. You tend to feel more alive. Interestingly, when I did some research behind this, I discovered that the sense of smell is associated with the Root Chakra, so if you can smell very easily your Root Chakra may be very well balanced. Now how does it feel? Well your Root Chakra feels like a low hum down your spine, a bit tingly at times. You have to be really careful as this should be a good tingling sensation. If it is a bad tingling sensation, you could have a very serious medical condition. So with practice you should be able to differentiate between a good tingling sensation, and a bad tingling sensation. I’ve noticed that mine tingles in a nice way, certainly hearing some bass and listening to some types of music, as music often stimulated the Chakras.

The the next main Chakra above is near your sexual organs and is called the Sacral Chakra, and this is located near the sacrum and testes/ovaries that produce the various sexual hormones. Again, if you are an energy healer, or can see non-physical energy, the Sacral Chakra emits an orange colour.

This Chakra is involved in relationships, violence, addictions, basic emotional needs and pleasure. It does mentally govern creativity, governs joy and governs enthusiasm, so again, psychological influences there.

You know when it is out of balance or blocked, when you are no longer enjoying life, you are very angry or frustrated, your suppressing your emotions, and in some cases no sexual desire, your lacking creativity, have feelings of guilt or jealously. If you do tend to be unemotional, or very stiff, (and we have all met people who are unemotional and are very stiff, they have like a poker facer!) that is also another symptom that this Chakra could be under-active.

If it is over-active on the other hand, you can be very emotional most of the time, you can be emotionally attached to other people and can be very sexual as a result.

There are many ways to open and balance this Chakra. You can take walks by an ocean or a lake, you can go swimming, you can have relaxing, aromatic baths, you can of course, visualize the colour orange, or an orange flower opening and spinning. And it goes without saying (at the risk of sounding unprofessional or intimate) you can even make love to yourself, or your partner to balance this Chakra.

How does it feel? You know when you feel sexual energy in your body. It’s similar to lust, you can feel it around your body, but most notably around your sexual organs.

The next Chakra is your Solar Plexus Chakra, (or sometimes called your Naval Chakra, as it is located above your navel, or belly button). The colour this Chakra emits is yellow. You would need to work on this if you lack self esteem, if you lack will power (if you give up easily), if you experience aggression, anger, if you have difficulty expressing your feelings, if you have trouble getting things done, stuff that comes to productivity and completion of projects.

Feeling tired can be an indication of an underused, or blocked Solar Plexus Chakra. If you have too many negative thoughts, suffer from anxiety, that could also be a symptom of a blocked, out of balance Chakra. It’s all about asserting yourself in a group, and if your Chakra is under-active, you do tend to be indecisive, sometimes passive.

Of course, if it is over-active, the complete opposite will occur, and you will be domineering at times, sometimes aggressive (and we have all met people who seem to dominate the group).

To open and balance this Chakra, you can take a walk in the sun, take regular walks, wear yellow clothes, do things that spark your interests and passions, and another great way is being in the, ‘Now’. When you are in the, ‘Now’, you feel that rush of Qi energy rushing into your body via your Solar Plexus Chakra.

Now the Chakra above, is your Heart Chakra and is located outside of your Heart. This emits a greenish hue and is also deemed the, ‘gateway to the spiritual world’ hence why if you come from love, (a little tip, if you can feel unconditional love for around a few minutes, not only will it help you to reduce your stress, but you can also reduce any future fear-based scenario. Out-of-body explorers already understand this) you are really using the spiritual world, which of course creates the physical world. We are in a spiritual multi-verse.

When it is opened, you feel love, kindness, compassion, you are affectionate, you’re very friendly, you work in harmony, and you work at creating harmonious relationships.

If it is closed, or out of balance, you can be very distant and cold (something I was guilty off in years gone by). You do need to work on it of course, if you have problems with relationships, if you have problems keeping friends, if you feel lonely all the time, if you feel unloved, if you are unable to love yourself and others and you have difficulty letting people into your life. You can also catch a cold quite easily because your Heart Chakra does tend to work in close relationship with your immune and nervous system, hence the psychological and health influences.

You can open or balance it in several ways. You can let go of negative people, not always easy of course…so you can do the next best thing, and forgive them (which helps you to love unconditionally) and letting go of anger from unwanted past experiences (forgiveness should help you with that as well). Wearing green clothing can sometimes open and balance your Heart Chakra as well as surrounding yourself with things you enjoy as well as imagining hugging someone you love and admire, and feeling that love spread across your body.

When you have opened the Heart Chakra or balanced it, you feel the feeling of love emanate from the vortex, and it will soon spread across your body. Feelings of fear soon dissipates, as fear cannot exist when you feel, ‘unconditional love’.

The next Chakra is the Throat Chakra, and is all about self-expression, and emits the colour light blue. It is located at the throat.

You know when you need to work on it, when you find it hard to express your self freely and find it hard to communicate, you can sometimes find yourself telling white lies most of the time; you find it difficult to listen to other people, your lacking in self esteem and have speech problems. You know when it is under-active when you don’t speak much, you are very introverted, perhaps shy, even not speaking your personal truth.

Opening or balancing your Throat Chakra can be achieved by singing out load very loudly, by speaking louder than usual, and by saying something as simple as, ‘Hi’. Not many people realize this… just saying, ‘Hi’ to people on the street is a great way of doing this. Reading poetry out loud is another great way of doing it, as well as standing firm in your opinions, in a non-argumentative way. If the opinion is going to create an argument, the best thing to do is to stop the opinion.

When it is open, you don’t have any problems in communicating, and may consider yourself to be a bit of an artist.

The next one is one that most people are curious with. It is often talked about, and one that has the most attention, and that is your 3rd Eye Chakra, located between your eyebrows, but slightly above.

It is all about insight and visualizing. When it is opened, you have very good intuition, but you may also tend to fantasize a lot.

You need to work on it if you are not very good at thinking for yourself, if you find yourself relying on other people, like your parents, and your friends; you may be rigid in your thinking and rely on your beliefs too much, which may lead to confusion. If you suffer from panic and anxiety attacks and you cannot think clearly or if you have trouble concentrating, and are having problems finding a purpose in life, this could also be an indication. Another indication is that you lack goals for example, if you lack faith or you cannot find your own inner voice.

One thing I read, is that it could be blocked or very imbalanced if you have learning disabilities or if you have hearing problems, so that’s worth bearing in mind (no pun intended;-).

If it is over-active, you tend to live in fantasy land too much, and in some cases may even hallucinate. If you are not careful, you do tend to lose focus very easily. The 3rd Eye Chakra is the gateway to intuition and higher perception and people who have a strong vibration with this Chakra are people we would call psychics. We are all psychics, and we all have that ability, but most of us have to work on it as you would do like a muscle.

It can be opened/ balanced by being in the, ‘Now’, which helps reduce mental chatter, or meditating with Yoga. Theta and Delta, brainwave states between 0.5hz to 7 Hz (the measurement of the electrical activity of your brain, commonly before you go to sleep and when you wake up) are also a good way of opening up this Chakra. Now unless you are a trained meditation expert, you would need CD’s to help you achieve Theta or Delta. A package I personally recommend is the ARVARI course, which not only helps you get to Delta (which lowers your mental noise), but also helps you reduce your stress and allows you to manifest a lot easily, as you are very close to your soul.

The feeling of an active 3rd Eye Chakra is the equivalent of someone gently tapping your forehead. It is like a tiny, throbbing sensation, and in some peoples cases, can cause small headaches if it is being opened, or balanced for the first time.

The final Chakra is one that is above your head, and is called your Crown Chakra, which emits a whitish hue and is your connection to source, higher consciousness, or essentially your soul.

Remember what I said about the root one being the lowest vibration? Well your Crown Chakra is your highest vibration because it is the vibration closest to your soul/higher self.

When it is blocked, unbalanced, you are not aware of your spirituality, you have very rigid thinking, you may even suffer from depression or a mental disorder, and you may have a weak immune system or you suffer from chronic fatigue.

On the other side, if you intellectualize a lot, obsessed with spirituality, or neglect your basic bodily needs, it may be over active and you may need to work on it.

When it is balanced, you do connect to your inner being, and you feel a oneness with divine source; you feel a sense of bliss, with an understanding of your life’s purpose. You become more aware of the beauty around you, with nature, and you feel its natural energy. You are happier because you are connected to the, ‘all that is’, and as a result, you don’t feel lonely. This means you are unprejudiced, and are aware of yourself and this world. You become very non-judgmental, and exhibit unconditional love.

To open this Chakra or balance it, you do need to meditate daily, it’s as simple as that! Take time to be still, being in the, ‘moment of now’ really helps. Try and be thankful and grateful for everything you are and have. By being thankful, you uplift your soul. This connects you more to the spiritual aspect of yourself very quickly. Again, being in Delta also helps in this case.

So, this is just a quick run-down of the Chakras, as they are pretty essential, not just to manifesting your reality, but also to your emotional, psychological and physical well-being. You can also help balance your Chakras when you have an out-of-body experience, by using the healing power of love to flow though your consciousness and direct it to one of your Chakras, and as a result, begin to self-heal in that way.

Combining your Chakras with other mental and emotional tools (like EFT, please see my article about it) will help you reduce your stress or depression, give your life purpose back to you, and allows you to not only recover from your illness, but lead a more healthier and happier lifestyle. Try it for 30 days and see what happens. You should be pleasantly surprised;-)